(in response to a poster who asked if it's OK for his wife to have male friends)
I am also a hardliner on this. When people get married, they do so because they want to spend their life together as husband and wife, not just buds who live together and want to hang out with other opposite-sex "people of interest" which defeats the whole purpose of being married and eventually splits the two apart. I would tell you what I think really about it, but I won't because I don't wan't to discourage you unnecessarily, just in case.
BUT, if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout, I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words. I'll just leave it at that.
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"if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout "
That is entirely NOT what he asked, diptard, but thanks for playing.
"I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words. I'll just leave it at that. "
So, basically, you'd be a "real" man and beat her. Good to know.
i have plenty of male friends, and if any boyfriend/husband of mine didn't like it, well tough, Besides, the shittier they get, the more likely it is that i WILL cheat on them!
Clearly you do not trust your wife. You do not love someone if you do not trust them to have friends. Mature adults can discuss their friends and interests without descending into arguments over who gets to do what. You, on the other hand, do not treat your wife like an adult human, you watch her like she's an erring child. You're controlling and misogynistic and you're damn lucky she hasn't dumped your ass for someone who treats her better. But of course, if she ever does do that, you'll blame her and not yourself. Loosen up or lose her, dude.
My husband, as well as being a vicar, is qualified in massage. In both occupations he is frequently alone with a member of the opposite sex. He has never given me any cause for concern. Likewise where I work, as a school librarian, I am in contact with colleagues of the opposite sex. We have been married for 21 years, but our relationship would never have survived without trust - a trust that is clearly lacking in antitox's life.
@Joe-Bob
Nope.
However, none of which I'd be willing to sleep with while I'm involved with someone else.
Oh, noes!
Not t3h male friends!
Your wife can blow me off if she likes. I'll even make a cup of tea for her afterwards.
Is she allowed to have gay male friends? Or is that not cool incase they turn her into a lesbian with their gay germs?
"I don't wan't to discourage you unnecessarily, just in case"
i.e., I don't want to look like a total mysoginist asshole who's insecure about his tiny prick.
Uh, spending your life together doesn't mean every single waking moment to the exclusion of all other human contact. I'm pretty fond of lasagna, but I'd quickly get sick of it if a lasagna pan was staring at me breakfast, lunch and dinner.
I think you're just worried that your (imaginary) wife might discover that not all men are obsessively-controlling dickheads with no personality or anything interesting to say.
I have several female friends who I am quite happy to spend time alone with. My wife is fine with that BECAUSE SHE TRUSTS ME.
I've managed never to have sex with any of them, because I'M NOT THE SORT OF PERSON WHO CHEATS ON MY WIFE.
You know what? I pity you, partly for not being able to trust your wife (why the hell did you marry her?) and partly because you think you are so weak that you'll shag any woman you happen to end up alone with for more than 2 minutes.
The rest of the RR board agrees, more or less. All that really shows is that these pathetically insecure 'adults' are not really capable of friendship, and therefore they never experience it, that's why they literally can't conceive of a friendship that is not ultimately aiming for sex. (Or a relationship that is not about one person controlling another, but that's another topic.)
Reminds me of a Harry Enfield character.
"BUT, if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout, I'd say OI! WIFE! NO!!!!!!"
You keep acting like this and she WILL cheat on you, if only to escape from your paranoid, controlling clutches. Platonic relationships do exist. Spouses having separate friends do exist. It's pathetic that you can't trust her with members of the opposite gender. Do you have any female friends? If so, you're a hypocrite. If not, it's because you probably have no social skills whatsoever. Get a grip.
"Tell the truth and the truth will sret you free." It has nothing to do with male friends having sex with your wife, it has to do with male friends outside your little "death cult" convincing your wife that you and your fellow cultist are fruitloops and she needs to get away from you before you drive her crazy. That's the truth.
BUT, if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout, I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words.
I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words.
I'll just leave it at that.
There seems to be a discontinuity.
That's your problem, and if there is a wife in your life, I feel terribly sorry for her.
My husband sent me off for a weekend with my best friend - who is a man - to see three Shakespearean plays at an outdoor amphitheater. He was much happier for me to do that with someone else than with him, because he has no interest in Shakespeare and he particularly has no interest in sitting in an outdoor theater at night, in the summer, getting eaten alive by mosquitoes.
So, my male best friend and I had a good weekend with good theater and a lot of bug spray while my husband had a good weekend doing what he enjoys. Everyone wins.
Funny how that happens with trusting, secure individuals, ain't it.
Yeah fundie husband was like this.
Now I'm married to a REAL man, who isn't insecure because I go for an after work drink with the boys. In fact I met his first girlfriend last summer at his highschool reunion. We had a few beers, a few laughs, found out a few of his shameful secrets. It was fun.
oh puhleeeez....we've been best friends with a couple for many years. Mike(other couple) and I have taken the kids to karate tournaments many times without our spouses. We've met at the movies to see sci-fi(one time we took the kids to see "Alien" and many parents were horrified). Mike and I have spent many hours training in TaeKwanDo. He is my mentor. Not once has there EVER been anything other than friendship. His wife(my sister-friend) never blinks an eye and my husband has never expressed anything negative.
antitox, you're a grasping, tight fisted, blustering, blowhard control freak.
Okay, in the BDSM community this kind of behavior is considered one of the prime signs of an abusive partner - if they want you isolated socially, run. So this goes beyond your normal bondage and discipline (with all the safeguards the BDSM community teaches to avoid abuse) and into straight into Abuse-Land.
So, you're a horribly insecure misogynist who thinks of women as pets instead of people, and you apparently have deep-seated trust and control issues. The thinly-veiled hint of authoritarian violence makes me think you're using machismo as a compensation tactic.
Congratulations, antitox! You're Freud's wet dream.
Who said anything about blowing you off, fuckwit? The question was could his wife have male friends?
I'll bet you're one of the fatarsed control freaks who hangs around with his friends at strip clubs while your wife has to hang around at home, right?
So, for you feelings are black and white?. In that case, no bowling, no football buddies, NOTHING. Just in case of homosexuality, you know.
And if she still meets him after you've made your position perfectly clear, then she has made HER position perfectly clear. What if he is a friend, and it is only your bossy reaction that makes her think of infidelity?
BUT, if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout, I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words
2008, eh? A decade later, you'd better have voted for Hillary Clinton if you know what's good for you: certainly the attitude of you fundie Christains - especially morals-wise - a year or so ago. Why?:
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I'll just leave it at that.
As late last year proved - via Doug 'Piranha' Jones now in the Senate - so many in Alabama ensured that the reddest of Red states left that particular colour.
Those previously like you - Conservatives - blowing you off: as you blow your orange Nixon, will make themselves perfectly clear later this year. No 'Ifs' of 'BUTs' about it.
What happened around that time late last year proved that nothing's impossible.
“I am also a hardliner on this. When people get married, they do so because they want to spend their life together as husband and wife, not just buds who live together and want to hang out with other opposite-sex "people of interest" which defeats the whole purpose of being married and eventually splits the two apart.”
“BUT, if my wife ever blew me off to meet with another man to hangout,”
“I think I'd make myself perfectly clear and there wouldn't be ANY mincing of words. I'll just leave it at that.”
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