Those of us with adult children caught up in this wonder how long until THEY get the message. How long will doctors continue to feed their madness? Will our loved ones ever come out of this… or will they persist, like Bruce Jenner?
God help them.
There are still a few “Protect Trans Kids! Protect the Dolls!” posts popping up on my social media, but they seem to be limited to my most woke and clueless friends. My mainstream mom friends are taking deep breaths and keeping their mouths shut. That is a positive sign. I’ve got to believe that we’re swimming towards the surface of “Believe the Science” again: no one can change sex. Even if Trump’s executive orders are flipped in a few years, I don’t think the Democrats can tie themselves to this anti-woman and anti-LGB ideology again. Most Americans aren’t buying it anymore. The War is over: Trans lost, Reality won.
But I’m still thinking about these confused and vulnerable kids – the gay kids, the autistic kids, the lonely and isolated kids. There are at least four girls in my daughter’s high school who are transitioned – two of them on testosterone. There are at least six more in our social circle who have medicalized, and another 14 I know of who have socially transitioned. Everyone has a neighbor, classmate, family member who has been caught up in this. What happens to them? I predict there will be a broader retreat from this mass psychosis, and many of these young people will learn to walk through the world carrying the physical scars and mental damage from this era. Like the generation of Vietnam Vets who ambled around my city during the 1970s and early 1980s – they will be the wounded victims of a pointless war.
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And yet – today I learned about Henry Gunther, the last soldier to die in World War I. He died charging a German roadblock on November 11, 1918, at 10:59 am - just one minute before the Armistice was to take effect. There was no delay in the news- Henry knew the Armistice was coming, it had been announced that morning. In fact, when he sprang up from his position, Henry’s commander ordered him to not charge. The German soldiers tried to wave him off. When Henry persisted and began to shoot at them, they returned fire. Henry had been obsessed and “determined to make good before his officers and fellow soldiers.” I doubt Henry’s family was comforted by his beliefs as they buried his body.
Who will be the final adolescent sacrificed to trans ideology?
As I wrote in the previous email, my idea was to give my son a working vocabulary that could be used to describe gender ideology. I wanted him to first learn this vocabulary in other contexts, for example, while learning about cults or totalitarian regimes. I hoped that he would be able to make these connections himself, and eventually he did make them.
If you end up on the subject of the Holocaust, and even if not, the movie JoJo Rabbit is one of the best movies you can watch with a trans-identifying child. We watched it several times. My kids love it. It can be easily translated into being “about trans”, and I think it does affect their subconscious. JoJo is a little boy who wants to belong and he is a Nazi; his imaginary friend is Hitler himself… The ideology cripples him, literally, and yet he continues to believe, because it offers such an escape from the reality of war. All the while, his mother is in the Resistance Movement. “You are not a Nazi, JoJo, you are a little boy who likes to wear a uniform and wants to belong,” his mother says. What a perfect line!
My son, who we prayed with each night, came to believe that God had made a mistake by having him born in a boy’s body.
My son no longer believes in Jesus or in God.
My son now believes in a cultish trans ideology which he learned about online rather than believing his mom-who has all the best intentions for him based on true love.
My son, who will not consider any truth I speak to him because he has been told repeatedly by this cultish group that parents don't love trans kids, believes we will exile him from our home.
My son, who is now making up memories based on the thoughts and considerations being put there by this cult, has convinced himself that he really has loved girlish ways since he was young.
My son hates school now because he has to "hide who he really is" from his classmates because it’s a Christian school.
My son, who believes that no one will accept him the way he is, believes being female will solve all his problems.
My son hates his body and the way he looks.
My son, who is 14 years old now, shaves his legs and arms three or more times a week because he hates the male looking hair that grows there.
My son constantly wears oversize sweatshirts to hide his body, even sleeping in them in the summer heat so no one (not even his parents) sees his body.
My son cries when I try to speak to him about how he feels now.
My son, who cannot tell me exactly why he wants to be a girl, shows me propaganda such as bingo games and other stupid material, repeating what obviously he found on grooming sites.
And then there's the ••real•• reason for "transition" in pre-pubescent childhood: Because if you block a boy's puberty earlier, he might—for a limited time, anws—look more convincingly female-like for the predatory groomers who want him as a sex object. (Also why the groomers aren't clamoring with the same ferocity for the medical "transition" of pre-pubescent Girls, even though Girls are now 80 to 90 percent of all minors being "transitioned".)
The rainbow represents God's promise to the world that He will never destroy the earth again with water. Today, after a rainstorm when the sun is shining again, and a beautiful arched bow of colored hues can be seen - it is beautiful. But the trans ideology has ruined that beautiful rainbow and now I cringe whenever I see a rainbow - yes, even the one in the sky after a shower. My dear friend just lost her 10-year-old dog, and I bought her a sympathy card, but I made sure I did not reference the "rainbow bridge" because she has a son who believes he is trans. Mentioning the rainbow bridge to her would only have added more grief to her world because she is terrified that she will lose her son to this trans-cult. Rainbows can be found everywhere now and, in every store on children's clothing, toys, books, stickers, cards, backpacks, hair clips - it is a subtle way of influencing their young innocent minds. Children are growing up being conditioned to see any and all rainbow symbols and flags as something good. What was once something beautiful is now void of beauty and only causes pain. We know the truth about the trans lies.
I remember my trans son saying “oh, men are so icky” once during his process. I praised men at that point including his dad, whom I’m divorced from. But it didn’t change his mind, it was already ingrained cult thinking.
I also wake up and look thru photos of trans people involved in shootings thinking, Please God, don’t let me see his picture there. He told me a few times, he was a Pacifist, so that was some comfort. Of course that was a while ago and since then he’s called me every name in the book, Facist, Nazi, Trump lover, I can’t think of the other names, it must be my brain protecting me! I don’t even think I spelled faccist right I never even heard the word before these Liberals and trans groups started throwing it around. Gee, don’t they realize that if Trump was really a fascist he would have them all thrown in jail? There is no reasoning when they are consumed by this cult thinking so I have just backed off. I don’t speak to my son anymore. I don’t send him things. I don’t try to convince him. I just pray. I just pray that he’ll wake up someday and say, what have I done to myself because it’s he who did it to himself -Not me not his dad not his sister - is he who agreed to harm himself! I’m just at a loss as to what to do.
I blame the professionals. I’d like to see every one of them behind bars. Everyone who gave cross sex hormones to anybody or did a surgery on anybody should be behind bars forever Licenses revoked that’s the punishment they deserve for ruining a class of society that was our future!
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St Monica prayed for 17 years before St Augustine changed his wicked ways. He was a radical, had a baby out of wedlock, drank, ran around and ultra liberal highly intelligent man going against everything good of his time around 483 - he wasn’t a trans I don’t think it existed then but they still had people going astray against the normality of goodness. Finally his mother’s prayers paid off he came back to sanity and became a highly respected Saint of the Catholic Church!
Myles/Margot Lewis. Robert/Robin Westman. Tyler Robinson. These names have taken me to the keyboard and brought me to my knees. News of their actions has pierced my heart in ways I’m still searching to describe. And I’m not alone.
We’ve heard much about ROGD (Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria), especially in girls and in large part due to Abigail Shrier’s book, Irreversible Damage. But less has been written about the boys. We’ve seen drag queens and images of demented looking men, but the parents of many trans-identified kids have a different perspective. After our son came out in 2014, it soon became obvious there was a common thread in these boys.
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I must not fail to mention, some of these kids have been abused. Sometimes by the very people who were supposed to be protecting them. It is not a stretch for them to claim a trans identity and seek these communities as an escape and a place of safety. Tragically, many of these kids fall into further abuse.
I’m not suggesting that our son or anyone else’s is desiring another’s death but we know they have already chosen death to themselves. We know because we dare not use their “dead name.” With our son’s 10-year absence, I know next to nothing. I can only draw conclusions from the growing number who have escaped this madness, trying to find their way back to reality as best they can with the damage done. And I’m not suggesting these young men all have the potential to be shooters, but often parents have no idea what they are capable of because of the unrecognizable changes that have taken place. And this worries us.
I know only God is able to fully rescue them but I share this in hopes that I can help prevent all the quirky, sensitive sons out there from becoming one of these lost boys.
We have to remove politicians who do not oppose transgenderism. It is not enough if a politician keeps quiet on this issue. We have to demand active opposition in order to get legislation changed. President Trump is taking a lot of heat at the federal level, criticizing his policy for women and girls in all federal funded institutions. We need similiar policy and legislation at state and local level, including schools and school and school boards.
Virginia IS on the wrong side of history again, and Virginia is not alone. The day is coming when the truth will be believed about the trans-cult ideology lies and there will be many states, schools, organizations, companies, and famous people that will be on the wrong side of history, and we will NEVER forget what all of them have done to harm our children. Common sense is all it takes to understand that God does not make mistakes and put the wrong person in the wrong body! There are two sexes: male and female. To quote the late Charlie Kirk “The facts that there are only two genders; that transgenderism and gender “fluidity” are lies that hurt people and abuse kids..." Ironic that Charlie was shot and killed by a transgender influencer. Again, this shooter is on the wrong side of history!
I am so worried about my 5-year-old granddaughter who just started Kindergarten. She wants to be a veterinarian...but she needs to complete the 12-years of secondary schooling first. Then onto a university. I hope and pray her schooling, studies, and training will go well and that she will not be harmed in any way. All of us sent our children to school thinking it was safe - I lived in Colorado when the tragic Columbine High School shootings happened. My daughter was in 3rd grade then, and there are still school shootings happening today over 25 years later! This trans ideology is far more frightening to me now because the bad guys could be teachers, counselors, coaches, and principles who think that the trans-cult lies are the truth.
We did not affirm our son’s trans identity. He later detransitioned and then took his own life. The parents of the recent school shooting in Minnesota may have affirmed their son and he took his life after killing two children and wounding 18 others. Can it still be argued that affirming is the best route for children?
When the police came to my place of work, I feared the worst. I knew it was about my son. I had always worried the other shoe could drop and his detransition was too good to be true. I worried my son had done something awful. He did, but only to himself, and left his family devastated. He did not take anyone with him. My son was never violent but cross-sex hormones mess with kids’ brains. Social transition also messes with their brains.
[...]
We did not affirm our son but everyone around him did behind our backs, and at 18 he was able to get hormones. At our son’s funeral his best friend blamed us for his death because we did not affirm. His friend wanted the girl name on our son’s tombstone even though our son had gone back to using his birth name. This friend made the tragic loss of our son even worse, if that is possible.
[...]
It’s time we help kids by ending the affirmation of the trans delusion. How many more kids need to take their lives and, perhaps, innocent children with them? It’s time to stop believing there are trans people. No one is trans. It is a mental illness and a huge medical scandal pushed on the vulnerable.
My 10-year-old daughter was enticed by the "furry" movement; girls wearing cute cat ears are part of a larger movement of sterilization and misery directed at kids. The only choice for me was to homeschool. Schools are putting our entire systems at risk when they double down and undermine parents.
Exactly the same receipts with my son, too! He still loves his computer building and now is creating soft ware. I haven't seen or heard from him except once in 10 years but I've been informed he's well and employed at the moment. In my case both my daughters- his big sisters whom he admired and respected groomed him as Trans they being nauseating strident feminists. Hey they get to display their trans flags in their front yards,though. By association they are so cool, they think.
Let's add some clarification to this Liberal blather. The first rainbow flag was a promise and a firm warning to sinners, It first reminded Noah and his family of their salvation through water, from the complete and utter annihilation of sinners. It was a promise that God would never destroy the earth by flood again. It is also a sheathed warning. God never promised that the world and the wicked would never be destroyed again. The next time will be with fire.
“At the rate we’re transing kids, soon there will be no gay people left”. […] Does anyone find that funny? I don’t. But the eradication of the gay community is exactly what is happening right now, today, thanks to gender ideology.
[…] The older sister of one of my friends was a classic tomboy […] later, I learned that she was gay. […] I’ve thought about her a lot lately. I have no doubt that if she had grown up in the last 20 years, she would now have a beard, no breasts, and would be going by a male name. She would have been trans-ed. Concerned doctors and therapists would have counseled her and convinced her that she was actually a man in a woman’s body, and that she would be at risk of suicide if she didn’t “transition”. Of course, not every tomboy is gay, but does anyone see any tomboys anymore? Nope.
[…]
What’s really creepy about this assault on the gay community, and gay kids in particular, is that if someone tried to strategize ways to eliminate a specific community or religion or social group, without the group’s knowledge, transitioning that population via gender ideology is precisely how it could be done. Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally, and eliminate the younger members of the group. Eventually, the group will shrink and disappear.
[…] All the organizations that have represented the gay community now also represent trans-identified individuals. You rarely see LGB organizations or references to LGB-specific issues […] Other organizations that have been friendly to gays and lesbians in the past, like the ACLU, now include and even prioritize trans issues. Gays and lesbians are forced to accept trans-identified individuals in all situations, even though around 50% of those individuals are quite probably gay and have been transitioned […] This is a wicked, sneaky assault - trans the gay kids and in a generation there will be no more gays.
[…]
Gender ideology is the new conversion therapy, and it’s working.
At the end of August last year, my grandson announced his new feminine name and pronouns. His mother, my oldest daughter, immediately notified the school to change his information in their records and took him to shop for girl school clothes. I was shocked when my daughter left me an upbeat message telling me about this change. I called her back to let her know that I needed time to get informed about all this before I could be on board for the change. All three of my daughters were very distressed by my unwillingness to immediately affirm and, from that point on, all contact with my grandchildren was screened by my daughters. They passed on only messages they agreed with. Text messages, phone calls, and emails were banned. I was accused of being dangerous to my grandchildren. I was told that the only way I would be able get back direct contact with them was to agree to use only my grandson’s preferred name and pronouns. My only supporter was my youngest son who said he would not attend any family gatherings where my grandson was present if it was conditional on affirmation. I couldn’t believe what was happening!
Lately, I have been contemplating agreeing to use preferred language so that I can regain my relationships with them.
[…]
However, I just finished reading “Lost in Trans Nation - A Child Psychologist’s Guide Out of the Madness” by Miriam Grossman, MD. […] Now, I’m caught in a dilemma. From the book I learned that using preferred language can solidify the identity confusion, yet if I don’t use it, I have no avenue for building relationships with my grandchildren.
[…]
As much as I believe the book to be true and a valuable resource, it has knocked me off my feet again. I was leaning towards announcing to my children that I was going to use preferred words, and I was shakily confident that I was on the right track. Now?????
Though I try to move on and enjoy my life, my son has created an enormous hole for our family. As a father with two small sons, he has chosen a narcissistic delusion over family. That is not how he and his wife see it, but that is how I view it. He would happily be a part of our lives, but only if I support his delusion. Since I will not, we effectively do not see each other much. It is heartbreaking and completely contrary to how he was raised. It feels like a dark cloud settled over you and stayed. But, I am trying to move on with my life and I keep the hope that he may come back to us.
Can you identify the white and pale blue and pink colours in flags I've seen. I heard they represent Minor Attracted Persons... IOW pedophiles. Is this true?
This statement "Trans people themselves are not the enemy – far from it." is not correct. Trans people ARE the enemy. Once the trans psychosis has been accepted as a guiding belief, there is a lot of interest in getting others to also accept this. Trans actors (Ellen Page who calls herself "Elliot") present "exemplars" of successful trans persons.
The trans are often not the prime movers, true. But do not give them a pass.
My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things. See work by Jennifer Bilek. It’s not ok for kids. It’s not ok for adults. It’s not. Ok. Ever.
You can't allow yourself to be bullied into using preferred pronouns or affirming a child's delusion. Stay strong, and set the example. Going along with madness adds to the flame and convinces others to go along as well. Also, stop sending gifts. It's madness to offer love and only receive repudiation back.
The “trans” iteration of the pride flag, and various other versions, seems to be replacing the original rainbow flag. A Google search returns that the progress pride flag represents the “marginalized LGBTQ+ community.” Perhaps the flag flyers have good intentions and are not aware that the revised flag might be divisive rather than unifying, and exclusive rather than inclusive, no matter how many new colored stripes and symbols are added. Maybe those who fly these flags do not intend to be disrespectful, yet displaying these flags seems to be about making an ideological or political statement, and many find that message offensive.
[…]
In case you are outside of this charged ideological arena, here are a few details to understand. The LGB community was hijacked by the TQ+ folks and the rest of the ever-growing alphabet of add-ons, which linked itself, without permission or consent, to the LGB movement and its hard-won rights. […]
Kids are declaring new identities after being influenced by social media and internet content. A young person is a target if they feel angst, distress, confusion, or don’t fit in, and they are vulnerable to love bombing and promises of a better life if they take steps to alter or fix their “wrong” bodies. “Trans” and “Q+” seem to want the limelight now, and these gender identities have an aggressive activist agenda.
[…]
Blaming the body for complex issues and ignoring underlying co-morbidities is encouraged and celebrated in the current edict issued by “trans” activists, with no questions or discussion allowed. Common sense, critical thinking, and independent thought are discouraged in the name of social justice or a new civil rights focus gone too far. So, the new “trans” and progress pride flags also represent the irreversible harm to the bodies and health of our youngest and most vulnerable kids and adults, and that is not cool or a symbol of virtue.
(PS)
Where’s our hotline?
“Press 1 if your child was carefully groomed and scammed into permanently altering her body to perpetuate a false idea and rejecting you, and now your family is falling apart and you’ve been crying in secret for a week straight but you can’t say anything because even at the freakin’ grocery store there are pride flags everywhere and drag queens at the checkout lane and you have a smile on your face but you feel like you are going to have an aneurysm.”
“Para español oprima el dos.”
(Caricapr)
I remember being so distraught that I texted a suicide hotline because I was shaking and couldn’t stop… It didn’t seem like they understood or cared about the trauma I was going through of my son essentially killing himself because he “dead-named” my child, killed our relationship, and killed our closeness. Thankfully he isn’t actually dead and we’ve been able to regain a new relationship. It’s not the same, there’s still hurt on both sides, he’s still on the same path, I’m still not allowed to use his dead name, but there’s always hope 🙏🙏🙏
(LovingMother)
Right? If this were not upside down land that is the hotline we would have.
Crying privately for years now - LM
["A Letter to My Son: From a Grieving Mother Who Still Loves Him Deeply"]
As a woman, it is incredibly painful to see men adopt what they believe are “feminine” traits, clothing, or mannerisms and call that womanhood. To me, it feels like a caricature — like our lived experiences, our biology, our lifelong struggles are being reduced to a performance or aesthetic. I don’t say this to hurt you. I say it because my womanhood was not chosen — it has been lived, in body and soul — and when I see someone attempt to replicate it externally, it feels like a wound. Not just for me, but for all women — including your grandmother, aunts and sister.
There is something else I have struggled to explain. Being asked to use a new name and new pronouns feels like I’m being forced to say something I simply don’t believe is true. It’s like being expected to live in an Orwellian world, where I’m asked to deny what I see with my own eyes. Imagine if I came home one day and said, “I’m a toaster now. Please call me Breville and treat me like one.” You would know I’m not a toaster — and being expected to play along would feel surreal, maybe even sad. That’s how it feels to me. I am not mocking you — I’m trying to explain how painful it is to be asked to override my own perception of reality just to make others comfortable.
And finally, the most difficult truth to admit: when I see you dressed this way — in a bra and with fake breasts and very odd clothing — it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away.
My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things.
I am in a couple of online groups where parents of ROGD boys meet. We say that we are different as parents but we all have the same son. This boy is typically very intelligent, nerdy, non-athletic, and as a child was interested, no… obsessed with specific “boy” toys and interests. Surveys of ~ 300 parents indicate that almost 92% of our sons fit in this category.
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So, when my son came out to me at 19 and told me that he was a woman trapped in a man’s body, I nearly fainted from shock. What happened since that initial declaration, was that my son, like many of our boys, changed the narrative about his life, his story and the interests he had as a boy and teenager. He started acting differently to try to force himself into fitting into his new “female” identity.
Last week, I decided that it was time to go through the items my son left behind when he moved out of our home and changed his identity as our son. There were containers full of toys, videos and video games, all attesting to the fact that his interests were always those of a typical boy. I found thousands of Legos and K-nex pieces, dozens of Ben Ten and superhero figurines, piles of superhero DVDs, car racing video games (he took all the Mario games!), train, trucks and matchbox car collections, strategy-based board games, etc. I texted my mom friends, “I have receipts!” while sending them photos of the items. We had a funny exchange where we found out that our kids had the exact same toys and many of the same interests when they were growing up. Several of us still have Thomas the Tank train collections, Legos and circuit boards. I am hanging on to those toys. I can’t bear to part with them. Those are receipts that I plan to keep, just in case…
I remember thinking even then that something must be wrong with my daughter, a stomach bug or the first symptoms of the flu perhaps. Whatever it was, she looked pale and unwell sitting across from me. I half-expected her to vomit.
“So, what’s this all about?” Zack asked her. “What’s going on with you?”
She danced around it for a while as we sat there, waiting for her to say something meaningful.
Eventually, she came out with it: “I have gender dysphoria; I feel more like a boy than a girl. I’ve always known something was wrong with me. Now I’ve discovered what it is. I’m going to start living my life as a male—my authentic self—and I want you to use he/him pronouns when you refer to me.”
I stared at her. The things she was saying were so ridiculous that I almost laughed. As a psychiatrist, I’ve been trained not to do that, but still, it almost happened. She could have said, “From now on, I’m going to communicate only through puppets, and I’ll be wearing a hat with rotting fish on my head,” and I would not have been more surprised than I was in that moment. Zack shifted in his seat, as if he was experiencing a bit of intestinal malaise, and again I almost lost it. The laughter wanted to bubble out of me, but I pushed it down and told myself to be still. I wonder what might have happened if I hadn’t. How would she have responded if I had laughed out loud and said, “Okay, cut the shit and tell us what’s really going on with you.” How might that have changed everything that followed?
Code names. Secret messages passed in the dark. Covert operations. Hiding from the authorities. Are we talking about 1944 in Europe? Sadly, no: We’re talking about 2021 and our secret resistance is taking place all over the world.
Instead of spies and resistance fighters inside enemy-occupied borders, we are parents of gender questioning children, who are skeptical of the weakly-evidenced, affirmation-only approach currently being pushed by activists and activist-captured organizations (including the Lancet, whose most recent cover insults women and our girls by calling them “bodies with vaginas”).
Rather than codes and secret messages, we pass copies of Abigail Shrier’s Irreversible Damage wrapped in plain brown paper to curious friends. We interact on secret online groups, and write articles and letters using fake names and emails to obscure our true identities due to the very real risk of cancellation and doxing. All we have to do is look at the appalling and one-sided treatment of J.K. Rowling to know we should stay quiet.
[...]
Perhaps some will find the comparison to the Resistance of WWII insulting. But for us parents, it’s very real and very apt. Our kids’ lives and long-term mental and physical health are on the line. And so we fight for their future selves, for who they may become.
Every day
I read, I listen,
I think
Every day
I read
Bernard Lane
Jamie Reed
Mia Hughes
Eyes Open
PITT
(and hundreds more)
Every day
I listen
Helen Joyce
Stella O'Malley
Colin Wright
Eliza Mondegreen
Jennifer Sey
(and hundreds more)
Every day
I celebrate
Cass, Skrmetti, HHS, COHERE
The WPATH Files, Sturm, UPenn
(and hundreds more)
While every day
I long
For my son
Who
Despite my reading
Despite my listening
Despite my celebrating
Despite me
Is not one step closer to me
Not one step out of the cult.
[The author's describing their relationship with a transgender daughter]
That’s when I found it, a link to his Bluesky account and a blog, after he’d told me about a thread he’d joined there. What I read made me feel physically sick. On his profile, he described himself as a trans lesbian, now on estrogen. I kept scrolling, my heart sinking with each post. There were repeated cries for help: “I want to kill myself,” “I’m so lonely.” Post after post radiated despair.
Then I saw a photo of vials of estrogen. He had been buying hormones online and injecting himself. There were links to music he’d made - dark, noise music. The titles told a story of despair and loneliness. In some, he could be heard crying, whispering pleas. There were photos of self-harm on his legs. There were even nude images of him, images nobody should feel the need to share publicly.
Then the final blow: he wasn’t just visiting a nearby city. He was flying to a foreign country to meet someone he called his “wife.” I was horrified. Panicked. I picked up the phone and called him immediately, desperate to understand what was happening, and how we had gotten here.
He was angry when he found out I had seen his profile, but he agreed, reluctantly, to share his flight details and put me in touch with the parents of the boy he was going to visit. I was slightly reassured that his story checked out. Still, I couldn’t shake the feeling of dread. At that point, I was imagining the worst. He’s now back home. We’ve talked. I’ve cried a lot. This shouldn’t be happening to vulnerable children. When I see people publicly celebrating “trans pride,” I feel a deep anger.
(Context: Replying to a slightly less insane person talking about how they deal with addressing a trans relative)
But as my son's mother I just can't use his now legal woman name. Just can not do it. For me as his mother, who brought him into the world and devoted myself to his upbringing, it just hurts too much. Because I know why he changed his name. Its not a "stage name" or pseudonym for his profession. The only reason he changed his name is to present to others he is now a "woman". So for me to acknowledge the new legal name would be to acknowledge the metaphorical death of my son. But that's just me.
If I were growing up now, I'd almost certainly have been convinced I was "born in the wrong body," would have undergone transition procedures, and then come to regret it.
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When I was in my fifties, I discovered that I have ADHD and am on the autism spectrum. I would say that many girls in this category have complex PTSD because of bullying. When I was fifteen, I was sexually assaulted by a nineteen-year-old guy, and I really started acting out. If I'd been offered the opportunity to become part of a special, protected class of people (trans kids), I almost certainly would have taken it. I was tired of fighting. I would have done just about anything to become someone else rather than myself, whom I had learned to despise.
The thing is, though, no matter where you go, there you are.
Some people do have severe, persistent dysphoria about their biological sex. The majority of adolescents presenting with rapid-onset gender dysphoria will desist. These young people need counseling to explore the reasons for their dysphoria, not cross-sex hormones and surgeries.
Transing away the LGB, the autistic, and the gender-nonconforming is not a joke. It's ironic that TRAs are always shrieking about "trans genocide" when they are the most celebrated oppressed class ever.
[Context: Comment under a PITT post claiming transphobic parents are an oppressed group]
I do not think it is hyperbole to say a persecuted class at this juncture in history .
Cross Sex Hormones: Today's Recreational Drugs
Teens think that cross-sex hormones are a harmless way to express themselves. My son is not suffering from gender dysphoria or body distress. Yet, he has an idea stuck in his mind… that he wants to be a woman. His reasoning? He just does, and he doesn’t want to squeeze into a stereotypical gender box.
Oh, and also, he feels more female than male because he likes rom-coms and lesbian porn. Pretty logical and makes perfect sense, right?
As part of this desire to be a woman, my son looks forward to the experience of taking hormones similar to the way someone wanting to experience acid or mushrooms in my day.
He is not even worried about the harm it will cause his body.
I viewed recreational drugs the same way when I was a teen, which makes me wonder - does assuming another “gender identity” give you bravery like how alcohol and weed did for me?
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Today, the primary mode of teen expression and rebellion is Trans. And the recreational drugs aren’t weed and alcohol - they are cross-sex hormones. And they are as easy to obtain as a dime bag was for me. You can just shop online, or go to a college campus clinic or Planned Parenthood.
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The drug companies and gender clinics are thrilled to continue on this path - there are plenty of profits to be made from mercurial and autistic, nerdy teens who get to buy their drugs with a stamp of approval from society.
Coming out socially as trans is the gateway drug to this fad — what comes next makes you a medical patient for life.
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And, despite diagnoses of autism, or ADHD, despite vast numbers of people raising concerns about young people’s ability to have informed consent for life altering “treatments”, doctors will affirm and give drugs to kids like mine, even absent any history of any childhood gender confusion.
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Today we encourage and even celebrate our vulnerable teens dabbling in life-altering substances.
How did we get here, and what are we going to do to stop this?
If the trans movement cared about children, they wouldn’t push parents out of their children’s lives. Children need their parents. The narrative is being pushed that parents of LGBTQ are bad. Even in the law, you are innocent until proven guilty. But if your child says they are “trans” you are guilty until proven innocent. To prove you are innocent, you must harm your own child by transitioning them. You are not allowed to ask questions; you can only follow the child’s lead. Fortunately, a new law just passed in North Carolina that says it's not abuse for parents to refuse their kid's gender transition. This is going in the right direction, and we need this in all states.
The Trevor Project is also anti-family. It perpetuates secrets and encourages minors to talk with strangers. We all grew up knowing that if someone told you to keep secrets from your parents, that person is not to be trusted. But in the trans world, keeping secrets from parents is encouraged. In normal times, if a child is suicidal, the parents would be the first to know. But somehow this logic switched to the idea that teachers and random people care more about “trans” children than parents do - all without a shred a proof. No one cares more about their child than their parents! Why does this even have to be explained?
A random person talking to a minor and keeping secrets with that minor is a child predator NOT a child protector.
[…] The Trevor Project is a well-funded activist group pushing policies that keep parents in the dark and insert gender ideology into K-12 schools.
Finally, common sense is coming back. The Trevor project suicide hotline closed on July 17th. It is one less organization pushing the suicide myth.
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Children are very innocent and naive and that’s why this movement has gone after them. Children like mine. We must keep fighting back against organizations like The Trevor Project. We must stop this movement before more children get hurt, like mine has been.
I Belong to An Oppressed Group
We have been around since the beginning of civilization. Now they want to erase us. Our rights are being stripped away; our voices silenced. They disrespect us and treat us with hate. We have had to band together in secret but our voices will become louder until society finally accepts us for who we are, for our true selves.
WE are PARENTS who deeply LOVE our children; even though they don't believe us and have been encouraged to completely cut us out of their lives. We want our children to be able to lead HEALTHY happy lives. We want them in our lives no matter how bumpy the road. Life is not perfect and neither are we.
A Loving Parent
(Linda H)
“Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally…” This applies to autism as well. I’ve spoken with parents of autistic children who have shared how trans activists are aggressively pushing their agenda and propaganda in these groups. I think it was autism specialist Tony Attwood who said a few years back, “This is beginning to look worryingly like backdoor eugenics.”
(THE ARTILECT)
Backdoor? They are at the front door with ramrods. And a warrant. :-(
(Alexander Joseph Hamburger)
This is full on eugenics. A group of people is alleged to be defective, and the “solution” is to sterilize them. Got autism? Let’s sterilize. Depression? Sterilize! Attention deficit disorder? Sterilize. Gay? Sterilize.
(Linda H)
No kidding!
(Patrick)
The impact on autistic children is the most devastating to me. Instead of getting treatment for autism they are being redirected towards a lifetime of plastic surgeries & hormone therapy. The vast majority aren't even required to have any interaction at all with any behavioral health services. Straight to the endo.
(Linda H)
Our son’s university lined him up with a “gender affirming” counselor but she totally disregarded the thorough evaluation we put him through and told us she felt he wasn’t really autistic but rather trans. He was sent straight to the endo while the university was working to provide him with free hormones. (This was 2014.) Little did we know that while he was being enabled by them in this delusion, he was also being groomed online by a predator. He disappeared suddenly six months later and we haven’t seen him since. It was bad enough to see this happen to our son at the college level but it makes me furious to see how they are now preying on younger and younger children.
[Context: Comment on a PITT post whining about how the poster adopted a child who supposedly later became a trans furry]
You are not alone - we understand the evilness of this cult as it poisons our children's minds. You were kind enough to take in a homeless baby girl and provide for her, protect her, and love her. She was influenced by social media, then groomed, and then affirmed. It is not your fault. Enjoy the calmness, we understand that, too.
One day I got a call from the school psychologist who said Bekah had talked about suicide. Not long after that we switched her to another school where she claimed she was autistic.
After finally finishing high school, Bekah further delved into being a furry. Then she took a step further and she told us she born to be a man. We tried to be good parents, and we were not positive what to do but I will tell you this ... mental health/furry/trans seem to be connected.
After school she moved out. Next thing, I am looking at my husband’s Amazon account and see something that made me wonder... who is buying these items and why? I asked my husband about the purchases while my mother-in-law was in the room and she gasped when she heard my question. She said the items were for someone getting a mastectomy. We knew who that was. I was devastated.
I still don't get how they let someone who is bi-polar have this kind of surgery. My mother-in-law took it upon herself to write Bekah and point out that she was born a girl and that God didn't make mistakes. In response to that letter, Bekah called and screamed at me. She said she never wanted to see or talk to me again. That was five years ago. Elias (yes, she changed her name) now lives in Chicago with her partner. I would give almost anything to talk to my child. Just to say “Hi, how are you?” “I love you and miss you!” but, truth be told, I am okay with the calmness of my life now.