I'm happily married to an unbeliever, who totally accepts the role my belief has in our marriage and my parenting. He believes in the 'morality' behind parenting. What my question is, being conservative in my belief that a wife is submissive to a husband, what should I do when his parenting decisions conflict with what I believe? Specifically, sex ed teaching in 8th grade health class. I really don't believe God intended for a secular agency to teach sexual beliefs and mores, but my husband really thinks my son should sit through the class. If my husband was a believer, I would submit, even while I disagreed, knowing that it rested between him and God the results. Should I have the same attitude with him as a non-believer and talk to my son afterwards (or maybe ask the youth pastor)?
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Amanda wrote:
Why, she will teach him of course! She will tell her son that sex is a perverted and evil act that should only be done for the purpose of reproduction. It must be conducted in the missionary position, with eyes closed, and as little movement or noise as possible.
I really don't believe God intended for a secular agency to teach sexual beliefs
Sexuality isn´t something about beliefs.
First of all, I really feel sorry for you. I'm sorry you were raised to think women are inferior. That's really sad.
Second, sex education is important. You are really putting your child in danger by not allowing him to learn. He won't learn anything about protection or diseases, and you will be to blame.
And sex isn't a belief. It's nature.
Lady, at best, your husband tolerates your inane beliefs. He doesn't actually understand you or them at all. All he likes is your submissive nature. You start ditching that, you'll see his true feelings come out in a flood.
You need to let your husband take the lead, as he is the one adult in the family with intelligence. How could you question his abilities by coming to some fucked-up xtian forum full of other brain-dead dipshits, looking for their horrible, ill-sighted advice?
I ache for your son and husband. They deserve better than the likes of you.
You should listen to your husband. He obviously has more sense than you.
Why are you afraid of your son learning about sexuality and sexual health? More to the point, do you really think you can prevent him learning about these things by withdrawing him from class? He'll just get his information from his peers / books / the Internet instead. You can't keep him ignorant forever, lady.
Not really fundie. Just the usual problem you run into when you have two people with two different belief systems.
Though seriously, "sexual beliefs"? No such thing, honey.
And if you're really serious about the submission to one's husband thing, that street goes in both directions. You're the one who pledged to love and honor the guy in good times and bad - you can't make exceptions based on religion. If you try to work around him, that's going to cause a lot of trouble in your marriage.
Yeah, that whole submission thing, well, it doesn't really have an escape clause. It is not like your biblical world view requiring your submission to your husband 'in all things' has a safeword or anything, so I guess that you are just sh*t out of luck, and the kid gets to go to Sex Ed.
I've seen sadomasochistic relationships which are more stable, grounded and realistic than this insanity.
--Marsten
I take exception to the idea that BDSM relationships are somehow more likely to be unstable.
Holy crap, she's so spineless she doesn't even have a proper username. She identifies herself through her children--"oh me? I'm nobody, except that I popped out two kids!" I don't mean to be unfair to parents, but, y'know, you need an identity of your own too.
Have a family discussion about it. Be open minded and thoughtfull when you do. Be willing to come to a compromise.
I have been through sex education classes, and I have yet to actually have sex. Just because these classes promote safe sex does not mean that they encourage people to go hump random people (as you fundies seem to think).
Now,looky here,woman!If I found out you were talking to the youth pastor about my boys junk and whatnot,I believe I would be justified in the delivering of an unholy smackdown,first upon your Jezabel ass,then upon the non christian youth pastor's ungodly interference of business that is my,and only my domain!After all,your son,will one day be a man,and as such ,you would be subject to his authority,as well as mine!.......................bitch...............
ERROR. DOES NOT COMPUTE.
/Christbot
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