The reason why God commands men and women to love in different ways is because a man by nature has physical affection toward a woman, but women do not toward men. That is, men are aroused by sight, but not women. A woman has to make herself be affectionate toward her husband even when she doesn't feel it. The feelings follow afterward.

Likewise, women naturally love their husbands, not for who he is, but for who she is; but men by nature love a wife for who she is. So a man has to force himself to love his own wife as God commands him to, loving her based upon the principles of God's Word and God's love.

A wise wife will be affectionate toward her husband. One of the major causes of divorce is romance problems, because the wife isn't interested in physical relations, won't work at it and doesn't care. It is sad to think that prostitute will give her all sexually, holding nothing back for a complete stranger who pays her; whereas a man's wife denies him the same affection when he faithfully goes to work day-by-day to provide a roof over her head, food on her table and shoes on her feet, et cetera. A husband needs and deserves an affectionate wife!