I sometimes feel like being friends with a man other than my husband is a sin. I recently talked with a guy at work about computers because he was working on our computers at the time and I really enjoy talking about computers. I didn't even start the conversation. It all started when another girl who was there with us told him that I enjoyed working with computers also. Then he and I talked and there's a few times since then that we've talked about computers. But then when I realized I was enjoying the conversations with him, I felt incredibly guilty! Now I'm doing this thing where I'm like, trying to ignore him but that'll be hard to do if we have to work together again anytime soon...
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You ... (shudder) ... enjoyed your consversations about computers with a man? You whore!
IOW, your faith has done a number on you. :(
Oh noes. You enjoyed a conversation with a random guy! The heaven is going to fall!!! Grab all the cash and RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!
But seriously, this is very disturbing... to think that there are people out there who feel guilty about enjoying simple things like a good conversation. If this is what your religion forces you to do then that is yet another good reason to abandon it.
What are you doing out of the house? BACK IN THE KITCHEN, WENCH! ;)
Added the wink, so I don't get Poe'd.
I am hoping against hope that this guy is sweetly persistant in pursuing her as a friend with whom he shares an interest. Maybe she'll figure out that men were not put on earth to rule her and to rape her if she talks to them.
And maybe she'll start to question her faith.
Honey, you are making REAL women look bad. I really hope someone takes your simple naive mind and let you know that it is fine to have friends of the opposite sex.
My marriage has a simple rule, "Read the menu all you want, just don't order off it."
It sounds to me as if the guilty feelings are because you doesn't want to be just friends. You are not secure in you marriage. Me thinkest you protests too much. Sure you don't want to "order off the menu."
Honey, your situation is easily fixed. Get out of the work place and back in the home like a good little fundie wife should be. And then beg your husband to gag and whip you for your "indiscretions".
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Wow. What a slut.
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I'm a service tech myself, and I notice that married women are more open with their affections than single women, as a general thing.
A bit of advice for Monica: Discuss your family with this handsome stranger, and if he has any conscience, he will respect your status. Maintain a friendship by all means, but draw the line at luncheon together.
That's just pathetic. Just talking computers is just talking computers. There's no "deeper significance", you just enjoy the company. Unless you physically went and jumped his bones or at the very least (if you're that g-rated) kissed'im, talking is talking, and there's nothing to be guilty about. People can be friends, despite what your preacher tells you.
You were talking about computers! Forget cheating on your husband by being friends with another man, your're a witch!
To people that don't know me, that was supposed to be a little sarcastic
it's odd that I almost feel like giving advice here...like real nonsarcastic advice!
In any case, you're probably another one 'o them religious folks that got married to the first guy you saw and the guilt is likely not coming from enjoying the conversation at all, but rather seeing as you have something in common and enjoy the company of another man whereas your husband is probably among the dullest things in your life.
whore! adulterer! Your husband has every right to stone you NOT!!
Normal social intercourse is not a sin even following your book. If you wanted to do more then it would be, but enjoying talking!?
Ignoring him is nasty, and he'd have every right to be annoyed and possibly complain about your attitude. Grow up, and take responsibility for yourself.
My husband would stone me to death if I talked about computers to another guy, but computers are our fetish (j/k)
Monica - if it's ok for you to have a job, than it's ok to talk to your coworkers and it is ok to enjoy these conversations. You do not cheat on your husband by enjoying a talk with a coworker - about computers of all things. It's one of the innocent fun things in life.
It's funny how paranoid this girl is. Unless you're married, you can't seriously think that you're being unfaithful to a man you don't even know. Girl, the only thing that Christianism forbids is sex outside marriage. By your standards, Jesus and his followers were black sinners. You see, he talking with Mary and Martha, or with Mary Magdalaine, or John with his mother, or Peter with all the female disciple, or Paul with Phoebe and Priscila..............
Damn straight! Shut yer trap and get in the kitchen! I want some pie!
geez.
Prehaps guilt should be associated with causing harm; and if yer husband is jealous of conversations, well, that's a problem too.
Don't you know that talking is just one step down from sex? nevermind liking someone, then dating them, then loving them, then marrying them( unless you had premarital sex in which you should BURN IN HELL!!!!)
I feel genuinely sad for this poor foolish woman. "Oh noes, she has a friend of the other gender? Burn the whore!!"
But seriously- I agree that this gal must be feeling guilty because she is secretly *attracted* to the coworker. 'Cause personally, most of my friends are guys, but it's never ever come up as a 'thing' (neither in my conscience nor with my husband).
It must be so sad to live with constant guilt and fear just for being a normal person :( Poor silly fundie woman.
Because heaven forbid you interact with a person of the opposite gender who is not your spouse. Even if it's something as simple as a conversation about computers.
Newsflash, it is possible for two people of the opposite gender to be just friends. It happens all the time, it's normal. I really hope this lady doesn't have kids.
Watch out, Monica, that mean and wicked, heartless cruel deceiver just wants to get under your burka and ram has 3 1/2 inch floppy into your drive slot.Beware!!!
"I sometimes feel like being friends with a man other than my husband is a sin."
Please cite a bible verse to support this assertion. Or are you making up your own definition of "sin" now, irrespective of what your bible has to say? If so, don't worry, your lot does that all the time.
"But then when I realized I was enjoying the conversations with him, I felt incredibly guilty!"
I smell a Poe. If not... I don't want to think about it.
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