A Christian wife is commanded by God to submit to her husband as unto the Lord Jesus Christ, not only if he returns the gesture. Ephesians 5:22, Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition; but rather, a 100/100 commitment. You're supposed to give 100% diligence and effort, even if your spouse only returns 20% (or nothing). This is God's way! This is the holy way! This is second-mile Christianity, which is almost unheard of nowadays.