has a perfect 10 fantasy somewhere in their head? Yourself included?

Men and women play fundamentally different roles in sex/dating/marriage. It is extremely well established that men partner with women of equal or lower status than them while women partner in the opposite direction (obviously). This is to say the criteria for a man looking for a woman has a ceiling. A man will never expect a woman to be better than him, she just needs to be good enough to have kids with and raise a family.

In contrast, a potential man has a fucking unlimited ceiling for a woman looking for a partner, and even worse, the floor is at the level of that woman (the egalitarian nature of the labor market now, which is fine by me, means women have relatively higher independent status than ever before)

This means the man's "fantasy" is constrained in an incredibly reasonable fashion while the woman truly has a fantasy.

A man's "requirements" sets up a delineated pool of women who "compete" against one another, but this band is narrow enough that the women who make it up are largely indistinguishable apart from their personality/behaviour (agreeable, supportive, nurturing women are preferable). A women's requirements means every single guy at her status and above are potentially competing for her, from her perspective.

This is actually one of the more valuable insights the blackpill has to offer and I strongly predict all sorts of bi-partisan data backs this idea. If you disagree with anything here point it out and we'll discuss.

You guys refer to it as hitting a wall and settling, but why is that settling

It's settling because it happens when a woman is 35, past her prime, has had plenty of sexual partners, is less able to share novel experiences, and of course the man is likely to have been moderately to severely deprived of sexual and romantic contact during his prime years because the woman was expecting an extremely high level guy to partner with her because she's worth it. This period of deprivation is damaging in a way that cannot be denied or diminished and will only naturally be experienced as unfair and a cause for resentment.

We're all sexual creatures, but we aren't limited to being only sexual creatures. We need companionship, affection, and support. All of us

Women want to have their cake and eat it too. They limit themselves to being sexual creatures between ages 18-35 then start clamouring for companionship, affection, and support from the new men they settle with when previously it was hardly a requirement.

You think it's hyperbole but literally every girl I've been in highschool with, college, and out in the world (I'm 25) now who isn't married (which is most) is basically Chad chasing without any serious effort to find a guy who is willing to provide companionship, affection, support, and commitment.

If you're implying that I, for example, would leave my husband for another guy if he had my husband's personality but was better looking, you're just incorrect. I

You wouldn't leave your husband now because it's just so deeply impractical because too much has been built there. But if, when you met your husband, another guy identical in every way but hotter showed up and pursued you - you'd choose the hotter guy.

Even if you knew your husband a month and had ascertained he was likely to be a good long term partner, you would still choose the hotter version of he pursued you. If you deny this, you are either delusional or wholly untruthful.