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Allison #transphobia pittparents.com

Exactly the same receipts with my son, too! He still loves his computer building and now is creating soft ware. I haven't seen or heard from him except once in 10 years but I've been informed he's well and employed at the moment. In my case both my daughters- his big sisters whom he admired and respected groomed him as Trans they being nauseating strident feminists. Hey they get to display their trans flags in their front yards,though. By association they are so cool, they think.

George Q Tyrebyter #transphobia pittparents.com

This statement "Trans people themselves are not the enemy – far from it." is not correct. Trans people ARE the enemy. Once the trans psychosis has been accepted as a guiding belief, there is a lot of interest in getting others to also accept this. Trans actors (Ellen Page who calls herself "Elliot") present "exemplars" of successful trans persons.

The trans are often not the prime movers, true. But do not give them a pass.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I am in a couple of online groups where parents of ROGD boys meet. We say that we are different as parents but we all have the same son. This boy is typically very intelligent, nerdy, non-athletic, and as a child was interested, no… obsessed with specific “boy” toys and interests. Surveys of ~ 300 parents indicate that almost 92% of our sons fit in this category.

[...]

So, when my son came out to me at 19 and told me that he was a woman trapped in a man’s body, I nearly fainted from shock. What happened since that initial declaration, was that my son, like many of our boys, changed the narrative about his life, his story and the interests he had as a boy and teenager. He started acting differently to try to force himself into fitting into his new “female” identity.

Last week, I decided that it was time to go through the items my son left behind when he moved out of our home and changed his identity as our son. There were containers full of toys, videos and video games, all attesting to the fact that his interests were always those of a typical boy. I found thousands of Legos and K-nex pieces, dozens of Ben Ten and superhero figurines, piles of superhero DVDs, car racing video games (he took all the Mario games!), train, trucks and matchbox car collections, strategy-based board games, etc. I texted my mom friends, “I have receipts!” while sending them photos of the items. We had a funny exchange where we found out that our kids had the exact same toys and many of the same interests when they were growing up. Several of us still have Thomas the Tank train collections, Legos and circuit boards. I am hanging on to those toys. I can’t bear to part with them. Those are receipts that I plan to keep, just in case…

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Code names. Secret messages passed in the dark. Covert operations. Hiding from the authorities. Are we talking about 1944 in Europe? Sadly, no: We’re talking about 2021 and our secret resistance is taking place all over the world.

Instead of spies and resistance fighters inside enemy-occupied borders, we are parents of gender questioning children, who are skeptical of the weakly-evidenced, affirmation-only approach currently being pushed by activists and activist-captured organizations (including the Lancet, whose most recent cover insults women and our girls by calling them “bodies with vaginas”).

Rather than codes and secret messages, we pass copies of Abigail Shrier’s Irreversible Damage wrapped in plain brown paper to curious friends. We interact on secret online groups, and write articles and letters using fake names and emails to obscure our true identities due to the very real risk of cancellation and doxing. All we have to do is look at the appalling and one-sided treatment of J.K. Rowling to know we should stay quiet.

[...]


Perhaps some will find the comparison to the Resistance of WWII insulting. But for us parents, it’s very real and very apt. Our kids’ lives and long-term mental and physical health are on the line. And so we fight for their future selves, for who they may become.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

“At the rate we’re transing kids, soon there will be no gay people left”. […] Does anyone find that funny? I don’t. But the eradication of the gay community is exactly what is happening right now, today, thanks to gender ideology.

[…] The older sister of one of my friends was a classic tomboy […] later, I learned that she was gay. […] I’ve thought about her a lot lately. I have no doubt that if she had grown up in the last 20 years, she would now have a beard, no breasts, and would be going by a male name. She would have been trans-ed. Concerned doctors and therapists would have counseled her and convinced her that she was actually a man in a woman’s body, and that she would be at risk of suicide if she didn’t “transition”. Of course, not every tomboy is gay, but does anyone see any tomboys anymore? Nope.

[…]

What’s really creepy about this assault on the gay community, and gay kids in particular, is that if someone tried to strategize ways to eliminate a specific community or religion or social group, without the group’s knowledge, transitioning that population via gender ideology is precisely how it could be done. Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally, and eliminate the younger members of the group. Eventually, the group will shrink and disappear.

[…] All the organizations that have represented the gay community now also represent trans-identified individuals. You rarely see LGB organizations or references to LGB-specific issues […] Other organizations that have been friendly to gays and lesbians in the past, like the ACLU, now include and even prioritize trans issues. Gays and lesbians are forced to accept trans-identified individuals in all situations, even though around 50% of those individuals are quite probably gay and have been transitioned […] This is a wicked, sneaky assault - trans the gay kids and in a generation there will be no more gays.

[…]

Gender ideology is the new conversion therapy, and it’s working.

PS, Caricapr, LovingMother #transphobia #homophobia pittparents.com

(PS)
Where’s our hotline?

“Press 1 if your child was carefully groomed and scammed into permanently altering her body to perpetuate a false idea and rejecting you, and now your family is falling apart and you’ve been crying in secret for a week straight but you can’t say anything because even at the freakin’ grocery store there are pride flags everywhere and drag queens at the checkout lane and you have a smile on your face but you feel like you are going to have an aneurysm.”

“Para español oprima el dos.”

(Caricapr)
I remember being so distraught that I texted a suicide hotline because I was shaking and couldn’t stop… It didn’t seem like they understood or cared about the trauma I was going through of my son essentially killing himself because he “dead-named” my child, killed our relationship, and killed our closeness. Thankfully he isn’t actually dead and we’ve been able to regain a new relationship. It’s not the same, there’s still hurt on both sides, he’s still on the same path, I’m still not allowed to use his dead name, but there’s always hope 🙏🙏🙏

(LovingMother)
Right? If this were not upside down land that is the hotline we would have.

Crying privately for years now - LM

Sly Fawkes #transphobia pittparents.com

If I were growing up now, I'd almost certainly have been convinced I was "born in the wrong body," would have undergone transition procedures, and then come to regret it.

[…]

When I was in my fifties, I discovered that I have ADHD and am on the autism spectrum. I would say that many girls in this category have complex PTSD because of bullying. When I was fifteen, I was sexually assaulted by a nineteen-year-old guy, and I really started acting out. If I'd been offered the opportunity to become part of a special, protected class of people (trans kids), I almost certainly would have taken it. I was tired of fighting. I would have done just about anything to become someone else rather than myself, whom I had learned to despise.

The thing is, though, no matter where you go, there you are.

Some people do have severe, persistent dysphoria about their biological sex. The majority of adolescents presenting with rapid-onset gender dysphoria will desist. These young people need counseling to explore the reasons for their dysphoria, not cross-sex hormones and surgeries.

Transing away the LGB, the autistic, and the gender-nonconforming is not a joke. It's ironic that TRAs are always shrieking about "trans genocide" when they are the most celebrated oppressed class ever.

Jennifer Bond Baker #transphobia pittparents.com

My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things. See work by Jennifer Bilek. It’s not ok for kids. It’s not ok for adults. It’s not. Ok. Ever.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

If the trans movement cared about children, they wouldn’t push parents out of their children’s lives. Children need their parents. The narrative is being pushed that parents of LGBTQ are bad. Even in the law, you are innocent until proven guilty. But if your child says they are “trans” you are guilty until proven innocent. To prove you are innocent, you must harm your own child by transitioning them. You are not allowed to ask questions; you can only follow the child’s lead. Fortunately, a new law just passed in North Carolina that says it's not abuse for parents to refuse their kid's gender transition. This is going in the right direction, and we need this in all states.

The Trevor Project is also anti-family. It perpetuates secrets and encourages minors to talk with strangers. We all grew up knowing that if someone told you to keep secrets from your parents, that person is not to be trusted. But in the trans world, keeping secrets from parents is encouraged. In normal times, if a child is suicidal, the parents would be the first to know. But somehow this logic switched to the idea that teachers and random people care more about “trans” children than parents do - all without a shred a proof. No one cares more about their child than their parents! Why does this even have to be explained?

A random person talking to a minor and keeping secrets with that minor is a child predator NOT a child protector.

[…] The Trevor Project is a well-funded activist group pushing policies that keep parents in the dark and insert gender ideology into K-12 schools.

Finally, common sense is coming back. The Trevor project suicide hotline closed on July 17th. It is one less organization pushing the suicide myth.

[…]

Children are very innocent and naive and that’s why this movement has gone after them. Children like mine. We must keep fighting back against organizations like The Trevor Project. We must stop this movement before more children get hurt, like mine has been.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I Belong to An Oppressed Group

We have been around since the beginning of civilization. Now they want to erase us. Our rights are being stripped away; our voices silenced. They disrespect us and treat us with hate. We have had to band together in secret but our voices will become louder until society finally accepts us for who we are, for our true selves.

WE are PARENTS who deeply LOVE our children; even though they don't believe us and have been encouraged to completely cut us out of their lives. We want our children to be able to lead HEALTHY happy lives. We want them in our lives no matter how bumpy the road. Life is not perfect and neither are we.

A Loving Parent

Linda H, THE ARTILECT, Alexander Joseph Hamburger, Patrick #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

(Linda H)
“Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally…” This applies to autism as well. I’ve spoken with parents of autistic children who have shared how trans activists are aggressively pushing their agenda and propaganda in these groups. I think it was autism specialist Tony Attwood who said a few years back, “This is beginning to look worryingly like backdoor eugenics.”

(THE ARTILECT)
Backdoor? They are at the front door with ramrods. And a warrant. :-(

(Alexander Joseph Hamburger)
This is full on eugenics. A group of people is alleged to be defective, and the “solution” is to sterilize them. Got autism? Let’s sterilize. Depression? Sterilize! Attention deficit disorder? Sterilize. Gay? Sterilize.

(Linda H)
No kidding!

(Patrick)
The impact on autistic children is the most devastating to me. Instead of getting treatment for autism they are being redirected towards a lifetime of plastic surgeries & hormone therapy. The vast majority aren't even required to have any interaction at all with any behavioral health services. Straight to the endo.

(Linda H)
Our son’s university lined him up with a “gender affirming” counselor but she totally disregarded the thorough evaluation we put him through and told us she felt he wasn’t really autistic but rather trans. He was sent straight to the endo while the university was working to provide him with free hormones. (This was 2014.) Little did we know that while he was being enabled by them in this delusion, he was also being groomed online by a predator. He disappeared suddenly six months later and we haven’t seen him since. It was bad enough to see this happen to our son at the college level but it makes me furious to see how they are now preying on younger and younger children.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Every day

I read, I listen,
I think

Every day
I read
Bernard Lane
Jamie Reed
Mia Hughes
Eyes Open
PITT
(and hundreds more)

Every day
I listen
Helen Joyce
Stella O'Malley
Colin Wright
Eliza Mondegreen
Jennifer Sey
(and hundreds more)

Every day
I celebrate
Cass, Skrmetti, HHS, COHERE
The WPATH Files, Sturm, UPenn
(and hundreds more)

While every day
I long
For my son
Who
Despite my reading
Despite my listening
Despite my celebrating

Despite me

Is not one step closer to me
Not one step out of the cult.

"Me me MEEE!!!1" Award

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

At the end of August last year, my grandson announced his new feminine name and pronouns. His mother, my oldest daughter, immediately notified the school to change his information in their records and took him to shop for girl school clothes. I was shocked when my daughter left me an upbeat message telling me about this change. I called her back to let her know that I needed time to get informed about all this before I could be on board for the change. All three of my daughters were very distressed by my unwillingness to immediately affirm and, from that point on, all contact with my grandchildren was screened by my daughters. They passed on only messages they agreed with. Text messages, phone calls, and emails were banned. I was accused of being dangerous to my grandchildren. I was told that the only way I would be able get back direct contact with them was to agree to use only my grandson’s preferred name and pronouns. My only supporter was my youngest son who said he would not attend any family gatherings where my grandson was present if it was conditional on affirmation. I couldn’t believe what was happening!

Lately, I have been contemplating agreeing to use preferred language so that I can regain my relationships with them.

[…]

However, I just finished reading “Lost in Trans Nation - A Child Psychologist’s Guide Out of the Madness” by Miriam Grossman, MD. […] Now, I’m caught in a dilemma. From the book I learned that using preferred language can solidify the identity confusion, yet if I don’t use it, I have no avenue for building relationships with my grandchildren.

[…]

As much as I believe the book to be true and a valuable resource, it has knocked me off my feet again. I was leaning towards announcing to my children that I was going to use preferred words, and I was shakily confident that I was on the right track. Now?????

Jennifer Bond Baker #transphobia pittparents.com

My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I remember thinking even then that something must be wrong with my daughter, a stomach bug or the first symptoms of the flu perhaps. Whatever it was, she looked pale and unwell sitting across from me. I half-expected her to vomit.

“So, what’s this all about?” Zack asked her. “What’s going on with you?”

She danced around it for a while as we sat there, waiting for her to say something meaningful.

Eventually, she came out with it: “I have gender dysphoria; I feel more like a boy than a girl. I’ve always known something was wrong with me. Now I’ve discovered what it is. I’m going to start living my life as a male—my authentic self—and I want you to use he/him pronouns when you refer to me.”

I stared at her. The things she was saying were so ridiculous that I almost laughed. As a psychiatrist, I’ve been trained not to do that, but still, it almost happened. She could have said, “From now on, I’m going to communicate only through puppets, and I’ll be wearing a hat with rotting fish on my head,” and I would not have been more surprised than I was in that moment. Zack shifted in his seat, as if he was experiencing a bit of intestinal malaise, and again I almost lost it. The laughter wanted to bubble out of me, but I pushed it down and told myself to be still. I wonder what might have happened if I hadn’t. How would she have responded if I had laughed out loud and said, “Okay, cut the shit and tell us what’s really going on with you.” How might that have changed everything that followed?

Grandma Eileen #transphobia pittparents.com

[Context: Comment on a PITT post whining about how the poster adopted a child who supposedly later became a trans furry]

You are not alone - we understand the evilness of this cult as it poisons our children's minds. You were kind enough to take in a homeless baby girl and provide for her, protect her, and love her. She was influenced by social media, then groomed, and then affirmed. It is not your fault. Enjoy the calmness, we understand that, too.

Marta Gillette #transphobia pittparents.com

You can't allow yourself to be bullied into using preferred pronouns or affirming a child's delusion. Stay strong, and set the example. Going along with madness adds to the flame and convinces others to go along as well. Also, stop sending gifts. It's madness to offer love and only receive repudiation back.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

["A Letter to My Son: From a Grieving Mother Who Still Loves Him Deeply"]

As a woman, it is incredibly painful to see men adopt what they believe are “feminine” traits, clothing, or mannerisms and call that womanhood. To me, it feels like a caricature — like our lived experiences, our biology, our lifelong struggles are being reduced to a performance or aesthetic. I don’t say this to hurt you. I say it because my womanhood was not chosen — it has been lived, in body and soul — and when I see someone attempt to replicate it externally, it feels like a wound. Not just for me, but for all women — including your grandmother, aunts and sister.

There is something else I have struggled to explain. Being asked to use a new name and new pronouns feels like I’m being forced to say something I simply don’t believe is true. It’s like being expected to live in an Orwellian world, where I’m asked to deny what I see with my own eyes. Imagine if I came home one day and said, “I’m a toaster now. Please call me Breville and treat me like one.” You would know I’m not a toaster — and being expected to play along would feel surreal, maybe even sad. That’s how it feels to me. I am not mocking you — I’m trying to explain how painful it is to be asked to override my own perception of reality just to make others comfortable.

And finally, the most difficult truth to admit: when I see you dressed this way — in a bra and with fake breasts and very odd clothing — it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

[The author's describing their relationship with a transgender daughter]

That’s when I found it, a link to his Bluesky account and a blog, after he’d told me about a thread he’d joined there. What I read made me feel physically sick. On his profile, he described himself as a trans lesbian, now on estrogen. I kept scrolling, my heart sinking with each post. There were repeated cries for help: “I want to kill myself,” “I’m so lonely.” Post after post radiated despair.

Then I saw a photo of vials of estrogen. He had been buying hormones online and injecting himself. There were links to music he’d made - dark, noise music. The titles told a story of despair and loneliness. In some, he could be heard crying, whispering pleas. There were photos of self-harm on his legs. There were even nude images of him, images nobody should feel the need to share publicly.

Then the final blow: he wasn’t just visiting a nearby city. He was flying to a foreign country to meet someone he called his “wife.” I was horrified. Panicked. I picked up the phone and called him immediately, desperate to understand what was happening, and how we had gotten here.

He was angry when he found out I had seen his profile, but he agreed, reluctantly, to share his flight details and put me in touch with the parents of the boy he was going to visit. I was slightly reassured that his story checked out. Still, I couldn’t shake the feeling of dread. At that point, I was imagining the worst. He’s now back home. We’ve talked. I’ve cried a lot. This shouldn’t be happening to vulnerable children. When I see people publicly celebrating “trans pride,” I feel a deep anger.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

One day I got a call from the school psychologist who said Bekah had talked about suicide. Not long after that we switched her to another school where she claimed she was autistic.

After finally finishing high school, Bekah further delved into being a furry. Then she took a step further and she told us she born to be a man. We tried to be good parents, and we were not positive what to do but I will tell you this ... mental health/furry/trans seem to be connected.

After school she moved out. Next thing, I am looking at my husband’s Amazon account and see something that made me wonder... who is buying these items and why? I asked my husband about the purchases while my mother-in-law was in the room and she gasped when she heard my question. She said the items were for someone getting a mastectomy. We knew who that was. I was devastated.

I still don't get how they let someone who is bi-polar have this kind of surgery. My mother-in-law took it upon herself to write Bekah and point out that she was born a girl and that God didn't make mistakes. In response to that letter, Bekah called and screamed at me. She said she never wanted to see or talk to me again. That was five years ago. Elias (yes, she changed her name) now lives in Chicago with her partner. I would give almost anything to talk to my child. Just to say “Hi, how are you?” “I love you and miss you!” but, truth be told, I am okay with the calmness of my life now.

Susan Z #transphobia pittparents.com

(Context: Replying to a slightly less insane person talking about how they deal with addressing a trans relative)

But as my son's mother I just can't use his now legal woman name. Just can not do it. For me as his mother, who brought him into the world and devoted myself to his upbringing, it just hurts too much. Because I know why he changed his name. Its not a "stage name" or pseudonym for his profession. The only reason he changed his name is to present to others he is now a "woman". So for me to acknowledge the new legal name would be to acknowledge the metaphorical death of my son. But that's just me.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

If the trans movement cared about children, they wouldn’t push parents out of their children’s lives. Children need their parents. The narrative is being pushed that parents of LGBTQ are bad. Even in the law, you are innocent until proven guilty. But if your child says they are “trans” you are guilty until proven innocent. To prove you are innocent, you must harm your own child by transitioning them. You are not allowed to ask questions; you can only follow the child’s lead. Fortunately, a new law just passed in North Carolina that says it's not abuse for parents to refuse their kid's gender transition. This is going in the right direction, and we need this in all states.

[...]

The Trevor Project is a well-funded activist group pushing policies that keep parents in the dark and insert gender ideology into K-12 schools. Finally, common sense is coming back. The Trevor project suicide hotline closed on July 17th.

Peppercape #transphobia pittparents.com

Both my children were very active in scouts from the beginning and completed their highest honors. I remain an active adult in the program thirty years later in the venturing program. I love adventure and I treasured sharing it with my family. The happy family chapter closed 3 years ago with my daughter in the trans cult. Overnight, from kids that called her mom as the positive influence, to political left chaos. All she talked about was blue states and Bidens legacy. The heroes Biden called trans. Suddenly, she got tattoos and frequented the marijuana stores. She went from two jobs at age 23 to one then none and wanted "me time". She went from two degrees in a great job of five years to waiting tables then drugs. Her new room mate replaced the other, going be he pronouns. He and they, went as blue as could be into Newsome territory. It's been over two years since she moved, no contact of course with anyone here. She would be 27 later this year. Most people would never understand this kind of pain. I hurt and cry every single day. Barely existing. It sucks.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

At some point, maybe when the boys got significantly bigger than me, I started to think of the three of them as “my guys,” my husband and my two sons. They thought and acted differently than I did, took up more space, and needed to behave differently in front of their peers. As the only woman in their lives, I considered it my duty to teach them how to act around women and accepted that bathroom humor and insults were part of the language they used among themselves.

They were my world and I loved them deeply. Now I am excluded from their group, not because they want to do “guy” things, but because my youngest says he wants to do “woman” things. He sometimes dresses in ill-fitting and unattractive dresses and says he wants to use the women’s bathroom. He says he has to take hormones so he can do these things. In my family women maintain contact with parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, organize family gatherings, and provide care for family members in need. My youngest does not do these things, nor do his father and brother. They do not even answer when I call and text.

I remember loving them, the smell of my children’s heads, joining in their fantasy games, and doing everything I could to be there when they needed me.

GenderRealistMom #homophobia #transphobia pittparents.com

Yes, first the gay pride rainbow became tainted and then pretty much any rainbow. When I saw a rainbow on a facebook group of Noahides, I flinched - even though it wasn't a gay pride rainbow but a religious symbol. I even flinched once when I saw pink-and-blue stripped sky as it reminded me of the progress flag. Trans cult destroys everything.

Pamela Garfield-Jaeger #transphobia pittparents.com

Froggy Girl is a rhyming picture book about a little girl who wishes she was a frog, and her parents, teacher, and friends support her wish. However, despite their support, the girl still struggles because she realizes she couldn’t do all the froggy things which left her feeling sad and lonely. She then goes on a walk and meets a wise turtle that helps her appreciate herself as the beautiful little girl that she is.

[...]

I was inspired to write Froggy Girl because I saw the countless number of books that lead children to believe that they were born wrong. Some books even teach kids that they are boring or invisible if they have a healthy relationship with their bodies.

Today, I put in a search for Children’s LGBT books into Amazon, here are a few titles that popped up: “Phoenix Goes to School, A Story to Support Transgender and Gender Diverse Children”, “Who are You? The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity”, “Eugene the Unicorn: A Kid’s Book to help start LGBTQ Inclusive Conversations”. “The Every Body Book: The LGBTQ+ inclusive Guide for Kids about Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families”, “My History, My Gender, Me”, “Love Lives Here: A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family”, “I’ve always wanted a daughter: A Memoir of Parenting a Transgender Child”, “She’s My Dad! A Story for Children Who have a Transgender Parent or Relative”, “My Awesome Brother: A children’s book about transgender acceptance”, “Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum”, …the list goes on and on.

I have no marketing team or big name publisher behind me like Scholastic, who published an entire education package for K-12 educators called “Read With Pride” in 2024, which has been distributed in schools and libraries nationwide. All of these LGBTQIA+ books are confusing for children and it’s disturbing.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

We’re seeing a growing number of young people who are highly intelligent, introverted, anxious, and deeply immersed in virtual environments […]

[…]

An empty, unguarded mind becomes fertile ground for whatever is planted.

If truth isn’t being sown, something else will be.

In these spaces, there’s often a constant encouragement to question everything — especially your identity. Who you are. What you are. Why you feel out of place. These questions, asked in isolation and echoed in groupthink environments, can spiral into deep confusion — especially for youth who are already struggling socially or emotionally.

And when someone who’s feeling unseen finally finds a community that says, “We see you. You belong here. Your feelings define your truth,” — that’s incredibly powerful. But it can also be deeply misleading.

What many forget is this: affirmation doesn’t always equal truth. And confusion is not clarity just because it’s widely echoed.

The transgender ideology, when introduced through these platforms without critical context or balanced perspectives, can become more than a personal journey — it becomes a trend, a tribal badge, or worse, a misdiagnosed solution to deeper issues like anxiety, trauma, loneliness, or a craving for belonging.

Sometimes I think about it this way: today, a young person may say they’re trans — not because it was an unshakable truth from within, but because that’s what their environment, their online culture, and their peer group consistently reflect and affirm.

But place that same young person on a quiet farm, surrounded by cowboys and cattle dogs, and they might just be wearing boots and a hat — never once questioning their identity.

[…]

Are we giving our kids the tools they need to navigate a world that’s trying to redefine them every day?

Because if we don’t sow truth early — something else will take root.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #quack pittparents.com

I shock people who know me when I say that I do not support the current model of “gender-affirming care” for minors.

To keep my friends listening, I need to be careful. The language I use matters.

Here’s what I do say:

I love that you care about children who are struggling. Did you know that the latest scientific studies show that medical transition does not prevent suicide? If this stuff saved children’s lives, I would support it. Can you imagine how terrifying it must be for parents who hear, “Would you like a trans son or a dead daughter”? Yet, that’s not a real thing.

[…]

I’m scared that in the U.S., children are often offered puberty blockers or hormones on their first visit to the doctor, without any exploration of their other conditions, like autism or mental illness. (That’s what happened to my kiddo.) What do you think about that?

[…] Did you know that the doctor who is the most vocal advocate of these treatments has refused to publish the data from her NIH-funded study?

Yet, she also recommended girls as young as 13 to get double mastectomies, saying they can have breast implants later if they change their minds. I wonder why no one has conducted a comprehensive follow-up study on what happened to those children? Don’t they deserve that?

Was adolescence hard for you? […] How did it feel when your body changed so fast, and your mind was whirling with hormones? Did you struggle to find your group or feel like you didn't fit in?

I wonder: what if adolescence is meant to be challenging? When you were 13, did you have strongly held beliefs about yourself that you don’t hold now? Do you think children are equipped with the perspective to make decisions that will affect their entire lives? How do they know if they are uncomfortable temporarily because they are gay, or female, or changing a lot, and/or undiagnosed autistic?

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #homophobia pittparents.com

Cross Sex Hormones: Today's Recreational Drugs

Teens think that cross-sex hormones are a harmless way to express themselves. My son is not suffering from gender dysphoria or body distress. Yet, he has an idea stuck in his mind… that he wants to be a woman. His reasoning? He just does, and he doesn’t want to squeeze into a stereotypical gender box.

Oh, and also, he feels more female than male because he likes rom-coms and lesbian porn. Pretty logical and makes perfect sense, right?

As part of this desire to be a woman, my son looks forward to the experience of taking hormones similar to the way someone wanting to experience acid or mushrooms in my day.

He is not even worried about the harm it will cause his body.

I viewed recreational drugs the same way when I was a teen, which makes me wonder - does assuming another “gender identity” give you bravery like how alcohol and weed did for me?

[…]

Today, the primary mode of teen expression and rebellion is Trans. And the recreational drugs aren’t weed and alcohol - they are cross-sex hormones. And they are as easy to obtain as a dime bag was for me. You can just shop online, or go to a college campus clinic or Planned Parenthood.

[…]

The drug companies and gender clinics are thrilled to continue on this path - there are plenty of profits to be made from mercurial and autistic, nerdy teens who get to buy their drugs with a stamp of approval from society.

Coming out socially as trans is the gateway drug to this fad — what comes next makes you a medical patient for life.

[…]

And, despite diagnoses of autism, or ADHD, despite vast numbers of people raising concerns about young people’s ability to have informed consent for life altering “treatments”, doctors will affirm and give drugs to kids like mine, even absent any history of any childhood gender confusion.

[…]

Today we encourage and even celebrate our vulnerable teens dabbling in life-altering substances.

How did we get here, and what are we going to do to stop this?

Perry James #transphobia #crackpot pittparents.com

This article and thread are a good example of how transgenderism is tearing the world apart, especially families. If trans people had wanted to, they could have gone public with reasonable positions. That would have meant eschewing the affirmative model and encouraged trans people to seek therapy first. It also would have meant acknowledging that trans people are not REAL men and women, but facsimiles. It would have meant NOT encouraging children to join what obviously has become a fad. And it would have meant NOT invading women's private spaces. Trans activists decided to "go for the gold", and that meant the whole nine yards of pushing themselves into every part of human life, and pretending to be "real". The activists are extremely bad people. I might say that about all trans people, except some of them are the victims of the activists. Of course, the victims often adopt the positions of the activists in order to feel confident about what they are doing.

Now, I'm going to say some things I have said before which most people scoff at. Human beings survive death. Furthermore, reincarnation is a reality. I have been studying near-death experiences (all my life, but more so recently because I am approaching my own death). They provide MORE than adequate proof that humans survive death. What this means is that if a child screws up his/her life because of this issue, or a parent ruins his or her child's life, that is just one life lost to this delusion. The lesson will be learned in this life, and the mistake won't be repeated. Life goes on. We are all immortal.

Gilgamech #crackpot #dunning-kruger #kinkshaming #transphobia pittparents.com

I agree with the main thesis here but differ on most of the details. I would say that first person, realistic video games where you can choose the protagonist's gender, are AGP training systems for males specifically, and generally trans identity trainers. Very similarly to porn, they train the brain to eroticise a certain persona. In fact they eroticise an identity - in the sense it was used before trans, as well as its current sense. If you go back to Lara Croft, Tomb Raider, this is the deliberate eroticisation of male players projecting into an attractive female body, operating it while also voyeuristically observing it. This has been a staple of first person video games ever since. Within a decade or so this type of identification was leaking into porn, first of all edgy and specialised, later becoming mainstream and endemic. From there the fetish broke out into the real world as part of the general mainstreaming of fetish behaviour and porn behaviour. The current gaming world is still filled with male players who erotically connect with sexualised protagonists. This is a huge proportion of male gamers, maybe a majority. Millions of males, maybe tens or hundreds of millions, have been trained to have AGP sexual responses.

Sue-Z Homemaker #transphobia pittparents.com

My daughter was drawn into the trans cult by a young man, who was the catalyst of our estrangement, and I’ll admit, it’s been difficult not to direct much of my anger toward him in my heart. We feel betrayed and lied to. I believe he was toying with the idea long before he came clean with our daughter, and by then, she was deeply devoted. But if I’m being honest, I feel far more resentment toward his mother. Because while many kids get caught in the net of this ideology, I’ve believe there are really only two kinds of mothers in this equation.

There is the mother who deeply loves her child and may not know what’s right or how to protect them, but she wants to, and she tries. And then there is the kind who neglected her child, carries guilt for it, and sees their child’s “coming out” as a chance to absolve themselves—by becoming the most vocal, unquestioning cheerleader of all. That is the kind of mother he has. And that woman has replaced me in my daughter’s heart, acting as a fuel to keep the fires of division burning because we would not affirm her son. Admittedly, my heart is very hard towards her now.

But it’s accounts such as this that remind me not to let the hardness I feel toward her spill over onto others. I know that most mothers truly love their children and were blindsided by this movement, just as we were. And truly, my heart aches for all of us. Even those that affirm and cheerlead their own child’s demise. Sometimes I truly believe “they know not what they do.” And that helps me to extend grace.

Friends have tried to comfort me by saying, “At least it’s him and not your daughter.” But she loved him. She planned to marry him. For years, I thought of him as my son-to-be. And now, I grieve deeply for what seven years on estrogen—and their descent into pornography—has done to them both. He pressured her to disown us a couple of years ago, and then broke up with her six months later. But she still lives with him and helps facilitate his lifestyle as a “friend.” All of her hopes and dreams of being married and becoming a mother are gone now. And perhaps I should praise God that they didn’t produce a child to indoctrinate into the trans cult, because that would surely destroy me.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #wingnut pittparents.com

"Gender transition procedures are the lobotomy of our generation. This isn't healthcare - it's fringe science with no proven benefit and massive risks." - Dan Crenshaw

Congressman Dan Crenshaw’s website states that he serves Texas’s Second District. But, like any good Senator, he serves all Americans. He is putting science above ideology and calling for an end to taxpayer funded “gender affirming care” for ALL ages.

We live in a free society so adults are at liberty to alter their body as they wish, assuming they can find someone to do it. People can get plastic surgery, take body altering medications, or tattoo any body part they wish. But they cannot require the taxpayers to fund their non-medically necessary body alterations. Have at it but leave the rest of us alone. And “gender affirming care” is not only not medically necessary, it is harmful and regressive. No one is “born in the wrong body”. No one can change sex. Telling children and young adults otherwise has been the medical scandal our our lifetimes.

The Crenshaw Amendment would ban the use of Medicaid, CHIP, and Affordable Care Act funds for ALL so-called "gender-transition procedures." That includes puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, and irreversible surgeries like double mastectomies and genital reconstruction.

The amendment has officially passed the House as part of the “One, Big, Beautiful Bill.” There is a lot in this bill. It lives up to its name but this post concerns only one aspect - the end to taxpayer funded gender experiments.

EyesOpen, AlexEsq #transphobia pittparents.com

(EyesOpen)
I witness your pain and understand it from the perspective of the same story except it is a daughter who tries to look like and act like a man.

Me too: " it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away. It’s not because I’ve stopped loving you. It’s because I feel like I’m watching you slowly disappear into something that is harming you — something that could limit your future, isolate you, and leave you broken-hearted. That kind of pain is unbearable. Sometimes, being near you like this is too much, because it reminds me of how far we are from the path I believe would allow you to flourish."

Yes, we parents have grief. And the hard part on top of everything you wrote is having that grief mocked. So many layers of grief!

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(AlexEsq)
identity is earned through actual activities in the world. No "authentic" identity can be purchased from surgeons or with drugs. Lying about who you are does not make the lie a truth.

Jane Doe #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

This sounds like my son. I never had him officially labeled. He's in his mid-twenties so ASD didn't seem like a label to pursue because it wouldn't benefit him in any way as a child. He developed obsessive interests and would drill down on topics to the point he could become a walking encyclopedia. He was kind, thoughtful, and very masculine in his preferences for how he dressed, hairstyle, etc. Rarely would you find him NOT wearing a plaid shirt, relaxed jeans and boots. He liked video games, DnD, computers, physics, chemistry. Then he went to college and COVID hit. It stressed him out totally. He saw a counselor through the school. Suddenly he was gay (never had any indication or a boyfriend or any interests in his peers in general) and then trans. He moved from blue plaid shirts to pink ones and relaxed jeans to skinny ones and girls boots. I'd like to wring the counselors neck and would love it if the next wildfire in the vicinity of the university allowed the whole place to burn down.

Marta Gillette, CA mom, Colleen, Elizabeth, Nicki M. #transphobia #wingnut #fundie #conspiracy pittparents.com

(Marta Gillette)
You can't allow yourself to be bullied into using preferred pronouns or affirming a child's delusion. Stay strong, and set the example. Going along with madness adds to the flame and convinces others to go along as well. Also, stop sending gifts. It's madness to offer love and only receive repudiation back.

(CA mom)
I respectfully disagree with this advice. No gifts to a grandchild who is cherished by this grandmother only serves to strengthen the false belief that “outsiders” of gender ideology are hostile. […]

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(Colleen)
Right: "Don't throw your pearls before swine" as Jesus said.

(Elizabeth)
It’s not just the child’s delusion—in this case, it sounds like almost all of the grown-ups’ delusions, too. My heart goes out to you. It is so similar to other serious mental illnesses, especially Borderline Personality Disorder. Praying that at least one of them will wake up to the truth and join you in not affirming the delusions.

(Nicki M.)
I would say they influenced or were the cause of the child's delusion. It is so messed up.

[…]

(Elizabeth)
Yes, unfortunately this seems to be happening a lot. That is why we need a firm foundation of truth—so important when it comes to raising children!

(Nicki M.)
Absolutely. The trouble is, it is spiritual warfare out there. There are so many traps. You can bring your child up one way but the world will try to influence and turn your child against you and all the morals and values you instilled in them eg the traps can come via the education system, music & entertainment, literature, media including social media influence, even 'professionals' and established professions and institutions pushing the agenda and who you would think would be immune to this demonic influence.

Whole families are being sucked into this insanity. These adult children mindlessly sacrificing their children to the cult of gender ideology. Grandparents bereft at their children's mindset and actions and the terrible impact on a new generation.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #wingnut pittparents.com

Am I concerned that Trump's policies will harm my "trans" daughter? Nope
Non, nein, nyet, newp, no way, no how

[…]

I am not worried for trans people now that Trump is in office. On this issue, I would be more concerned for my daughter if Kamala Harris had won the election. And here’s why….

Trump’s policies do not threaten trans-identified people. They do not “deny their existence”. Trump administration policies are not impinging on their civil rights. But his policies are not affirming trans-identified people in the delusion that they actually are the opposite sex, or that, if they take enough drugs and have enough surgery, they can change their sex. And, with the release of the HHS Comprehensive Review of Medical Interventions for Children and Adolescents with Gender Dysphoria his administration can point to the science behind all this. Or rather, lack thereof.

But if Vice President Harris had won, my family, and others in the same predicament, could have had four more years of delusional thinking. Four more years of the media and the establishment (government, schools, hospitals, etc.) enshrining gender ideology in everything they do. Four more years of them affirming my daughter, which means four more years of her on T. What’s even more galling is that this is the party of “follow the science” when it comes to climate change. But also the party of “suppress anything that doesn’t conform to our platform” when it comes to sex and gender.

[…]

Also, with Trump in office, there’s a slim chance this bill, banning the use of Medicaid, CHIP, and Affordable Care Act funds for ALL gender-transition procedures, will pass. Doubtful that could ever happen in a Harris administration.

So, am I more concerned for my trans-identified daughter now that Trump is in office, with his “anti-trans” agenda? Nope. I am more hopeful than ever that those in authority will no longer confirm her harmful delusional and that she might become more in touch with reality.