This ended up larger than I expected, dunno why they piss me off so much, they just do.
I've been wrestling with my beliefs and feelings on trans ideology. For the past while I've been doing a lot of mental gymnastics to try to justify what I thought was my position of "rational trans ally."
First couple of sentences, and she already spews bullshit. There's no "trans ideology". There's simply medical fact, that some people, due to (whether you like it or not) biological reasons, not mental ones, aren't the gender they seem to be, thus they need to medically transition. "Trans ideology" is fact. It is reality. If you disagree, you disagree with reality. Simple as that. As you don't seem to understand even this, the very basic cornerstone of what makes trans people trans, instead believing it's an "ideology", then I very highly doubt you've ever been anything approaching a trans ally.
I thought I was maybe some kind of "EX-TERF" because I started to buy into this idea that being critical of trans ideology was always hateful and since I loved my trans friends I had to be wrong. I tried to "re-educate" myself. I read up on lib fem sources and tried really really hard to silence the critical part of my mind.
Every single one of them claims to have lots of trans friends. Yet they don't seem to actually know anything about them, LOL. Just like all of those alt-right guys who totally have black friends, who totally agree that race-mixing is wrong, white genocide is real, and white race is superior. LOL. You ain't fooling anyone.
And if you, like, totally have all those trans friends, then, if you wanted to "re-educate" yourself, why didn't you try to do that by conversations with them?
Claims to be former "EX-TERF" and trans ally, yet knows GC lingo enough to use "lib fem" as an (almost) slur. LOL, again.
Every time a TIM in my life acted with obvious male socialisation I tried to explain it away with "oh she's not been long transitioned and this is just my bigotry talking." I can't do it anymore. I hit peak over and over.
I just love how TERFs use "male socialization" in their rants. I've actually noticed it many times, whenever it's made abundantly clear to them that there is a biological cause to transgenderism, and that trans people are in no way different to intersex people they accept (seriously, splitting trans and intersex people in two different categories was the dumbest thing ever done in research of those topics), they just use "male socialization" as an argument. Because, absolutely all men have exactly the same socialization, exactly the same upbringing, and women the same, totally, completely different from men's. Makes me think about what would they think of aggressive, domineering women from matriarchal cultures.
One of the strangest experiences I've ever had was the time I backpacked through Tiger Leaping Gorge in the south of China. On the one hand, the scenery was absolutely breathtaking, but I unfortunately witnessed many acts of domestic violence in some of the hamlets I passed along the way. People yelling at their cowering spouses, pushing them against walls. ... It was incredibly uncomfortable to watch, particularly because all the aggressors were women.
Tiger Leaping Gorge is mainly inhabited by the Naxi people, a Chinese ethnic group where women call all the shots. Most guidebooks will tell you that only one subgroup of the Naxi people do this, but that's not what I saw. What I saw was a widespread mafia of elderly women keeping their husbands in check with the backs of their hands, and extorting money from tourists.
I learned about the latter when I took a picture of the gorge near a Naxi woman. She then turned to me and demanded payment for the picture because her people "take care of the trail." When I refused to pay, the old woman grabbed me by the shirt and threatened to brain me with a huge rock. I could've easily fought her off, but I also knew that there were outposts of Naxi women throughout the gorge, and that if I messed with one of them, I would just bring their wrath (and presumably more huge rocks) on myself. So in lieu of payment, I bought some overpriced Snickers off the woman, and was allowed to leave.
Damn, such not stereotypically male behaviour, such peacefulness, such feminity, LOL. What can be more feminine, less masculine, than domestic violence and threatening random people with death. "Kinder, gentler sex" my ass.
Well, what do you say about this type of socialization, Critters?
ALL of the TIMs I had been friends with tried to muscle in on #metoo. I have no doubts that trans people are just as likely to be victims as anyone but this was different. They would step over natal women and shout about cis-centrism and cry about cis privilege when these women were discussing awful awful assaults. One actually said they wished they had a pussy that could be grabbed.
Last I checked, trans people were disproportionately victims of several violent crimes, very probably rapes too. They wanted to share their experiences. They weren't stepping over anyone, they simply dared to exist and that pissed you off. Complaining about cis privilege? Kinda annoying, but no reason oppressed people shouldn't be angry about oppression.
I've been watching Contrapoints videos, keeping up with their transition, sympathising with a lot of it but time and time again they would say or do something that was just so MALE that I wanted to scream. Today Contra started raising money by selling tickets to a "debate" between 3 TIMs run and hosted by literal, Holocaust-denying fascists. And Contra isn't the only fascist-supporting TIM I've encountered. They're always white and middle class and late-transitioning and obviously fetishistic MEN. I want to scream. I can't play this game any more. Men are colonising our spaces and claiming we're the oppressors. I think I've hit my final peak.
Complaining about people supporting fascism, on a forum which has had many incidents of racist hate speech, and which counts open white nationalists among it's ranks. LOL, again. Also implying fascism is a male phenomenom. And of course, it wouldn't be a TERF rant, if it hadn't completely forgot about transmen's existence. Calls self a former trans ally, sounds just like a stereotypical TERF. Just, LOL.