You could choose to obey God in the same sense a lion can choose to be vegetarian. Is it impossible? No, he could get enough nutrition that way if he chose the right plants. Nobody is stopping him. But he won't. You won't obey God. You don't want anything to do with his laws. You are choosing in accordance with your nature as a sinner. Why do you complain about being judged when you do what you want to do? You are not compelled by God to sin.
Again, Tony, you are making the mistake of thinking God is "just another" person. From a human perspective, His standard is objective, because all humans are subject to it. He is not. If there is a king in a kingdom, and he makes an edict that murder is illegal, it is not a subjective law just because a person made it (your narrow definition of "dependent on a person" does not capture the sense of the word in common parlance). It is objective as far as anyone living in the kingdom is concerned. Subjective means the people could say, "Well, king, that's YOUR opinion. MINE is that murder is fine. Your law is true for you, mine is true for me." THAT would be a subjective law. And that doesn't free him from the inevitable beheading he will get when he murders someone. I think you'll be hard pressed to find a lot of philosophers who agree with your definition of "objective" as a standard that even God would be subject to. Without God, there would be no standard, so there is no such thing as an objective standard of the calibur you are talking about. You would then have to posit an even more transcendent lawgiver than God. Your incoherent responses are starting to border on the not-worth-answering.
When God gives someone over to sin, He is not putting the fire out. He is stoking the coals. The destruction of the wicked, unregenerate, unrepentant sinner glorifies Him ("makes him look good") as much as the salvation of the believer