(EyesOpen)
I witness your pain and understand it from the perspective of the same story except it is a daughter who tries to look like and act like a man.

Me too: " it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away. It’s not because I’ve stopped loving you. It’s because I feel like I’m watching you slowly disappear into something that is harming you — something that could limit your future, isolate you, and leave you broken-hearted. That kind of pain is unbearable. Sometimes, being near you like this is too much, because it reminds me of how far we are from the path I believe would allow you to flourish."

Yes, we parents have grief. And the hard part on top of everything you wrote is having that grief mocked. So many layers of grief!

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(AlexEsq)
identity is earned through actual activities in the world. No "authentic" identity can be purchased from surgeons or with drugs. Lying about who you are does not make the lie a truth.