The focus of courting is on marriage, not on just finding someone to have a good time with, and breaking up (which is practice for divorce) at the drop of a hat.
The parents are completely involved and actively counseling the couple.
The couple is chaperoned and never completely alone to maintain a high standard of purity.
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If we are all born sinners, then there is no such thing as "purity".
Yeah, that's great. I know what I wanted when I was dating was to have my parents "completely involved."
I like the comment further down on the thread: "I 100% agree w/ that I plan to date one girl and thats it no more" (sic)
I'd really, really, like to know how that works out for him. I imagine he'll be talking about the "sinful" girls he dated for the rest of his life, and how evil they were to break up with him.
Goldarn wrote:
He'll end up marrying the first christian girl that comes along, have a couple of kids and then end up getting himself caught with his trousers round his ankles in a public toilet when he finally succumbs to his "unnatural urges". (ObUS: substitute "pants" and "restroom" in the previous sentence).
Gressil wrote:
"(ObUS: substitute "pants" and "restroom" in the previous sentence)." Oh, we Americans say "toilet" all the time.
What we DON'T say is "privy." When Richard Dawkins described what a "Lord Privy Seal" was in a documentary, I had to look up the 2nd word.
Here is a true story bitch. My ex and her next went all fundy and filled my little girls head with their dribble. She met a nice boy on-line from across the country. He came to visit. She wanted to go visit, but stepdady had a cow. She went anyway (good for her) but had become so fundied she could not have sex outside of marriage.So at barely nineteen she got married to a mommas boy, by 21 already separated. Now she's living with a guy, breaking free I hope and (pray?) from the little box they tried to put my baby into.
Fuck your fear of a good time and let your inner slut out. Bitch.
Why don't these people just take the final leap and have arranged marriages? That'll stop the dating and all the nonsense. Just let mom and dad pick your spouse while they keep the child's genitals under lock and key until the wedding day. We can also keep the males and females apart during school and play at all times.
One little step closer to FLDS everyday. If it weren't for the polygamy, it would be perfect for many of these people. Then again, I don't think that bothers some of them.
Yep, and they'll never really get to know each other either because they'll both be constantly putting on a show to impress everyone around them.
I hope the other person in the couple gets so sick of the bullshit that they break up with the first and his/her parents, then spread the news that they're wackjobs. Then, they'll never get a date, and hopefully, never reproduce.
The focus of courting is finding someone to have a good time with IN ORDER to figure out whether you could tolerate living with them for the rest of your life. Breaking up is an acknowledgment that you are not to be together...that's why you don't just get married from the damn outset.
Parents do not need to be actively involved, they just need to give advice if it is needed, but also realize that it is unwise to stifle their children, and unwise to believe that their experiences will be the same that you had.
The rest of your little dictum reeks of Big Brother. Why do Christians need to be under constant surveillance in order to behave and control themselves? Bit of a pattern, no?
Purity? Ohhh! As in purity = virginity. Why all the coy phrases, just come out and say it. You don't want your kids boffing before marriage, so give them no privacy whatsoever. You also don't teach them about sex, just abstinence only, then rant and rave when you find your daughter is pregnant, or your son is gonna be a daddy.
@tracer What we DON'T say is "privy." When Richard Dawkins described what a "Lord Privy Seal" was in a documentary, I had to look up the 2nd word.
The outhouse (outdoor long drop toilet) on my grandmother's farm was also called a "privy." Gives a whole new meaning to "Lord Privy Seal" or the "Queen's Privy Council"!
Why do fundies put so much emphasis on virginity? Its a mental and emotional state, not a tangible, physical one. Even so it is up to you, not your nosy parents, what you do with it. The emphasis should be on trust, and educating teenagers to make the right decisions about who they wish to sleep with and doing that safely, not some airy-fairy, primitive bullshit about "purity" and telling teens they will suffer for eternity if they dare remove the chastity belt.
I thoroughly enjoyed my wedding night. I'm betting that your courting couples spend the evening in a cold sweat not knowing what to do or how to even talk together because they never learned.
I like my way much better; so do other normal people.
The focus of courting FOR ME PERSONALLY is on marriage, not on just finding someone to have a good time with, and breaking up (which is practice for divorce) at the drop of a hat.
Fixed.
The rest of this thing just reads like the side of a vodka bottle, 'constantly chaperoned to maintain absolute purity' when all that really matters is just how drunk it gets you.
In other words, the parents arrange the marriage?
Parents pick who you date
Do the parents get to watch to make sure the wedding was consummated? And do the parents of the bride get to keep the bed sheet to prove she was a virgin? I mean if we're going to stay as biblical as possible.
And what if the person you're courting turns out not to be what you think it was?. Are you so naive as to think that you can't interact with anybody except the person you're going to marry(if you marry at all)?. In fact, better to stop the process now and not tie the knot. Dating is actually GETTING TO KNOW the person you're going to share your life with, in order to see if it's the one for you. There is no a life insurance and guarantee that you're going to marry the first person you fall in love with. Breaking up it's part of life.
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