I hate how jealousy and possessiveness are considered "toxic" in modern romance
What even is the point of romance if it's not gonna be jealous and possessive? Love is, or at least should be, about being with someone you need in order to feel complete, and who needs you back in the same way. Your mental, emotional and physical being should depend on the fact that this person is with you on a relationship. Why claim you're in love when apparently your happiness and your integrity won't be compromised at the possibility of losing your significant other? The concept of love has been devalued to the point of becoming a dull and shallow agreement between people who respect each other just enough to say they're in love, yet not quite enough to actually love each other.
Even if I wasn't incel, I'd avoid "relationships" like the plague just for this reason. I couldn't be bothered to find love when love just isn't allowed to be.
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I keep saying that it could be considered to be a sex addiction, even though they aren't getting any, RiJayden.
They have this all-consuming obsession with it.
But, that would mean giving validation to these whiny manbabies stupid made-up word.
@Bimaac
I haven't had a relationship in almost three years, and am horrifically lonely, but I could never stoop this low. Ever. These people seriously scare me. They hate an entire gender because they can't get laid. And they act is if they are owed a partner. UGH!
And what are you willing to bet that this dipshit is the same type who whines about how girls only date "abusive Chads"?
He's probably also the type who shows up in the comments section of any article about a woman being killed by her boyfriend or husband, or anything dealing with domestic abuse in general, and tries to make it about how he can't get a girlfriend.
Like I keep saying about guys like that; if you're so lacking in empathy that you make the issue of domestic violence about your cock, then you deserve to be "incel" and no woman with a shred of self-respect will ever go anywhere near you.
I like the idea of passion in romance as much as the next guy, but there's a point where you become so invested in a relationship that you are presented with a choice: jealousy or trust.
If you love someone and they love you, then you should have a mutual trust, and no need of something so unpleasant as jealousy.
If you feel that strongly about someone and yet don't trust them then yes, that is 'toxic'.
I'm seriously starting to believe incels have Borderline Personality disorder, or some variation of a cluster B disorder.
Hmmm...
Jealousy is something I can understand with an intimate relationship. It's a human emotion, after all. I get jealous when I see someone I'm seeing with another guy, especially when they're close.
Possessiveness is another thing. That example above? I recognize that I'm not, nor should I be, the only person in her life. I don't make her feel bad for having close friends.
I do have a friend who's incredibly possessive. He's miserable. He has a girlfriend, but constantly sees prostitues and tries to find other women to sleep with while getting pissed at her for having a close male friend. Hypocrisy aside, he's not happy because he constantly assumes she's cheating and he can't get with other women (because they call him on his bullshit)
There is no jealousy or possessiveness in my marriage... because there is *gasp* mutual love, trust and respect. The love is deeper, stronger and more passionate than any relationship I've had built on jealousy and possession (And I've BTDT, got the shirt and all that shit with a jealous possessive douche.)
If you weren't such a self-involved entitled asshole, I'd feel bad for you.
Love is, or at least should be, about being with someone you need in order to feel complete, and who needs you back in the same way. Your mental, emotional and physical being should depend on the fact that this person is with you on a relationship.
What even is the point of romance if it's not gonna be jealous and possessive?
Living your life with someone you respect, love, and trust? The fact that you don't understand this shows why you'll not only never be in a relationship, but you'll never even get a quick hookup.
I'm sure I'll end up saying this again on a more recent post of this nature, but just imagine what's in store for us next month. Valentine's Day is rapidly approaching, & what will these dateless wonders be doing that night? My bet is that they will be online en masse, shoveling microwaved burritos into their maws while guzzling Dr. Pepper or PBR, constantly whining about the "chads" gettin' lucky that night. They'll call all women sluts & whores, & then bemoan the fact that no slut or whore will have anything to do with them. Then they'll jerk off to whatever hentai they can find. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Funny you should mention that TCG; last year I made an attempt to troll the "forever alone" sub-reddit by saying that they could take consolation in the fact that February 15, better known as one of the many "cheap candy days" throughout the year was quickly approaching.
I fully expected to receive a bunch of, "HOW DARE YOU MOCK MY PAIN!" responses but the sad sacks in the FA sub pleasantly surprised me with a lot of them thanking me and saying I had given them something to look forward to.
I may do the same thing in the "incel" subs this year and see what their reaction is.
@ Reptilian Jew- pretty much. But they may vary their routine by having a chimichanga or even a Lean Pocket, along with the Code Red. And maybe they'll spank it (assuming they can even find it) to something out of their older bros' Vivid library. Is that even still a thing?
@ Bimaac- I didn't know Feb 15 was cheap candy day. I fully plan on gettin' some tube steak on Feb. 14, but I also intend to stock up on cheap chocolate. It placates the PMS.
You should troll those whining colostomy bags; it may yield funnier results than last time.
Not just modern romance. There are epics written about jealous suitors murdering, kidnapping, and even going to war over women they felt should have been theirs and even in ages and cultures where marriage by capture was acceptable they were not portrayed as bastions of sanity. And the reverse scenario where women got revenge for their cheating husbands and the women they slept with? That'd curdle your blood were you capable of human empathy.
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