I wish the women that run around giving the “be a man, don’t hit a woman” advice would spend that time talking to girls about how to be a lady. At the beginning of the cycle that creates an abusive controlling man, is a woman. Teach women to not belittle and go for the throat every chance they get. Teach them not to put their hands a on a man if they don’t want hands put on them. Teach them to get out of their emotions, step back, think about how they feel and articulate it to their man without yelling and screaming in his face or attacking his manhood. Teach them how to have enough self esteem and a better judge of character to not choose these idiots who abuse women. Teach them to stop castrating their sons mentally and emotionally, so when they grow up, they don’t feel like King Kong when they hit a woman. Its on you, ladies.
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It's very probable that this guy has had a very unsuitable ladyfriend or wife. But that's no excuse to blame every woman in a sweeping assumption. There are plenty of nice women out there who don't behave like this. It makes me wonder where some guys to find women, if they always end up with ones like that.
So, if you have a lot of money burglars are allowed to get inside your house?, if you make a lousy job is he allowed to treat you like a slave?, that's what logic dictates according to the content of your post
Actually, even if we were to agree with your argument, it backfires on you. Why is she feeling the need to yell and scream at you? Why is she so worked up? Does someone need to teach you not to be an asshole? See how that works?
At the beginning of the cycle that creates an abusive controlling man, is a woman.
"You made me hit you."
Look, dumbass, you are ultimately in control of your own actions. If you hit a woman, you're at fault. I've been married for 15 years, and even though my wife has driven me crazy more times than I can count, not once have I ever felt the urge to raise a hand to her.
1- Abusing (physically or emotionally) anyone, be it a man or a woman is wrong.
2- I have no problems with a man who strikes a woman in self defense, but that defense should use only the necessary force (an no more) required to end the threat. This would apply to a man striking a man as well.
3- Yelling, screaming, name calling, etc. is not a valid reason to strike anyone. If a man or a woman starts verbally insulting you, be a man and walk away.
Having a woman yelling and screaming and attacking your manhood is STILL not a valid reason for striking her. That's because there is no valid reason for striking a woman.
If she put her hands on you, that's assault. Call the police.
@ Sasha:
Are you serious? No valid reason? So if a woman attacks me in drunken rage armed with a broken bottle, I should "Call the police"?? You mean after she's too tired to attack me anymore?
What happened to equality? If the assailant was male and you punched him to get him off you, I doubt anyone -Cops included- could muster much moral outrage.
You might still get fined, or prosecuted, but that's just business as usual, nothing wrong about that.That's what the laws are there for.
I certainly don't want the rule of the strongest and most violent asshole to be the law of the land, but either everybody HAS the right to defend themselves or they DONT.Demanding for exception based on your gender is -well...Sexism.
Nobody should be hitting anyone. I swear to Glob if I have to separate these kids I am turning this entire planet around.
But if someone comes at you (no matter what gender anyone in the situation is) with intent to cause you bodily harm then by all means defend yourself.
Yay for victim-blaming! Yeah, all those women just need to realize, "It's my fault he hit me, because I trusted him."
P.S. Does anyone here know what the MRAs mean when they say "mental and emotional castration?" I've heard it used several times now, and I can't figure it out.
@myrese It means that they are not getting what they want, kinda like the supposed "friendzone" BS...
In other words, they're butthurt that the world does not revolve around them.
So, in order to not create an abusive controlling man, women ought to do the controlling of women for him? How did that make sense in your tiny brain?
How can you get out of your emotions by stepping back and thinking about them? Isn't that to get even further into your emotions? Some boys ought to be taught to embrace their emotions, instead of shutting them off? If you push down hard and long enough, it will explode eventually.
Maybe you ought to be taught to have enough self esteem and a better judge of character to not choose these idiots who belittle and scream? Once, when I was so mad at my husband that I knew I was about to say or do something that could never be taken back, I left the apartment and ran until the strong emotions had evaporated. When I came back, he was so relieved that I hadn't left him for good, that the argument evaporated too.
Confused?
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