Monogamous relationships in a lot of ways lessened the burden of becoming the alpha. Now every man that could find a woman could become an alpha of his own family, providing he could amass some reasonable resources. To achieve this, women were conditioned to respect a man and to welcome his advances, or sometimes couples were wed based on the decisions of their families that they thought would be a good fit. Women were taught that their role was to support the man, and relationships could potentially thrive. And you would get satisfaction from love and from being the "alpha" of your family tribe, by having unlimited access to sex (it was a marital duty at some point by the wife), so it was simultaneously playing into evolutionary traits, but also relaxing the requirements on being the "alpha male". It was a sure way to make both sexes happy (betas wouldn't stress out, and women wouldn't be abandoned after they passed their prime years).

Then women's rights and feminism came along and disrupted this. From a human ethics and equality of "human beings", this was probably a good thing. From the "let's try to work with what evolution created" point of view, it would inevitably end in disaster. Essentially, now we are going back to the alpha/beta scenario, where most of the attractive women belong to the top males as women have inflated sense of worth (online dating, protection by government, feminism, take your pic). Except with one major difference in that men of our generation draw on experience of previous generations and think the old system is still in place. Then they go out, get a nice job, become decent human being, they ticked off all the boxes, and then they are faced with the grim reality that the only thing waiting for them is a beached whale (feminism promotes "big is beautiful", right?). So these men then go back to the drawing board and keep "bettering" themselves. Keep investing and investing only to realize their intellect and ability is growing, while women are degrading and becoming more complacent. Eventually these men become so intelligent that they stop blaming themselves (despite what everyone else tells them), and see things for what they are. So I can totally see how you would have BIG plans on the verge of finding out about TRP that are in dire need of motivation. I have exactly the same problem, and feel like I am about to abandon a lot of what I've worked towards because a woman and a family was at the center of that.

The reality is, there are reasonable women out there. They are very hard to find, and they are usually partially (but not fully) spoiled and influenced by their social circles anyhow. At this point I would say without too much of doubt that in North America, AWALT, with the exception of you finding a smart AWALT that instead of destroying you would want to support you to meet her own goals. You would have to manipulate this woman likewise, and basically your entire relationship would consist of a constant tug-of-war, but you could be happy and have a fulfilling life. The problem with most men is they think a woman should be caring and supportive altruistically, but evolutionarily, they have their own agenda and once in a while you need to be a strong alpha and put her in her place. So in summary, things are not as simple as MGTOW or TRP would have you believe, but in North America (or West in general), these ways of thinking are VERY smart approaches to not getting severely burned in life if you don't know how to manage a woman (it's like a bee colony, you'll get sweet honey but you will also get stung if you're not careful). In Japan society is completely broken because of blatant disregard for evolutionary biology and the relations between men and women. I am guessing the West is not too far behind. Sorry this got long, I think I wrote it more for myself to put down my thought haha, hope it's useful.