I agree it is better to marry than burn with lust...You are 26...way past time to get hitched IMO. Our culture puts it off way too long IMHO. The average guy is not wired to wait that long. Paul told us exactly how to deal with this problem. Get married. Make sure you are good friends and have lots in common with the woman you plan to ask. Of course it is a given she must know the Lord as her savior too.
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This... isn't actually that bad. It's incredibly archaic and no longer relevant to our society (people married young and with anyone they could find, regardless of compatibility, because having lots of children in the shortest period of time is important when life expectancy was a lot less) and contains false assumptions and outright lies, but that's fairly standard for this site, and in any case is mostly arguing that one's partner should have similar interests and priorities. I'd probably slap anyone who told me this in a face-to-face conversation, but I don't think it's worthy of this site.
Christian notions of sex and marriage: Boring the living shit out of people since 1847.
Seriously, though, this isn't really crazy enough to be considered fundy, IMO.
To marry as early as possible was a necessity in former societies, where as many people as possible were needed in agriculture.
Nowadays, in a global society and a complex world, to marry early is a complete anachronism, and often it is economical suicide to start a family before both partners have a sustainable economical basis.
And BTW: When you are burning with lust, but don't see yourself fit yet to marry, then there are a lot of harmless possibilities.
Our culture puts it off way too long IMHO
No, the problem is that people rush into marriage when they meet someone they think they like. Putting it off only lets you get to know a person better and lessens the likelihood of making a mistake. It's also vital for a couple to know if they are sexually compatible so, much to the chagrin of religionists, a couple should have sex before they are married.
Non-married 26-year-old. If I'd married the guy I was after at 20, my life would be a living hell.
Yeah, pretty sure waiting to get married prevented me from a life of sin, as my marrying at 20 would have resulted in misery, followed by divorce, followed by more misery.
"Make sure you are good friends and have lots in common with the woman you plan to ask."
This takes time, genius. Not only that, but by the time a man has determined whether or not a woman is compatible, he's usually lusted at least a little.
@Dionysus: They don't necessarily need to have sex, IF they at least talk about their sexual needs, any fetishes, and a rough estimate of the frequency at which they will probably want sex. Absent that talk, one can almost guarantee a divorce.
'Society' doesn't put off marriage for too long -- but Christian fundies have an unreasonable expectation for people who are in their late teens and early-mid twenties to abstain from sex when they're wired by evolution to have a strong desire for it.
Drop the opposition to healthy, safe, and mutually fulfilling consentual pre-maritial sex between young people and the problem will be solved.
Actually, no. Paul told you NOT to get married and to never so much as think about sex. Paul was an asexual ascetic, you see, and felt that marriage was a second best solution. But that if you simply MUST defile and debase yourself in such a manner as to actually admit that you have a sexual need then you'd better find one and only one person to EVER so horribly pollute and they'd better be as carnal and base as yourself.
Mind you, this could also be because Paul, like so many of you nutjobs on Rapture Ready, was absolutely convinced that the world was about to end. Any day now. Wait, wait was that...? No, sorry, that was a bus. BUT NEXT TIME!!! See, this crazy "don't have sex" belief was stupid two fucking thousand years ago (because the world was about to end) and it's stupid now (because the world is about to end) for exactly the same reason.
"Our culture puts it off way too long IMHO"
Not that long ago in some states in America you could marry at 12yo. Maybe they should bring that back.
Who needs education. Get them tied down with lots of rugrats. That's the way to go.
"I agree it is better to marry than burn with lust..." tl;dr...
One word: Condoms.
But then, why should the likes of you at Ruptured Retards give a fuck about sexual morality? Two words: Jimmy Swaggart.
>:D
Wait, Paul said to get married? I thought he a misogynist who was against marriage?
And yeah, better to get married at 15 so you can start popping out babies for the Lord.
Marrying someone just so you can fuck them without sinning is a horribly bad idea. It also implies that you don't have a choice in whether or not to have sex. No matter how badly you want sex, you still choose to have it since it's not necessary to sustain your life, and it's really not that hard to keep it in your pants. You can always mastur-oh wait that's a sin too. I guess you're screwed.
My husband and me where together for ten years before we married, and we lived together for 6 of those years.
The average guy is not wired to wait that long? What about the average gal? We're not wired to wait either. So, why wait? Nowadays there are fairly safe ways of having sex without risking pregnancies or STDs.
Of course it is a given she must know the Lord as her savior too.
Is it sufficient if she screams out "OH MY GOD, JESUS ALMIGHTY" a lot during sex?
Yup, marry so you can fuck.
Oh, and it's gays ruining the sanctity of marriage.
Clearly not the people who marry just so they can relieve their blue balls.
"I agree it is better to marry than burn with lust..."
WVBORE56 clearly isn't married.
Enjoy your Blue Balls, burning with lust. [/Art Garfunkel] X3
checkmate
Is it sufficient if she screams out "OH MY GOD, JESUS ALMIGHTY" a lot during sex?
It depends on how sincere she is. If she's faking it, no.
\m/>_<\m/ - I agree that it's wrong that it isn't the same for gay couples but does this mean that you think it's ok that single people don't get any of these benefits at all? I mean at least gay people have an anti discrimination movement and most rational people support them. At least society is changing in favour of gays and they are starting to get some of the benefits. At least there are laws against anti gay discrimination. The true evil in our society is that if you are unlucky enough not to be able to find anyone- of any gender- by about age 40 (or earlier really), then our whole society treats you worse than shit and nobody cares. Really WVBORN56's views aren't that different to most people's views- only he adds religion and (possibly, though it's doubtful) lowers the age threshold.
-and to think people wander why the guys over on love-shy feel that they have something to whinge about. And those guys are in a hell of a lot worse place than just being unmarried at older ages.
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