G-d doesn't expect from us things we can't do - and this He clearly states: concept of marriage and children comes as a commandment. If somebody can't accept responsibility for having children - this just means he/she is not well spiritually and by analogy with physical health one should seek help or it (the ILLNESS) will progress. Sorry to put it so blunt but I say this because I care about you. I don't make the rules of the universe (nor physical nor spiritual) and it does work like this. Good luck to all of us. Seek the TRUTH. Pursue true Happiness. It's Difficult but WORTH it. :)
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If someone won't have children, there could be several responsible factors, including abstinence, infertility, inability to support a child, or just not wanting to have kids.
Oh, for fuck's sake...
Some people don't want to have children for reasons that are uniquely and entirely their own. Some of them are christians who want to explore the mission field, and dragging a baby/child (or babies/children) makes that much more difficult.
I will never understand why someone else's marriage, relationship, or reproduction are any of your business. It doesn't affect you, just as what goes on in your family has no connection to mine.
Try minding your own god damn business. You'll free up so much extra time not focusing on other people's sex lives that you might be able to actually put to productive use. Build something. Volunteer. Focus on your own family and relationships.
...just get your mind out of other people's pants. It's unhealthy.
EDIT: I also want to back up what Mad_Jester and Doubting Thomas said. They're hard work. I've raised one to adulthood and have a 14 and 13 year old. The teen years in themselves take a degree of patience and restraint you will never know you had - if you want to stay out of jail.
It's BECAUSE I have children that I can understand why someone wouldn't want to have them. I love my kids dearly, and I don't regret having them... but they're HARD FUCKING WORK. It's a massive responsibility, taking a helpless mewling meat-football and not only helping it to survive, but helping it develop into a fully-realized, societally-functioning human, able to care and determine for itself. It's draining, and it's frustrating, and they have brought me closer to killing-rage than any other thing I've ever encountered.
So yeah, I can kinda dig why someone might not want to have larva of their very own. I'm more inclined to say it's a mental illness to think everyone should adhere to your procreative strategies.
I care about you.
Biggest and most common lie ever said by Christians. They don't care about people as individuals, all they care about is making everyone comply. Just like this instance of trying to guilt someone into having children they don't want.
And what Mad Jester ^^^ said. I love my children, and even though they're very well-behaved, they're still lots of work, they put a strain on a marriage, and your freedom goes bye-bye. No longer can my wife just take off and go on a date, we have to make sure someone can watch the rug rats in our absence. Not to mention when they get tired and cranky and start melting down into a bawling mess, it strains your nerves to no end. And when you're tired and want to take a nap, they won't be tired and won't want to. And say goodbye to regular sex, because if they're not wanting to sleep in your bed with you (and not taking "no" for an answer), they'll tire and stress your wife out to where she won't be interested. And spontaneous sex is out of the question unless you can get them interested in watching "Frozen" or something and you have a lock on the bedroom door.
With as many people out there who shouldn't have children, coercing people to have kids especially when they don't want any is not helping anything.
G-d doesn't expect from us things we can't do
Then why does he expect me to believe and worship him?
If somebody can't accept responsibility for having children - this just means he/she is not well spiritually and by analogy with physical health one should seek help or it (the ILLNESS) will progress
Or, you know, we can live in the real world where unwanted pregnancies happen and people really aren't ready to take care of a child.
I don't make the rules of the universe (nor physical nor spiritual) and it does work like this
No, you don't make the rules. You just blindly enforce a meme your family has passed down to you about what these supposed "rules" really are and what the rule-maker really meant by them. With a little creative interpreting of your own on top of it. And you expect everyone to obey.
It's Difficult but WORTH it
To you. Some people DON'T think having children is worth it. To some people raising adopted children is more worth it. To some making a difference in the world is more worth it. To some missionary work is more worth it. To some being a priest is more worth it. And, yes, to some a fulfilling career and climbing the corporate ladder is more worthwhile. Your opinion isn't everyone else's opinion. Not everyone thinks like you do and you have to deal with the fact that not everyone finds purpose in life from raising miniature versions of themselves. Just like I have to deal with the fact that the Duggars find purpose in life from competing with termites.
"G-d "
I'm both relieved and glad that you missed out the o, because otherwise I'd have been fearing about the severe consequences. I wouldn't want someone as caring, compassionate and open minded as you to end up in H-ll
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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