"If a small group of delusional people and their disciples are able to force society to pretend that those who serve your food at restaurants are really people, if they are able to force citizens to participate in this fiction by forcing them to not spit on them and to say thank you instead, we will no longer live in a free society but under tyranny."
Tolerance and respect is not tyranny. Your "group of delusional people" is a straw man to attack society, to avoid facing the fact that you're a bigot. In the above version, you'd be accusing restaurant workers of conspiring to force society to not spit on them. It becomes a ruling elite panic disinformation conspiracy theory.
Acknowledging reality and human rights is not a cult or dictatorship. Education is not indoctrination. Get over yourself. Take a deep breath. There is no language police at your door with bats. It's only your persecution complex because you refuse to learn decency. And your own harassment and bullying of those that you refuse to understand and that you hate.
Then in reality, people make mistakes and misgender all the time without malice. They rarely know, because they're rarely corrected. Many will try to remember when they learn about it.
A little scenario: we're chatting about anything. I mention a topic about which you have a phobia, like blood, and you feel like fainting. You let me know. I'll try to be more careful next time. My other option may be to tease you often with it. Why would I? Another scenario: I inadvertently notice by myself that you seem to be uncomfortable if your hair, height or age are mentioned. I quietly decide to remember for later, instead of constantly teasing you.
The delusional short hair who would like long hair elite dictating society to not mention their hair length tyranny?
No, it's just called empathy.