@Darkevilme
Actually, I have yet to find a MRA group that actually helps men. The only ones I've found are content to blame feminists for everything and not do any foot work towards the goals they claim to want.
Kind of like how Gamergate claimed that it was a movement about journalistic integrity and then admitted it gives a pass to male LPRs that trade favorable reviews for early access to big name games.
Berge is actually the typical active MRA. The inactive ones tend to be delusional young men who were brought into the movement through made up outrages like gamergate. They spout MRA talking points without knowing those have been debunked years ago.
Like the point about father's right in the family courts.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115.html
Below are a few stats from a Pew Research Center analysis of the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) released in June of 2011.
Married Fathers:
According to the report, a married father spends on average 6.5 hours a week taking part in primary child care activities with his children. The married mother spends on average 12.9 hours. Since two-income households are now the norm, not the exception, the above information indicates that not only are mothers working, but they are also doing twice as much child care as fathers.
It only makes sense that mothers who have a closer bond due to the time spent caring for a child be the one more likely to retain primary custody after a divorce.
So mothers are already spending double the amount of time caring for the children in the home while working the same amount as fathers.
According to DivorcePeers.com, the majority of child custody cases are not decided by the courts.
In 51 percent of custody cases, both parents agreed on their own that mom become the custodial parent.
In 29 percent of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement.
In 11 percent of custody cases, the decision for mom to have custody was made during mediation.
In 5 percent of custody cases, the issue was resolved after a custody evaluation.
Only 4 percent of custody cases went to trial and of that 4 percent, only 1.5 percent completed custody litigation.
In other words, 91 percent of child custody after divorce is decided with no interference from the family court system. How can there be a bias toward mothers when fewer than 4 percent of custody decisions are made by the Family Court?
What do these statistics tell us?
1. Fathers are less involved in their children’s care during the marriage.
2. Fathers are less involved in their children’s lives after divorce.
3. Mothers gain custody because the vast majority of fathers choose to give them custody.
4. There is no Family Court bias in favor of mothers because very few fathers seek custody during divorce.
Anecdotally; my former landlord had full custody of both of his daughters because he asked. That's all he had to do. Ask.
I have a friend who went through the court system regarding her daughter. The father was almost given full custody until she was able to prove he really was a drug addled loser. The court was favoring him because he was a man. The female judge in their case even went as far as saying that father's are more qualified to have sole custody than mothers. My friend was asking for shared custody, not sole. Her ex was the one who wanted sole to hold their daughter over my friend's head.
I have a relative that has 3 children by 2 different women. Both women try to get him involved with his children. He refuses unless they give him full custody.
A male friend of mine was just awarded sole custody of his daughter. He asked for it, provided evidence that the mother was unstable, and was given custody.
