@Timjer #83177 and Smilla and whoever else posted them things:
So yeah, you can make those things more or less offensive depending on the bullet points and all that but in the end it is objectifying and putting forth perhaps unwelcome fantasies that may hurt other people’s self image even if very much unintentionally. Obviously everyone not currently in a stable and loving relationship has their own ideal, one way or another, male, female or otherwise we all have them in those times(and from those of us currently in such a relationship, at least from my own point I’ll say the ideal is very quickly replaced on the pedestal by the actual person you hug at night).
Timjer:
Think your expansion of the list onto a physical appearance territory was the painful factor, so to speak. Hell, I wasn’t even involved in this dispute before now and reading the pearly, perfect teeth line made me feel shitty for a moment. Obviously I realize it was not your intent in any way or form but it could cause distress to others even if unintentional.
Smilla:
With you very much on the entire list posting stuff, even when made in good faith and for innocent fun, these things can still be very much triggering to people and can cause unintended pain just by being out for everyone to see(which makes the intentional ones designed to exclude and hurt THAT much worse and on that note specially, I do believe you went a bit too harsh on Timjer initially, fair his response wasn’t up to any standards either with the “chill the fuck out”. your point was right, I’m just disagreeing with the accusatory tone of it.
All in all:
Think these lists do more harm than good even as a purely “fun” excercise, they can be seriously traumatizing or just merely uncomfortable but either way someone’s gonna get hurt one way or another, I’m not talking as a mod here(explicitly so) but I don’t think posting them is a good idea.