I would have refused to believe young women who called themselves Christians who wanted to marry a spiritually-minded man. As an ordained minister, I have witnessed time after time how Church Girls choose the Bad Boys over the Good Guys. I was a Good Guy. I was never a Bad Boy. I have never been drunk. I have never used drugs. I have never fornicated. I was told numerous times by such a Christian woman that I was the most honorable man that she had ever known - yet such a woman rarely would date me even once, much less twice.

Such did not find me boring; such loved to spend time with me. But such did not want me as a romantic interest. Most of the women I sought to court married males who merely attended church and went through the motions in order to capture a nice wife; several of those trophies are now divorced - once, sometimes twice. Some of them became abused spouses by these counterfeit Christians. Meanwhile, I remain an adult virgin, since my profession of faith denies me fornication as an outlet.

I live in a culture that mocks virginity, especially in a male. (My virility was mocked - both behind my back, and to my face - by some of the above pew warmers, when they realized that I was actually chaste.) I came across a self-published book years ago:

“How Women Choose Men: Why Nice Guys Finish Last”. It is neither vulgar nor derogatory: It is simply honest. His thesis is simple: Do not listen to what women say; watch what women do. Women consistently marry what are in the vernacular called assholes. (This includes some of the ordained men I have known.) They do so because they equate such men with dominance and confidence; they do so because they equate such men with animal virility; they do so because they equate such men with a challenge that requires to be reformed; they do so because they equate Christian virtue with a lack of ambition.

I think in particular that they see a real Christian man as both no challenge and too much of a challenge: A real Christian man does not need to be reformed and redeemed by a woman’s carnal love; yet a real Christian man will challenge a woman to live up to her highest Christian commitment. That is a lose/lose proposition to a fallen female. In short, they do so because they are sinful. Women are every bit as sinful and corrupt as men. Every bit. I assume I will be denounced for my admitted - at times - bitterness. So be it. As I said, I am being candid.