> Does personality really matter? Or is that a meme?

All men ruin your life on different levels, ranging from murder to mild daily annoyances. If by personality you mean minimising the negative consequences of a relationship, then yes it matters. However I could not give less of a shit about a man’s hobbies or “sense of humour” or favourite media or political views or life philosophy. All I want is a harmless hot guy. He could be in a vegetative state for all I care. You make FRIENDS based on personality. A husband is not a friend