Marriage isn't about being with someone you love. It's about building a family. Because crazy old hetrosexuals get married after they can't have children is the exception, not the rule.
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Marriage isn't about being with someone you love. It's about building a family.
So? Gays can build families, too.
Crazy old people who get married because they want companionship.... What's up with that?
Isn't wife and husband a family in itself, yeah? What else would they be?
To be fair, love-marriage is a recent and mostly western phenomenon. Cross-historically and -culturally, there have been a wide variety of non-love reasons that have driven marriage, and love usually wasn't one of them.
Marriage isn't about being with someone you love. It's about building a family. Because love has nothing to do with family. A normal family is seething with hate. Parents beat their children, and the children can't wait to leave and do every little thing their parents beat them for. At least that's the way it is in fundie families.
I can build a family by hiring one or more surrogate mothers to bear children. Using that method I can avoid the inconvenience and expense of a wedding and of supporting a wife. Not getting married would also give me a leg up on avoiding sin brought on by lusting after my wife.
By the way, I've been married nearly 12 years now and my wife and I have not had any children. Maybe we should meet up somewhere close to a dark alley and you can explain to me how "wrong" my marriage is. I'll take the opportunity to "explain" to you how much I don't give a s*** about your opinion of my marriage. You should probably bring a pistol to make sure you at least have a chance of escaping with your life, if not with your dignity.
This comment is for my parents, who married in their 20s and who, despite their infertility, raised two children to be tolerant, open-minded, loving human beings. They were able to do this because they wanted to do a fucked-up ungodly thing like be with people they loved.
Fuck you, "whatup." Sideways, repeatedly, and right in the ear.
@Aethernaut: Because GOD=love; nothing else counts apparently.
@anonymous_troy: don't be silly, everyone wants baaaaaaaabieeeeeeeees!!!
*barf*
Why don't fundies just get themselves spayed and castrated. The women could even have their vaginas sealed as in female circumcision. /sarcasm
Has it never occurred that Gawd gave men and women these parts to be used. Just like the other parts of the body. I mean, who wants their eyes, ears, arms, legs or heads removed????
There are plenty of young people who get married with no intention and/or ability to bear children, and there are plenty of couples who live together like married couples with children, but are not actually married! Marriage is simply a partnership, nothing more. If you claim otherwise, I hope you go around challenging the marriages of infertile women or the marriages of males with a vasectomy.
I am neither crazy or that old, but I got married (again). Hubby knew from the outset No Kids in this marriage.
I guess it depends on what your definition of "family" us.
/Marriage isn't about being with someone you love./
Curious, I thought that was what marriage was supposed to be all about. Ideally, anyway. After all, if I do get married one day, I'm making darn sure that it'll be to someone that I love and respect very much and who loves and respects me equally.
/It's about building a family./
Tell that to the many couples out there who don't have children because A) they can't or B) they don't want to.
/Because crazy old hetrosexuals get married after they can't have children is the exception, not the rule./
Oh, yes, those crazy old geezers, getting married so late. What a lunatic my great-uncle was, to remarry a woman past childbearing age. Never mind that he already had daughters from his first marriage, oh, no, he needed more babies! More babies! He needed to build another floor for his family. What crazy people my great-uncle and his wife are! What lunatics!
You're an idiot.
Marriage isn't about being with someone you love. It's about building a family.
Because crazy old hetrosexuals get married after they can't have children is the exception, not the rule.
If you can't marry for love or companionship why the hell marry at all? Why not just set up breeding colonies in the church basement where the women can take care of the kids and the men can just support the church?
Marching proudly into the 15th century!
Two persons who love each other IS a family, you dolt.
"after they can't have children"? Does the ability to procreate return after a few years, or what?
And again, the billion dollars question, why are sterile people allowed to marry?. And if a person becomes sterile or menopause after marriage, should they divorce their partner?
I got married in my mid 20's. I cannot have children. My wife understood and accepted this. And yet, our marriage is recognized as legal in every state in the union.
Your argument is invalid. Furthermore, it is stupid.
But the marriage ceremony says 'love, honor and cherish,' not 'spit out some kids.'
And it also says 'until death do we part,' not 'and it's over once the kids leave home.'
Admittedly, not everyone uses those wedding vows, so it's not irrefutable proof, but it's a damn sight better than anything you offer...
Confused?
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