[This book was written for Jewish parents who want to stop their children from marrying outside the faith.]

Despite the unpleasantness of the situation, strongly emphasize your unwavering love for your child and your concern for his or her ultimate happiness. Don't expect the child to know it. State it explicitly. Your tone of voice must be as loving and sincere as your words.

It is important to make the distinction that you do not reject your child. You reject only your child's actions. Make clear the consequences the child will precipitate by going through with his or her plans to intermarry.

Parents have been successful in preventing an intermarriage by establishing in advance and adhering to the following consequences:
1. They will neither support nor attend the wedding or reception.
2. They will urge their friends and relatives not to attend.
3. The couple, alone or together, will not be invited or welcomed in their home, nor will the parents visit the couple.
4. The only path to a reconciliation is the dissolution of the relationship with the non-Jewish partner.