[Could you be friends with an atheist?]
Can light have fellowship with darkness?.... I say no, I would find it hard to be friends with an atheist, I actually have one atheist in my family (not close kin though), when I found out they were an atheist, I feel bad about saying this but I lost alot of respect for that person... The person has never been outspoken about that, but she actually got mad at someone who lost a family member in an accident after they were saying things like they would see them again, she got mad and actually physically attacked her, telling her that there is no God, now I can't respect anyone like that family or not... Atheist and those given over to absolute mockery and rebellion toward God, there is no reason to put yourself in the position to be around that kind of garbage.... Also since your born again, I would suspect its hard to be around that stuff, I can't even stand to be around people who drink, cuss, and blaspheme with every breath (which describes almost all my former friends), notice I call them former friends... I still hope and pray for them but I will not hang around them anymore, because it grieves me too much.
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I'm friends with quite a few atheists and it has affected my faith this much: zero.
I can't even stand to be around people who drink, cuss, and blaspheme with every breath (which describes almost all my former friends), notice I call them former friends... I still hope and pray for them but I will not hang around them anymore, because it grieves me too much.
Um, you are aware that Jesus drank, right? Can you not stand to be around him? Furthermore, Jesus hung out with the "sinners" of his day a lot. When will you RRers ever start trying to follow his example? You're just like the Pharisees image
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"Mmmmyes, I don't associate with atheists because I'm sooooooooo much better than them. I AM born-again after all. I don't waste my time with riffraff that were born only once".
Yeah, that's really what you sound like, you self-righteous prick. You can keep your friendship and I'm sure nobody wants to be friends with someone who constantly looks down on them anyway. The huge irony here being that you represent EXACTLY what Jesus hated: hypocrites who think they're better than everyone else and make outcasts of people. You're just like the freaking pharisees and the funny thing is your self-righteous sense of superiority makes you miss this glaring contradiction between the teacher you claim to follow and your actual actions.
EDIT: I see Michael the Christian beat me too it.
Why do I think the "she got mad and actually physically attacked..." part was badly misrepresented?
My guess is, if that story is true, it is way more complicated than that.
Yes and yes. I, an agnostic atheist, have a best friend who's a Muslim. I'm light-skinned and she's dark-skinned. None of those two things matter to our friendship.
"they were an atheist"? I have a bigger problem being friends with a willful illiterate, than with a Muslim, definitely.
Speaking as an atheist, I'd find it hard to be friends with someone like Glory in print, too... (Or for that matter, most of the people on RR...)
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i have a quote that i use for occasions like this:
"The closer we draw to the Light, the greater our Shadow becomes"
"but she actually got mad at someone who lost a family member in an accident after they were saying things like they would see them again, she got mad and actually physically attacked her, telling her that there is no God"
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah, I'm definitely calling bullshit on that one!
EDIT: That comment was by TGRwulf. Damnit, I wish you could edit that name field too.
Well, suddenly, you'll find yourself with zero friends.
I personally am family with Christians, Jews, and Wiccans, as well as friends with all of the former in addition to Hindus, Muslims, Shintoists, Buddhists, and Gnostic Apathists (those that know they don't give a shit).
So what's your problem?
And yet we are supposed to respect you when you completely FLOOD us atheists with your god talk when one of ours have died? And you have no shame but to stand over the corpse of that dead relative to use as a soap box to push your imaginary friend worship? It DISGUSTS me the depth that the religious will go to spread that magical thinking and garbage talk.
If my newborn baby had just died, I do not want to hear "she's in a better place" like you fucked in the brain fundies say. She is NOT in a better place.... unless you think being DEAD is a better place for a baby than being alive in her mothers loving arms.
Think about it.
(sorry, just recently lost a neice, and it seems my younger brother is just starting to realize that atheism actually makes sense, as he blew up on a few of my fundy family members for saying things like that...I would rather have my neice back..thats a hard way to learn)
Friend of mine was brought up hearing from preachers that atheism was so obviously wrong and stupid that only fools could possibly believe there is no god. Then she discovered the world outside church, and a couple of years later it suddenly hit her: "Wait a minute - if atheism is so stupid, then how come all of the smartest people I've met are atheists?" She, being very smart too, is now well along that road herself.
You know, Glory in print, out of my best friends, one of them is Muslim, another Methodist, another Catholic, and another, just your general nondenominational Christian. We get along just fine, and you know why? They don't whack me upside the head with their religious beliefs, and I don't rant on and on about my unbelief.
"Can light have fellowship with darkness?.... "
Can sanity have fellowship with raving looyness? I say no, you could never be friends with a normal person.
If a close friend or family member of mine died, and people came at me with that "he's in a better place now," or "God couldn't wait for them to be with Him" I might throw a punch. As it is, I can't stand to hear people talk about how happy their murdered kid is with Jesus. (Remembering Jon Benet's momma here.)
> Can light have fellowship with darkness?.... I say no,
I've been friends with people who have vastly different opinions than I do. Why? We know we disagree with those points, and we won't start arguing about them. That would only lead to both of us getting mad. Instead, we work on things we can both agree on.
> Also since your born again, I would suspect its hard to be around that stuff, I can't even stand to be around people who drink, cuss, and blaspheme with every breath (which describes almost all my former friends), notice I call them former friends...
And I'm using Linux, yet I don't think my friends who still use Windows are automatically idiots, nor do I think the friends who switched to OS X are bloody traitorous heretics. We just get along, see?
I thought "friendship" was a concept that was supposed to unite people over small differences like difference in opinions. Or change of opinions. If you have to drop friends because of your convictions, either they weren't good friends to begin with or your convictions demand unreasonable things from you. If the only thing that causes you to drop friends is that you suddenly disapprove of things that you previously had no problem with , perhaps it's the latter.
Absolute mockery and rebellion towards God? Yes indeed, and there's not a thing that God, nor you, can do about it. That's how impotent both you and He are. God has become too used to His imprisonment within your skull to deal effectively with the outside world let alone deal effectively internally with you. However, I must admit that both you and God are fairly amusing concepts.
By the way, I offer the above as a gift of persecution for you, I don't really believe in God wherever He is imagined to reside, as, obviously, I'm an atheist. But I hope that I've gone some way towards helping you to fulfill this weeks quota of persecution. Let me know if you need more. I'm always ready to help out with the persecution. In return, I'm expecting a thrilling display of aerobatics.
Yeah, and I'm sure your relative has lost a lot of respect for you, too, or she will when she becomes aware of your unjustified prejudice towards her. Hopefully she and many others would never bother to associate with a bigoted piece of shit like you. No one wants to be friends with some prick who looks down their nose at everyone who doesn't think exactly as they do.
I honestly hope you take a good long look at yourself and get off your pedestal before you run out of friends and find yourself alone, with nothing but your overinflated ego to comfort you.
"I say no, I would find it hard to be friends with an atheist"
"I will not hang around them anymore, because it grieves me too much."
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most atheists and your former friends aren't going to lose any sleep over you witholding your friendship.
Well let's see. I guess this makes me "darkeness" but here goes... Slept with an adventist woman for months out of wedlock. Devout, beleives in the Church, convinced I am going to hell, yet she did. And now I am hooking up regularly with some 24 y/o fundie christian guy. Fun sex. NSA. Guy on guy fun. "Lightness" and "darkness" sure seem to like fellowship when it comes to getting each other off. I'll tell ya.
"Can light have fellowship with darkness?"
Gray is the best color ever. Seriously.
Also, wtf do you think shade is? It's not strictly dark, but it's not full-on direct sun, either, now is it?
Also, this analogy is completely non-analogous.
@TGRwulf
Re: Unbeliever attacking a family member. While I think it may be grossly overstated, I can see someone seeing the vacant "It's okay...we'll see him in heaven" to be grating on someone who has lost soeone they love too...particularly if, and given the average RR mentality, it would not shock me if this was the case, they took the death of said loved one, and turned into "hey, let's convert the unbeliever" by telling her that unless she repents and finds Jesus, she'll be consigned to hell, and never see the person again. Ergo, lashing out.
Granted, I'm interpreting and reading a lot in, but there's a part of me that doubts I'm that far off base.
In Eastern philosophy, the light and the dark must be in balance and harmony. Too much of either or having both oppose each other is no way to live.
Or if you prefer the Four Humors...
All four must be more or less equal.
I guess that explains why this freak spends her time with an on-line death cult rather than interacting with real, live, people. Frankly, I doubt that the rest of the world is missing much.
BTW, assuming the whole "attack" ever happened, I would guess that the alleged atheist got pissed when she was told that her dead relative was taken by God to serve some higher purpose.
Please tell me, when you started your rebellion towards the easter bunny.
Btw: Breathing can be blasphemic? Huh?
Well, out of my two best friends, one is an atheist, and the other is a Good Little Christian girl. So, there's that.
Also: "drink, cuss, and blaspheme with their every breath?" Your former friends had talent. Every breath? How'd they drink every breath, anyway? I try to drink and breathe, and it just gets embarrassing.
Half my friends on Facebook are Christians, some of them ultra-conservative. My family runs the gamut of religious beliefs. We're all still friends because of mutual respect, unconditional love, other mutual interests, and happy memories of life before Rush Limbaugh started spewing his verbal diarrhea.
Way to cut people out of your life because they don't believe in some stupid imaginary shit. That's healthy.
Religion is a man made method of controlling gullible dipshits and conning them out of their money. There is no heaven and there is no hell. Drinking, swearing, fucking and generally having fun will not damn you for eternity. Grow up and live a little instead of living in fear.
"Atheist and those given over to absolute mockery and rebellion toward God, there is no reason to put yourself in the position to be around that kind of garbage ..."
That's not the half of it. I also don't believe in Spiderman, so every day I'm out mocking and rebelling against him. Oh wait. I don't believe in him. And because I don't believe in him it would be fucking stupid to fucking mock him. And I have actually seen Spiderman, can't say the same for your invisible sky daddy.
P.S. Learn to grammar and spell, you moronic fucking god-tard.
Atheist and those given over to absolute mockery and rebellion toward God
I suspect that because religion is the focus of a fundy's life, they believe rebelling against their god is the focus of an atheist's life. And since they have no concept of how normal people think (atheist or not), any denials just make them nod smugly and say, "I know what you REALLY believe."
Can light have fellowship with darkness?
No. Because Darkness is not a thing in itself. It is simply the absence of Light. This is like asking “Can I get a movie ticket for myself and my imaginary friend George?” at the box office. Your imaginary friend is not a person, but the absence of a person you have chosen to name.
Assuming your anecdote is true, while I don't excuse the atheist for physically attacking her, she shouldn't have said that stuff. It's just annoying, especially to someone who's grieving. If a close family member of yours died I certainly wouldn't tell you that they'd be worm food and that there's probably no afterlife, I'd try to comfort you. You're a twat.
Telling someone there is no god does not constitute a physical attack. Punching someone constitutes a physical attack. I don't believe your story.
I like how you're so incredibly loving that you instantly lose a whole lot of respect for a friend or family member just because they aren't of your religion. I've gradually grown apart from a few friends due to behaviors of theirs that I objected to, but most of those were things like shoplifting or illegal drug use or other things I didn't want to get involved in for legal reasons.
"she got mad and actually physically attacked her, telling her that there is no God"
Mhmm, embellishing a bit?
Raptards need to embellish to make their posts worthy of a back pat on rr it seems
My first college roommate was a fundie Christian. I got around it by talking about things like Discworld books or language classes instead of anything religious or political.
Actually got along better with her than with either of the roommates I had in the next two years, since one was never around and one was around just enough to be snotty and demanding but not enough for us to actually talk about anything but the apparently unsatisfactory state of the room.
If someone you loved died, and some idiot started blathering in your face about they aren't really dead; they're better off in heaven, etc. Its not that hard to imagine shouting at that person, 'Shut up with that nonsense. there is no god!' and even slapping them. Its not hard to imagine even someone who is not an atheist doing that.
Lying is a really thoughtless way to comfort the bereaved.
If you actually believed your fairy mumbo jumbo, you would hang around atheists; then, by the example you set and that old "joy"(1) you people claim to receive through your sky buddy(2) your atheist friend my say to himself that maybe there is something to that christianity stuff.
Or, you could, you know, just be a self-righteous douche.(3)
P.S. I doubt your friends are broken up over your absence from their lives.
(1) The christianist definition of joy is not to be confused with, you know, actual joy.
(2) Jebus hung out with prostitutes and helped pagan Romans.
(3) Or maybe when you are in the presence of intelligent atheists and they start talking they make sense. And then you have to go go to your closet and masturbate, er, I mean pray.
"...I call them former friends... I still hope and pray for them but I will not hang around them anymore, because it grieves me too much..."
They, on the other hand, are celebrating the removal of such a self-righteous * from their circle
Being a christian is about what YOU do.
Being a christian is NOT about what OTHERS do.
Stop using your imaginary god to belittle others as a way to make yourself feel superior. It's not clever, it's not honest, and it certainly is not what Jesus would do.
Wait. An atheist attacked someone who had lost a family member in an accident? Yeah, that sounds like fundie lying. I could understand an atheist losing it if *they* had lost someone and religious people could not STFU about how an atheist would never see their loved ones again because they were going to hell and blah, blah, blah....
I'm not inclined to be friends with fundies. Not because of their religious beliefs, but because they tend to exhibit plenty of heartlessness, ignorance, prejudice, and selfishness. And I wouldn't want to *grieve* them.
Weren't light and darkness basically partners? as in one cannot exist without the other?
also, i lived with a baptist christian for 2 years (room mate) and we did get into small arguments and shit but we got along just fine
One of my good friends is Jewish, and somewhat gung-ho about the army and the US. (He's enlisted and deploys a second time in April.) I'm an atheist, and I despise most military action along with holding other 'OMG LEFTIST SOCIALIST COMMIE NAZI' views. We get along just fine although we tend to rip into each other's views a lot, where's your Christian love and rock solid faith?
"Can light have fellowship with darkness?.... I say no"
Yeah, 'cause that's totally what Jesus taught.
Of all my close friends, most are either Hindu or Muslim. A few are atheist, and at least one is nominally Christian.
Islam is one of the Abrahamic religions, just like Christianity, so I'm gonna use it as an analogy: None of my religious friends shove their beliefs down my throat, none of them have even the slightest problem with my being atheist, and none of them even ever talk about their religious beliefs. They do talk about some of their religious rituals, especially if they might affect us (e.g. One of my Muslim friends is doing Ramadan right now, and that means she can't go swimming because water might get in her mouth... -_-), but we don't mind that, and even welcome it, because it's fascinating. When I'm at my Hindu friends' houses, I love to look at their little altars, and they tell me the names of all the deity statues, and the incense smells so lovely...
In short atheists and theists can get along fine, as long as neither are asswipes. All atheists can't be asswipes, so if you can't be friends with any of them, then who's the asswipe here?
People can get emotional and weird when friends and relatives die. Like the time my cousin told us we (atheists) were all going to hell at her sister's funeral. She was so distraught it's like she was channeling Hitler among other things. I lost most of my respect for her and her church at that time but shit happens, she was not herself. I wish I had handled it better, frankly. That's hard when people die.
LOL, I just found this somewhere else on RR: http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?137053-50-Marks-Of-A-Pharisee-by-Greg-Gordon
3. A Pharisee does not mingle with unconverted people.
Read: Matthew 9:11 "When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, 'Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners'?"
Not associating with unbelievers is not holiness. Jesus was a friend of sinners not a condemner of them but a savior. Jesus would have gone to an unconverted relative’s wedding reception. He did not avoid sinners, His righteousness was inside. How will you win sinners if you do not seek to be friendly with them. How many converted people in your church have been bought by you? Probably zero after 20 years. You are a Pharisee.
The fact that the person who posted that still has his account leads me to believe that RR did not disagree with what he said. Looks like even RR thinks that dionysus and I were spot-on with the "Pharisee" call.
I also like how most of the things on that list apply to the RR mods or the RR populace in general.
"I can't even stand to be around people who drink, cuss, and blaspheme with every breath (which describes almost all my former friends), notice I call them former friends... I still hope and pray for them but I will not hang around them anymore, because it grieves me too much."
Sounds like my former spouse when off on a "superiority" kick. So "Christian"...
Screw you.
I'm a proud atheist and one of my best friends is a proud Christian, from a devout family, who has no shame whatsoever in talking about it. We've had very interesting, intelligent and friendly conversations about religion of all types and the existance of God.
She and her family are wonderful, do good things because they want to help people (not because God told them to) and are more than willing to include anyone, regardless of that person's lifestyle or beliefs. And you know what? I do that too, even though I'm an ATHEIST. I volunteer at the local special school because I love working with kids. I donate to charities because I want to help out. Just like my friend.
My friend, I believe, is a true Christian, someone who honestly believes that God is all loving and does not turn someone down simply because they are not the same. And people like you, give people like here a bad name.
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