And, while we're at it, why don't we stop teaching women that the worst thing that could ever happen to them, worse than death itself, is to be raped?
I mean, I've been there, and granted, it ain't fun. But it's also not the end of the world. There's less physical damage and risk of death with a garden variety rape than to a gunshot wound. The only reason there's more psychological trauma to rape than to mugging is because we teach girls they're "ruined" if they're raped. We work them into a state of hysteria because they've been irreparably violated and tell them they're going to be fucked up for years because of this. It's total patriarchal women-as-property antiquated bullshit. It's root is the exact same female oppression mentality which leads fathers to kill their daughters after rape because they've disgraced the family.
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You being raped: with a chainsaw .
Granted, it ain't fun. But if you so much as think of saying anything other than 'Yes': and any sounds issuing from your mouth other than rapturous laughs of pleasurable joy whilst that chainblade does it's job, then you don't have the right to think in any other way than 'Rape is unjustifiable. It has no right to exist: not even in the mind '.
Why not ...?!
The only reason there's more psychological trauma to rape than to mugging is because we teach girls they're "ruined" if they're raped.
I really can't disagree with this too much except for it being the "only" reason, but I think it's more likely all the victim blaming which really causes a lot of psychological trauma after the initial physical and psychological trauma of the rape itself, with often conservative men claiming that she must have wanted it or else she wouldn't have been dressed that way or wouldn't have been there in the first place. Imagine having your body violated and then trying to seek justice with everyone calling into question your previous sexual history or asking why you were dressed the way you were dressed, or why you went to that party or on that date in the first place.
If we could get society in general and conservatives in particular, especially religious conservatives, to stop blaming the victim, it will go a long way to help a woman heal psychologically after a rape. But it's mainly fundamentalists who claim a woman is "ruined" after being raped.
But the rest of this sounds like, "just get over it already!" which isn't going to help either.
Who the f**k "teaches" women that? MANY OF US EXPERIENCE FIRST HAND HOW HORRIBLE IT IS, you blithering idiot! The rest of us can imagine how horrible it would be.
Who taught you that anyone ever will listen to anything you will ever say?
You've been there? You've been raped? If you didn't find it particularly troubling, good for you.
No, we don't think we're ruined. WE'VE BEEN VIOLATED! When people have been burglarized, they often say that the worst thing is that people have been in their home, rummaging around their things. IMAGINE HOW HORRIBLE IT WOULD BE IF SOMEONE WENT INTO YOUR BODY, RUMAGING AROUND YOUR PRIVATE PARTS!
Sure, in very patriarchal families, women might be taught they are ruined. But most families in the Western world are not that patriarchal. We still see rape as a VERY serious crime, as it violates a persons bodily autonomy.
Yeah being gang raped by people you trusted the most in your life is nothing fucking special, as is shooting you repeteadly in the face you giantic shitspew. Yeah you can try to have your life back after the rape but the memory will not go away and nobody ever told me I was ruined so don`t you fucking blame the trauma on the families and society, it`s from inside and it is fucking real pain.
Nobody has to be "taught" a visceral fear response to an act that is by and large minimized as you so heavy handedly demonstrated with several heaping sides of blaming the victim for them getting blamed for being victimized. It's an uphill battle for a woman to be acknowledged as a victim of a sexual assault rather than having invited it, deserved it, crying wolf about it, or making too big a deal of "just sex, get over it" with a cultural mindset of "that's just how it is" and good old boys circling the wagons to make sure nothing ever comes of it when by some miracle rape is treated like the crime it is.
You're a festering sore on humanity's taint. "Been there" my hairy nutsack. Or should I assume your hairy nutsack's been there but just not on the side you want people to think? Even a survivor that resents weakness enough to lash out at other victims doesn't belittle the trauma, but rather the inability to move past it.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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