Oh dear.
I'm sure TasketeAnon has little to no interest in finding out what kinks and fetishes are *actually* out there, nor the distribution between men and women. But if he ever feels inclined to read up on that, then there's a great book on common womens' sexual fantasies in a book called My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.
Turns out, we women are interested in much more varied fare than this 'Chad' strawman. The nearest to the truth TA's Chad fetish theory gets is that women are generally less likely to fantasise about skinny young men. Just to run through the chapter list of Nancy's book, women fantasize about:
- Anonymity (where they can imagine letting go and doing as they please because nobody knows who they are)
- Having an audience
- Rape (I'm in good company here, so I know I can rely on you good people to understand the premise of this one: that fantasizing about rape is not true rape because the fantasist remains in control)
- Pain and masochism
- Domination (before any incels reading this get onto their vertically-gifted donkeys about how women secretly love to be dominated, this fantasy swings both ways, with different women liking either being dominated, or doing the dominating, and indeed some being interested in both)
- Eroticized terror (think of the sexual tilt of some of those horror films)
- Forbidden/taboo things (examples given in the book include cheating during a houseparty under tight time and space constraints, and teasing somebody who is not their partner to the point that the target has to masturbate)
- Transformation
- Earth goddess fantasies (insert commentary here about exceptional fertility)
- Incest (just, please, nobody tell Alia)
- Animals (with a focus on animals with big genitalia, such as bulls or horses, and on dogs, which have very slurpy tongues and, crucially, are friendly but do not judge us. As an extra note, while big penises can visually be a turn-on, the possibility of having to accommodate one freaks most of us out. I wonder whether TA thought about that when he wrote his oh-so-varied list?)
- Men of colour (not that the incels will believe that)
- Prostitution (possibly because here one gets to play with power, taboo and concepts surrounding desire)
As a final note, the piss/shit fetishes tend to be more popular among men than women, at an approximate ratio of 4:1.
