"The modern atheist mind wants to use modern their definition of rape as an absolute, such that a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married, and if he insists on sex, then that is rape and the male is legally guilty of a crime. One atheist University student we discussed this with was shocked to find such a definition did not exist even 20 years ago. Before that in most a western cultures, a married woman could not be raped by her husband since they were one flesh – a very biblical concept. Since the Biblical concept of love makes love not a feeling, but a choice which benefits another, then the Godly man has already figured out if she has a headache coming on, and such compassion means that she never needs to use sex as a weapon, or a legal threat, because a Godly woman is wise enough to never deny her husband to the point where she is forcing him to go elsewhere. "
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The modern atheist mind wants to use modern their definition of rape as an absolute, such that a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married ,..
I would rather being a "modern atheist" than justifying Numbers 31 and the forced marriage of Midianite girls by saying a woman is not an autonomous being entitled to resist a rapist.
Right, according to you:
Women are just inflatable sex dolls that can cook and clean.
And
Men are incapable of living without sex.
Thank you for insulting and denigrating the entire human race.
If you force someone, against their will, to do something they don't want to do, that is wrong. If what you are forcing them to do involves sex, that is rape.
Why is that concept so hard for Xians to understand?
"[...] a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married, and if he insists on sex, then that is rape and the male is legally guilty of a crime."
My word!
A woman has the right to not have sex just because her husband wants sex. Wow and you guys think that Atheists have no morals.
I'm sure you thought this was moral in your head but writing it down it's misogynistic and sexist.
That it took so long to specifically state to people that marriage doesn't actually work that way should be embarassing. The most advanced nation in the world neglected to codify something in law that a society of violent professional marauders understood 1200 years ago.
Atheist non-morals: Don't do something because it hurts another or violates their clearly defined rights and is thus reprehensible.
Godly morals: Hurt people that displease you using methods that are normally condemned but by convoluted logic nearly all the things you aren't supposed to do ever are actually okay under some circumstances. As long as it's done to someone you think it's okay to hate.
"One atheist University student we discussed this with was shocked to find such a definition did not exist even 20 years ago. Before that in most a western cultures, a married woman could not be raped by her husband since they were one flesh a very biblical concept. Since the Biblical concept"
...and that's all I needed to read. Then you lot wonder why no-one 'belie ves' these days?
Certainly why Rule of Law - the basis of Western civilisation , never mind culture - exists today. What more proof does one need that right-wing Fundamental ist Christainity represents a clear & present danger to world peace infinitely worse than Al-Qaeda; at least they're open about their intentions.
To quote from "Star Wars" ep. III, 'Only Sith deal in absolutes'. You know who the Sith are don't you, Johnny-boy: the enemy of Freedom.
If you are not for civilisation, then you are the enemy, right-wing fundies. [/Anakin Skywalker/Darth Vader]
In Sweden (a part of "western culture") rape within marriage became illegal in 1965. Last time I checked, that was 49 years ago. Before that, it was more or less seen as giving consent when one agreed to get married; you don't need any "biblical concepts”.
Having sex with a person against his/her consent is a rape; a raped person feels violated, regardless of what the laws say.
No Godly man has ever raped his wife, as they all figure out on their own when their wives are not in the mood? I call bullshit! I'd say more men than women use sex as a weapon or a threat. Rape is a very common war-time strategy, for example. Maybe Godly man ought to treat his Godly woman with love, empathy and compassion, so that she will always be in the mood for him.
Btw, does this "in the mood" thing concern shopping for clothes and handbags too? Godly men are surely wise enough to never deny their wives to the point where he is forcing her to go elsewhere, right?
> a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married, and if he insists on sex, then that is rape and the male is legally guilty of a crime
Well, yes. Yes, we seem to understand each other perfectly. To be fair, quite a few theists agree with this statement, too.
Marital rape has been designated a crime in many western countries for far longer than 20 years, and prior to that it was regarded as rape, or at least spousal abuse, by most people, even if the laws weren't yet on the books to prosecute the perpetrators.
Also, the fact that for centuries it was deemed impossible for a man to rape his wife had much less to do with the Bible than with the second class status of women as the possessions of men with few rights of their own. It was about power and control, not religion.
And no "Godly" or otherwise decent man would use his wife telling him she's not in the mood as an excuse to go elsewhere. What are you, six years old?
" a married woman could not be raped by her husband since they were one flesh a very biblical concept."
So that means a woman could legally cut off her abusive husband's penis because they are one flesh?
Marital rape has been designated a crime in many western countries for far longer than 20 years, and prior to that it was seen as spousal abuse by most people, even if the laws weren't yet on the books to prosecute the perpetrators.
Also, the fact that for centuries it was deemed impossible for a man to rape his wife had much less to do with the Bible than with the second class status of women as the possessions of men with few rights of their own.
As women are, physically, capable of far more sexual activity than men, I bet you'd change your tune when asked to perform for the 5th time in an hour.
"a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married"
I'm shocked, I say, shocked!
I've just created a new religion that promises Heaven but only to people who sodomize you. You specifically, John Macay. What? You don't adhere to my dogma? Well that doesn't matter, you still have no right to refuse my followers that sweet ass. You say I don't have proof that my religion is true? Well I have here this book that I claim is thousands of years old and it says all true believers must sodomize you.
Sorry but thems the breaks
If a woman does not want sex, and the man is rebuffed from efforts to get her in the mood, then a man who cares for the woman would not force her, or go out cruising for sex.
An unwilling woman submitting to her "wifely duty" does not sound like a lot of fun.
Sooo, if your wife were to, oh I don't know, stab you in the chest with a broken shard of glass and watch you bleed out on the bathroom floor; that wouldn't be illegal since the two of you are "one flesh" and it would be the same as your wife stabbing herself, which isn't at all illegal.
Mrs. Mackay, just throwing that out there.
a married woman could not be raped by her husband since they were one flesh a very biblical concept.
Hmm... if they are one flesh, then if she cannot be raped by the husband, then the husband cannot be raped by the wife...
Hey John...? Has your wife ever heard of "Strap-ons"? And have you prepared your anus for the "totallynotrapehonest" entertainment you're going to receive?
Oh, suddenly rape can happen even if you're "one flesh"? Funny how that works, isn't it? :)
I hate to burst the bubble of the commenters here who are confidently assuring everybody that marital rape has been a crime for way longer than 20 years, but it only became illegal in all 50 states in 1993. There are still considerable problems with its execution even today, thanks largely to our incredibly misogynistic culture and the fine work of idiots like John Mackay. Things are improving as a result of continued lobbying on behalf of feminist groups, but it's by no means a perfect situation.
And the atheists are still the evil ones, right? Of course back in the day women were raped by their husbands. Just, legally, it was not considered rape and women were basically powerless to do anything about it. Misogyny was prevalent and in many ways it still is today. The bible humpers are trying their damnedest to drag us backward as they want to keep women under their thumb, using religion to make it acceptable because it's "biblical."
Love is a choice that benefits another, huh? Pretty sure that shouldn't involve doing something you don't want to do because otherwise you're "forcing" your partner away or you're "asking" to be raped. I like how he makes women out to be the ones who use sex as a weapon by not wanting to have sex. Also like how women are blamed for "forcing" men to do things. And it's great how a man is "compassionate" when he does not rape his wife and accepts she doesn't want to have sex. A godly husband's basically psychic when it comes to his wife's feelings and needs, apparently.
Maybe because women and men, regardless of whether they're married or not, have I dunno, feelings?! That free will you talk about? Maybe because if you force someone to have sex, even if you're married to them, that's considered rape?! of course it's considered a crime, because rape is really, really fucking awful to do. Sure, they're still alive, but they're very likely damaged from that.
The definition didn't exist twenty years ago because we were different twenty years ago. The world changes. Every day, it's the end of the world as we know it, for better or for worse, because the world constantly changes.
Oh, and on top of this, I agree with the idea that if a man or woman tries to force sex on someone, that's rape. I'm a Christian. So when even people who are sharing your religion think you're really insane, terrible, and dangerous, maybe you should think about yourself.
Shame on you. Just... shame on you, Mackay. You're saying that if someone's wife says "No.", they can have sex with her anyway? That's... wow. I don't say this often, but go fuck yourself. Oh wait, that's probably the only way you'd get any, anyhow. At least I hope you're not married or dating.
Speaking as someone from a country where marital rape still isn't considered a crime, I think Johnny here is a piece of shit.
We've been trying to pass a law in parliament for years now that would protect women from marital abuse, especially beatings and rape. There have been a few case that really struck public opinion, after a man bashed his wife's head in with a kettle after she refused him.
Now guess which part of the population has been stalling the law for the past few years, and is seeking to weaken it to the point where it's effectively neutered?
Good thing we've moved on from twenty years ago, and abandoned that so called "Biblical" idea of "one flesh".
Fuck you, John Mackay, and your whole delusional flock.
So... your wife wears a massive strap on to bed - ribbed far more for her pleasure than yours - and tells you that tonight you're having sex in the positions she wants for a change and not to make any plans for the next morning...
Do you suddenly have a headache? Is your flesh still shared property? Is being on the other end of the phallus still the spousal duty?
"The modern atheist mind wants to use modern their definition of rape as an absolute, such that a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married, and if he insists on sex, then that is rape and the male is legally guilty of a crime.
And the fact that you think that this is a bad thing just shows that you are a horrible human being.
One atheist University student we discussed this with was shocked to find such a definition did not exist even 20 years ago.
Yeah, some people are shockingly ignorant about even recent history and about how good we have it today, compared to even just a few decades ago. Or did you mean something else?
Before that in most a western cultures, a married woman could not be raped by her husband since they were one flesh a very biblical concept. Since the Biblical concept of love makes love not a feeling, but a choice which benefits another, then the Godly man has already figured out if she has a headache coming on, and such compassion means that she never needs to use sex as a weapon, or a legal threat, because a Godly woman is wise enough to never deny her husband to the point where she is forcing him to go elsewhere. "
If it is a choice then how come the wife can “never deny” her husband sex?
Another asshole theist telling the world what athiests want, or believe, or are thinking. If you aren't an athiest how do you know? And how could you then generalize it to be anything more than what YOU think?
Moron.
"The modern atheist mind wants to use modern their definition of rape as an absolute, such that a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married..."
Dude, I'm not an atheist (Christian Wiccan) and I agree. Men AND women *are* autonomous.
Go fuck yourself because obviously nobody else will.
No means no. If you can't understand that, you need remedial preschool.
What about forced marriage that happened without the consent of the wife? Is that rape?
What about people who get a civil marriage at a city clerk rather than at a church? Can only godly people who married in church be exempt from legal rape?
If the man turns his back on his religion, can he then rape his wife?
If the woman turns her back on her religion, can she be raped by her husband? If so, will the husband go to hell?
@Grackle...
I don't want to burst your bubble, but there is a whole world out there that isn't the US... and and some parts of it made marital rape a crime long before 1993.
For an example, it's been illegal to rape your wife since 1932 in Poland... which is slightly more than 20 years ago. (which simply shows that the "moral superiority" that certain sections of US society likes to crow about was anything but in some cases)
A man is never forced to go elsewhere for sex. Its being a mature adult person who has some care of his partner and a tiny bit of self control, otherwise known as not letting your little head run the show.
If she has a headache give her a tylenol and wait an hour :-)
And near the end of that article he has the nerve to say:
"Their atheism which uses evolution to justify their rejection of the Creator God, provides them with no durable moral basis for any rules, including what is or is not rape! "
...a woman both before and after marriage is an autonomous being who has rights to resist any man including the man she married...
The fact that you're so blatantly admitting that you think women & girls should have no autonomy whatsoever shows that you don't know morality from a hole in the ground.
It's interesting how frummers used to be so discreet & dog-whistley about their views...nowadays they just come right out and say it! I'm glad they're so honest, these days...it helps progressives combat them better.
To this Mackay turkey, I say, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart...
PLEASE SODOMIZE YOURSELF WITH A SAGUARO CACTUS, DRINK A DIARRHEA-AND-VOMIT MILKSHAKE & DIE IN A FIRE!
Thank you.
(Passerby)
"So... your wife wears a massive strap on to bed - ribbed far more for her pleasure than yours - and tells you that tonight you're having sex in the positions she wants for a change and not to make any plans for the next morning..."
Stop it, you're turning me on. *moanwhimpersigh*
Just looked for the situation in France, Marital rape is criminalized since 1992. 60 years after Poland.
Seems like it is technically an "aggravated form of marital violence". No matter, as long as it's punished...
@1658586
I actually do know that there is another world outside the US. For example, there is the UK, which is where I live. (Perhaps you should hold off on the knee-jerk anti-American response next time?) The reason I specifically mentioned US law is because John Mackay is American and presumably many of the commenters here are as well. I'm more than fine with being wrong on this last point. Either way, well-deserved cheers go to Poland for being so progressive; they certainly were way ahead of most of the world.
First, Moses either is made up or could have provided an even better situation for the Midianite girls; citizenship and no rape by forced marriage or any other means. The other option, forced marriage elsewhere, being worse doesn't make the one given acceptable. I'm an Atheist who can easily define rape. It's forced sex. It's always wrong! Wow! People who don't argue well just won't shut up!
This is how fucked up that guy is. His statements get worse as he goes on:
What’s the real issue then? As we repeatedly tell the atheists, If they were god we would be impressed by their rules about sex ad rape and marriage, but since they are not god, and had nothing to do with the origin of sex, nor why it works so well, we defer to the real God who actually did create man and woman, and sex, and has the right to tell us what is wrong!’ Their atheism which uses evolution to justify their rejection of the Creator God, provides them with no durable moral basis for any rules, including what is or is not rape!
So then in other words, without biblegod telling him, he would have no reason to say that raping someone was wrong. That's a slam on his own morality, not the atheists!
And he shows that he has no sense of irony here:
Now for one helpful last point about how to deal with claims about how cruel it was to kill all the Midianites including the boy children. Just ask them again if they believe in a woman’s rights over her own body, then move on to the right to abortion on demand, then subtly bring up how many children they have put to death in the last decade
and the answer is millions. Then politely tell them they are gross hypocrites!
Icing on the cake award? "Politely" tell them that they are "gross hypocrites"!
The perfect response to that? Point out that at least it's something the woman chose, as opposed to having a divinely-mandated sword thrust through her gut that kills both her and the baby! And they pretend to be "pro-life"! Yet the one who ordered that many times in the OT is "holy", and morally perfect in their eyes.
Then tell them bluntly that they are the complete hypocrites with no fucking sense of morality other than "divine command theory".
"The Creation Guy"
Ken Hambone took on a certain Science Guy.
He had his arse handed to him by Bill Nye.
A Cre(a)ti(o)n Guy took on a Lawyer.
A Statutory Rapist had more than his arse handed to him by Doug 'Piranha' Jones.
So many like Roy Less are gonna be politically raped in just three short months.
By so many Atheist minds.
Even worse? Read what his next paragraph has to say: He basically admits that creationist *need* their god to tell them that rape itself is wrong, and that they are therefore morally superior to atheists because we don’t have any “durable moral basis for any rules”.
Holy shit
“What’s the real issue then? As we repeatedly tell the atheists, ‘If they were god we would be impressed by their rules about sex ad rape and marriage, but since they are not god, and had nothing to do with the origin of sex, nor why it works so well, we defer to the real God who actually did create man and woman, and sex, and has the right to tell us what is wrong!’ Their atheism which uses evolution to justify their rejection of the Creator God, provides them with no durable moral basis for any rules, including what is or is not rape!”
So not content merely setting a grotesque double standard on lust and adultery while trivializing rape this is a statement turning marriage as an institution into little more than an exchange of flesh for limited benefit far from any recognizable concept of love let alone righteousness rendering marriage an empty concept. Further painting "Biblical" morality overall not a code of personal conduct and responsibility but a series of excuses to exempt a favoured class of individual from judgement for what is normally considered immoral while they retain the right to moralize and even punish the unfavoured for the same "sins" rendering morality not just subjective but downright meaningless as well. Unless you consider threats of harm from a supernatural being meaningful making morality a purely self-serving concept.
... And yet it's the godless who cannot understand the concepts of good, morality, law, or virtue? And would supposedly be rampaging hedonistic monsters if not for the influence of "Biblical" morality which is a threat-based might-makes-right elitest sadist show of victim blaming that scoffs at the notion of sexual agency, women as anything but their sexual organs, or even an inherent wrongness in actions ranging from infidelity and betrayal to outright murder depending on the actor and their place in the social order vs their victim. Oh, and pretty explicitly mandates child abuse at several points as well as saying the only thing wrong with incest is that you might be tapping something your dad - the favoured class of individual - has already claimed or might be interested in repeatedly excusing incestuous rape and even weaving tales of divine punishment falling on those who take umbrage with the rapist.
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