Why foids and normies are trying to shame men who don't approach foids

I have realized how the same foids who call you misogynist incel, have been bitching out about men who don't want to approach and get humiliated by them anymore, the same way normies are shaming that "a real man", "coward", "pussy". Tradcuck shitty argument of men having to make the first step, why are We supposed to? Are foids gonna give us a positive response? No.
Are foids ok with their traditional roles? No.
My theory about this is that foids and normies hate ugly men so much that they don't want us to quit from trying it and humiliating ourselves. Foids in particular want ugly men to approach them so they can brutally reject them and make them feel like scum. That's what they want.