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“Reality check” #fundie #transphobia pittparents.com

For the last four years it has felt like my children and I are living in completely different worlds. What started with the difference of opinion during COVID quickly escalated into the realization that we had developed totally opposing world views.

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Time passed and things seems to be on the road to healing in my family, right up until spring of 2023 when a whole new nightmare appeared in my life with the sudden announced from my only son that he is “trans”! He told me that he discovered his new gender identity two years before, during lockdown in 2021, and he was quickly affirmed by his two proud, politically queer, social justice warrior sisters.

I was shocked! My first thought was maybe he is confused about his sexuality. To my knowledge he has never been kissed. Between his awkward autistic personality and COVID isolation at a time when he should have been experiencing his sexual awaking while away at university, he has faced unfair challenges. But to decide he is a girl trapped in his healthy male body, that is IMPOSSIBLE.

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Being told the bizarre impossibility that someone may have been “born in the wrong body”, and that it is just some kind of explainable, natural progression in human evolution is ridiculous! As is being told that you're a hateful bigot unless you affirm, accept, celebrate and go with the flow.

I really hadn't given this nonsense a whole lot of thought until it was standing in front of me in my kitchen, informing me that this is just how the world is now. My first reaction was “Don't be ridiculous, God doesn't put people in the wrong body!”

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

It's been nearly six years since my daughter's announcement. For four years before that, there had been a drastic change in her attitude, her appearance, her interests. She has spent half of her life being one person, and half being another. It destabilized me for a long time.

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In April 2023, a month before she turned 20, she took her first shot of testosterone. My anxiety, bordering on panic, became a deep depression. Now, every time she speaks, her once-beautiful voice cracks like a teenage boy. I wince every time I hear it. People have noticed. She's probably noticed. I'm OK with that. I get to be in pain, too, and my pain matters. I have no idea what parts of her future she's taken away by this decision, but I wonder, and it makes me so desperately sad.

The election of Donald Trump gave me a small boost that sense would finally arrive. I had, however, been demoralized by a decade of having my reality turned upside down, my language policed, my parental agency robbed, and watching an entire culture, particularly the college-indoctrinated waters that I somewhat swim in, cheer the whole thing on as if my destruction and that of my beloved daughter constituted cause for celebration. I didn't really believe change would happen. One month has changed me.

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Now, when family members, friends and acquaintances rail against Trump, I point out that it's he, not the Democratic Party, who is trying to protect young people from medical experimentation and long-term harm. I point out that this sinister medical regime only exists because of the patronage and protection of the Democrats. I understand that Trump is polarizing, has not lived a virtuous private life, and has said and done things, and stands for things that I and many others don’t care for. Yet I voted for one reason: to protect my daughter and thousands of other young people from this dark period in the history of medicine.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

[From an article about the author's trans daughter, who moved in with an affirming family at 18]

Over the next couple of months, we learned that this family had relocated to another city. Our son was now sharing a room with their son and had plans to go to a budget college in state that they had helped him to apply for, including filling out the FAFSA. He didn't have his car or cell phone, and he was only communicating with his brother and friends. We also learned that these friends were more aware of the situation than we knew and that the family we saw as friends (we had helped them financially, with rides from school, with yard work just weeks before they sold their home), had been grooming Jake for almost a year. Both of their children were "different", their daughter even wanted to be a cat. I remember feeling so violated, so sick to my stomach, that two self-proclaimed "Christian" people would find their actions not only acceptable but laudable. I know what hate really is now. I don't know why God allowed this.

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I haven't been well in a long time. I saw my doctor and got medicine. It doesn’t seem to help but, hey, I lost 20 pounds. I will admit that I think about just being done with life. I'm honestly tired. My husband and daughter want me to let him go. My son says he tells Jake that I love him, but he won’t let me speak directly to Jake or meet up with them if Jake happens to be in town. Nothing changes and the little boy in the pictures on my walls and on my phone keeps smiling. And a piece of me dies each day.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

I have endured four birthdays since my son was seduced by the heinous trans cult at 19. On his twenty-third birthday, my husband was unaware of this special day we shared. I did not remind him about his son's birthday, as I knew it would heighten his daily pain and anger. So for the day that would have been celebratory in a sane world, I shouldered alone my tender grief. The birthday of my son is also my birth - day. Along with my son, my memory has been stolen of the joyous welcoming of my healthy infant son. As this essay elequently expresses, for PITT parents there are jolts of even more pain throughout the years that are visceral markers of our cruel alienation from a precious child with whom we once shared a loving relationship. Our primal ambiguous loss is beyond sad.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

In addition, gender confusion is ubiquitous on the internet, children’s TV programs and story time at the local library. Will this new generation get indoctrinated at an even younger age than my kids were? How do we undo these ideas once implanted in my grandkid’s minds? It is so concerning. The trans agenda is already infecting the next generation.

How can I handle this psychologically? I now have even more eggshells to walk on. Listening to my other kids refer to their younger brother with his new legal, female name is quite distressing. Having his older sister and brother-in-law (both of whom he admires) affirm his delusion is already heartbreaking for me. But their son doing the same is even worse. Moving this mass hysteria into the next generation of my family feels almost unbearable. This is another big step in erasing my son. Certainly, it is a big step toward rewriting my family history.

I have struggled through these awful years to hang onto my son’s existence in my own mind. Despite his appearance, name change, and affirmation from those around him I have been able to hold onto a sliver of the boy I raised. I am so scared that the sliver will slip away and the hole in my life, in the shape of my son will widen. I should be able to enjoy my precious grandchildren without sadness and resentment. If they are forced by their parents to refer to my son with his trans identity then I’m in a situation where being with them becomes painful. How sad is that?

Suffering Mother #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I too thought my son was going thru an adolescent phase trying on his sisters clothes when we were not home. I didn’t seek psychological help because I thought it would blow over. He was such a manly guy. Tall, big chin, size 12 shoe, hairy body and sported a beard a few times. It never entered my mind he could go down this route I didn’t even know anything about “trans” ! Like your son he was handsome and very smart. Or at least I thought he was smart and raised a Catholic. Everyday I ask myself where did I go wrong? I do blame myself, maybe it was the divorce or something else I did. Going thru this all these years with no one to depend on has truly broken me. I haven’t remarried and spend my days wondering why? Why my family? My daughter got Type 1 diabetes at age 3, was that not enough pain for our family?

My son has rejected me again after a brief stint at Thanksgiving when I thought he was coming back. But he’s gone now and I don’t even know where he lives. Frankly I’m just so tired emotionally, physically and mentally. I can’t live the rest of my days overcome with sadness. I’m glad you have a husband and other children to lean on . My daughter has enabled my son’s delusion because she doesn’t want to lose him. But I could never speak an untruth just to make someone stick around even my biological son. I won’t contribute to his delusions even if it means not seeing him ever again. He made these choices, not me. He chose to go against God and run with demons. I can only pray for him and pray to St Monica to ask for intercession to send someone else to talk him back to sanity. He won’t listen to me.

Lisa Guadagna #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I have a trans son who claims to be a girl. We see him for dinner every month and I always get in trouble for using the wrong pronouns. Although I voted for Trump for this and for MAHA. Trans ideas of injecting and swallowing all kinds of substances and not even questioning if that is healthy is sinister. I also voted for trump because of the dictatorial powers in forcing injections to keep a job and hen my eyes were opened to media propaganda. Yes I am beginning to read about cults because the trans ideology has so many of those characteristics. By understanding their techniques I am better equipped to fight.

Grandma Eileen #transphobia #fundie #conspiracy pittparents.com

The transgender ideology IS indeed an evil cult. I looked up the definition for cult: "A cult is a group requiring unwavering devotion to a set of beliefs and practices which are considered deviant outside the norms of society, which is typically led by a charismatic and self-appointed leader (Satan????) who tightly controls its members. It is in some contexts a pejorative (expressing contempt or disapproval) term, also used for new religious movements and other social groups which are defined by their unusual religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and rituals, or their common interest in a particular person, object, or goal. This sense of the term is weakly defined – having divergent (to be different or develop in different directions) definitions both in popular culture and academia – and has also been an ongoing source of contention (heated disagreement) among scholars across several fields of study. " I was a bit surprised how closely this "cult" definition sums up the transgender ideology!

In many ways we are all living our own Hell on Earth. Just listen to any news station and the evil in this world is everywhere. Our own government is at war amongst itself, there is no peace on our land. Senseless killings, attempted assassinations, sex trafficking, kidnappings, rapes, and high crime is an everyday issue. This is all due to evil mindedness as the devil himself has poisoned the minds and souls of so many people. Look at the homeless population problems in every city, with so many people mentally ill, or drug addicts and alcoholics. Satan once again has his evil hand in all of this to keep people in bondage. Now we have transgender ideology flooding our world and influencing our youth and stealing the innocent lives of our once healthy and happy children. Satan has once again come up with a new scheme to destroy mankind.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I recently tried to have The Talk. As a lifelong liberal Democrat, most people in my social circle are also liberal Democrats. Most of them don’t know my son is trans identifying. That is, I haven’t made any mention of it. I. Do. Not. Talk. About. It.

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The first time was a few years ago, when my friend L. was reminiscing about our shared love for Harry Potter. She brought it up, and she had previously in the evening mentioned that she thought perhaps COVID did come from a lab leak after all. “Aha!” I thought. “A crack! Maybe she’s open to hearing about my perspective as the parent of an ROGD autistic boy. Maybe she even already agrees with me!” I became cautiously excited. My adrenalin started to race. She asked me; what did I think about J. K. Rowling now, given her recent comments? I took a breath. I contemplated lying. I decided I was sick and tired of not speaking up. I said: “I agree with her.”

It was like all the air was sucked out of the room. I instantly knew she did not agree with J. K., or with me. I felt the portcullis crash down. It was like I could hear her thoughts - “Oh, she’s just not informed on the subject. I must educate her. Poor lost soul.” I wanted to say - oh honey. I know you think you are ahead of me. But you are not.

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I did not vote for Trump, but I was relieved when he won. I am so happy about the Executive Orders to stop the dangerous gender non-sense. But my Trump-euphoria is beginning to wane, because people like my friends, smart, compassionate people, think anything he says must be wrong because he said it. They cannot evaluate anything he does on its own merits. We’re in for a long four years.

Anon #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

[Posted by the parent of a living trans child]

Of late, I have been wanting to ‘bury’ my son. I’m not quite sure what I mean by this. Perhaps it will be that I put all his things in a box…& make it a place I go to when I think of him. He’s not coming back, so I might as well remember him as he was. He’s was a wonderful person, I have no clue who he is anymore

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Our oldest has fallen so far away from the family that he causes much stress. Stress over whether or not to invite him to gatherings, whether or not he will come, whether or not we will offend him (spoiler, we will), whether or not I will have to ask him to leave, whether or not I will be able to function to attend other gatherings after seeing him. All of this stress makes the holidays a time I want to escape.

So, we did. The four of us went on the vacation that we had planned for the five of us. We were incomplete.

We enjoyed the ocean and all its power but missed the excitement that he has for marine life. We encountered vibrant birds and unique mammals but missed his knowledge of animals to explain the details of each creature. We toured ancient ruins and learned about civilizations past, but I found myself longing for his inquisitiveness. The meals together, laughter, and new inside jokes are all memories to cherish. But something is missing from it all.

He was supposed to be with us. He was supposed to be a part of the memories. He was supposed to bond with us. It was supposed to be our one big vacation before they all start going their own ways in life.

But he has already gone his own way. In fact, "he" doesn't even exist right now. "He" believes he is a "she." How can I both miss him and need to escape him? I guess it is him I miss and "her" I need to escape.

Katharina #transphobia pittparents.com

I live in an extremely "progressive" (obviously the word doesn't mean what it used to) California town. Our doctors office is covered with trans flags and offers for gender counseling. It makes me literally sick. I've written about it on their Yelp review page and comment forms. Unfortunately it's the only local clinic currently taking our insurance. We use it very rarely, but it's still maddening. Recently, I went to another practice, dermatology, for my yearly skin check. The dermatologist brought in a student who was trailing her and asked if "she" could be there. I barely glanced at her and thought it was a woman. However as we went through the exam I noticed the student was wearing a trans flag pin, was much taller than average, and had *very* large feet. I began to get anxious, wondering if this was actually a man with us. I had to open my gown so she could check my front and felt extremely uncomfortable. I didn't know what to do - could I say "hey, are you a dude?"? - so I finished the appointment. Afterwards, when I caught the doctor in the hall, I explained my reservations and asked if the student was a woman or trans woman. She got super irritable with me and said, "a woman!" Being in California, I'll never really know what that meant, and it wouldn't surprise me at all if they let a trans " woman" work with them and called him a woman. Extremely disturbing, I still feel violated.

Un-silent #biphobia pittparents.com

My daughter also went to 8 years of Catholic school then entered charter high school. She had some difficulty with a boyfriend who went trans so I transferred her to another school. She was doing well till she started getting into anime and furry groups post graduation and then attended a city college. After that she started becoming more distant and finally told me she was bi-sexual, when I refused to go along she cut communications with me. That was 2 and a half years ago. It seems like a bad dream, we used to be so close.

Lisa Shultz #transphobia pittparents.com

Many people have thrown their hands in the air in exasperation at keeping up with all the letters in the ever-growing LGBTQ+ alphabet. Perhaps the images of “drag queen reading hour” for kindergarten kids didn’t sit right with you. Maybe seeing boys and men on podiums receiving winning medals in girls’ and women’s sporting events seemed off. Perhaps it felt awkward to interact with the coffee shop’s male barista with lipstick, eye shadow, and breasts, and you sensed his smirk was possibly from deriving pleasure at your discomfort.

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I miss the time when …

· it was possible to hear my daughter’s natural voice and laugh
· I could call my daughter by her name
· people didn’t demand that I lie about the reality of my daughter’s birth sex as female and try to force me to collude with the falsehood that she is a male
· gaslighting of my experience of giving birth to and raising two females wasn’t normalized
· people didn’t stop talking to me because I didn’t believe my daughter was a male
· friends and relatives didn’t walk away from me when I needed them most
· my daughter’s birth certificate was a truthful document
· my role as a mother wasn’t undermined, and my knowledge and wisdom were respected
· I was valued for the quality of my character and my solid history of responsible parenting

Suffering Mother #transphobia pittparents.com

On my flight to Virginia a person appeared in front of me that looked so much like my son. I almost got up and talk to them. It was a tall woman dressed in a mini skirt, long legs with tie up boots on And mid length hair and they stood right in front of me about 12 feet away looking at the board for the airline flight and I kept looking and looking and thinking its my son is ? I couldn’t bring myself to get up. I was frozen Then they ran away to the back and looked my way and then went way over the other side and sat. I kept looking because I had a weird feeling that it was my son and I did not recognize him dressed as a woman. This has been tearing me apart ever since this happened. I asked my daughter to ask him if it was him she said he said it wasn’t but I don’t believe him because he’s been a liar all his life. He wrote me after that and said that he hadn’t left Oakland since two or three years and if it was him, he wouldn’t have run away from me well, I don’t believe him. I think it was him. And I didn’t recognize my own son! I noticed the chin I noticed the way he looked the way he acted, but I was frozen. I couldn’t do anything and I don’t know why. My whole point is this is hurt me much more than I want it to.

Mark Anderson Smith #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

If your child identifies as trans, you are not alone. There are thousands of parents in similar situations in the UK and perhaps tens of thousands around the world. Most of us are struggling. Most of us find ourselves unable to accept what is obviously not true. We desperately do not want our child to harm themselves. Although in recent months – as I write this in early 2024 – there has been a slight change in public perceptions, still there are a large number of people who are highly influential in the media insisting that the response to trans identity should be to accept and celebrate it. Politicians, journalists, even medical professionals. How can all these people not see what we see – our child, the child we always knew? How can they claim the impostor is the real person?

If you’ve seen those David Tennant episodes, you’ll know that there is an opportunity for reconciliation, for two orphans to find each other and be a family again. Then the twist. The knife in the back. Professor Yana is revealed as the Doctor’s sworn enemy: the Master. The Doctor is not the last of the Time Lords, Yana is an acronym for You Are Not Alone. I’ll share later of an experience we had, someone who claimed to be there to help and I now think was a threat to our family. It is such a betrayal to think someone is on your side and then to find out they never were.

Throughout this nightmare we have been living, for over two and a half years now, there has been someone who has been faithful, who has been by our side the whole way, comforting us, giving us courage to continue, our Father in heaven.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

However in reference to your yard sign including" Stop the sterilization of gay kids": I would revise this to "Stop the sterilization of vulnerable young people" I believe my son is actually straight, as he had crushes on girls in high school. However, at 22, after sterilization by Planned Parenthood when he was newly 19, he says he is now "asexual." He would no doubt prefer a relationship with a lesbian female to validate his fantasy of being a "woman" (which would actually be a straight couple.) But with his disturbing appearance as an over six feet tall man in stereotyped "female" clothes, his likelihood of a normal female attracted to him are close to zero. Instead he is dating another confused man also ingesting sterilizing hormones and pretending to be a woman. So now my son claims to be a "lesbian." It's all beyond bizarre and cruel what's been inflicted on him (and myself and my family) by our sick society. Indeed, if I posted your sign on my yard, I would fear for my house and myself.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

This Christmas Eve your trans-identified child will be visited by the ghost of Jacob Marley, who wanders the Earth burdened with the heavy chains of health problems, childlessness, and missing body parts, all experienced during a lifetime of vulnerability and selfishness.

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The third spirit, the Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come, shows your child a Christmas Day in the future. The silent ghost reveals scenes involving the death of a disliked individual whose funeral is attended by a local trans group only on the condition that lunch is provided. The local trans group steals your child’s possessions to sell them themselves. They show that the group cares nothing for your child and is busy going on to indoctrinate the next victim.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

Since my now 22 year old son plunged into the "trans" abyss at 19, I have been able to maintain sporadic contact despite the horrid sting of seeing him deterioate mentally and physically. However, I cannot will myself to call him by his stupid name or pronoun nor affirm his charade. To do so would betray the foundation of love for my son, which I cannot bear. Since my son is aware of my refusal to indulge his narcissistic delusion, I wonder if he may decide to refuse sparse in-person visits, or perhaps even ignore occasional benign texts and emails. I also try to pre-grieve estrangement, but this task seems impossible. How does one pre-grieve a precious child?? Unless he detransitions, this primal loss will ache for the rest of my life. There is no escape from being cheated from my son thriving and our sick society stealing his potential and health while shunning the validity of my pain and outrage. So I hope my confused brainwashed son will stay in touch with me, even in a minimal way. But if he doesn't someday, which could be this week (who knows?), I will have to trudge on, and I will, though with an even heavier heart than I am enduring now.

George Q Tyrebyter #homophobia #transphobia pittparents.com

My tolerance toward GLB is dropping by the day. GLB has pushed TQ into the forefront. Now they will reap the whirlwind, and I don't give a shit. My daughter is gay, my nephew is gay, an old friend's daughter is gay - I don't believe ANY of them are really gay, but rather have arrested development. I don't say that to anyone's face, however.

Anon #transphobia pittparents.com

[Reply to the parent of a trans child]

Sometimes I just want to change the whole ‘unconditional love’ thing to ‘actually I really only love you on the condition that you show a little respect’. There’s more to you than your identity & if it’s going to hurt you so much that you are referred to as your true born self then you really don’t stand to survive very well in this world. There are far more perilous things that may come your way in life. It almost makes me want to say bring back bullying on the playground so they can learn to get over it & build resilience.

Distressed Parent #transphobia pittparents.com

If only I could have read this essay before my son was pushed off the sanity cliff by nefarious Planned Parenthood. That said, my husband and I tried with substantial effort to help our son escape from the poisonous gender cult tentacles when they first infected him as a teen. Likely curtailing more of his social media access may have helped. He was an excellent student often on his laptop working to achieve all A's, and we didn't suffienctly realize how utterly corrupting social media was/ is. I may always beat myself up about this regret. But in high school, my son went into remission from his "trans" obsession with the help his father and I did offer, and we thought we were out of these dark, treacherous woods. Unfortunately (a massive understatement as words to convey this horror are invaribly inadequate,) while he was sealed in his dorm room during his first semester at college in 2020 when the fear of COVID was peaking, the "trans" virus resurfaced to claim his mind, health and his potential, and simultaneously torpedoed the hearts of his parents, inflict loss on his clear-thinking sister, and destroy our once close family. As time in this psychological hell went on and on, I recognized the need to let go of short term hope as necessary to emerge from profound despair. But I need to allow long term hope that my son will somehow wake up. In reference to the title of today's lucid PITT essay, I also allow yearning for a "trans"-educated society to emerge and pummel the idiocy, indifference, virtue signaling, greed, and the cruelty of this evil cult back into the depths of hell where it burns to oblivion.

Lisa J. Shultz #transphobia pittparents.com

[The author is describing their ideal outcomes for 2025]

Drag queen reading hour for children is banned. Children are protected from individuals who present themselves in libraries and educational settings as the opposite sex in dress or mannerisms that accentuate negative or regressive stereotypes or who have an agenda to normalize the presentation or behavior of pretending to be of the opposite sex.

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Apologies and reparations are made to any person who lost a job, position, license, or professional opportunity because another person presented themselves as the opposite gender or who endured threats or violence from an identity activist or political activist.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

Of course, the cult masters swarm around their internet spaces and hail Trans-giving and Trans Santa as days of “love” and “empowerment” while they reinforce the irrational fears and artificial identities of these poor, oppressed souls. They sponsor dinners for deeply delusional human beings and urge them to “keep up the fight,” get tested for STDs, donate to LGBTQA++ charities and be vigilant while outdoors because everyone hates them and wants to kill them. They print and distribute sample letters to Trans Santa where boys ask for frilly dresses and girls ask for toy jackhammers that their transphobe parents will not gift them. They blasphemed Easter with that insane Day of Visibility (The fact checkers say, “oh but it does not always FALL on Easter.”). They have taken the Thanks out of Thanksgiving, the Christ out of Christmas and the trust and warm-heartedness out of family traditions. Holidays are all about their live human trans lab experimental subjects. They boast about their “cultural achievements.” The raw materials of outrage.

I am an absolute wreck inside. I will never get over that my son went from being a straight teenage heartthrob to full opposite sex pretender at age 30. After 13 years of self-imposed online hazing and activism, he finally undertook the full three-stage mutilation process, told us to bugger off, then pledged his full membership in the worst fraternity in hell.

Average Dad #transphobia #racist #wingnut #fundie pittparents.com

That is correct, we must push back and stand for truth, if not western civilization is domed, history proves that 3 generations of this trans debauchery will be our undoing. We can't survive like this. Unfettered illegal immigration combined with unfettered sexual trans debauchery imposed on children will be our demise. Sexual freedom needs to reigned in some and our immigration laws should have always been enforced. But here we are. Those in power approve of the current state because they will be the ones left in power telling everyone what to do. They are the arsonists and the firefighters, they want to return to paganism and serfdom.

An anonymous detransitioner #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I'm 74 years old, have four children, four stepchildren and eight grandchildren, soon to be nine. Yet I was transgender for 15 years, between the ages of 12 and 26. It was a painful and unforgettable experience during which I was obsessed with not letting my trans-identity show through effeminate behaviour or a spontaneous reaction that would betray my homosexual tendencies. I mention it here because, at my age, you have to ask yourself what you want to do before you die. Well, I want to pass on my story to tell young people suffering from gender dysphoria that there are at least three ways of dealing with the pain of gender dysphoria:

1) Resigning oneself to living with dysphoria.

2) Changing one's body to match their mind via hormone therapy and surgery.

3) Reconciling your psychological identity with the biological identity of your sex with help from a qualified therapist. Today, this third path has become a new taboo called ‘conversion therapy’. It's a mistake to make it a new taboo, even if a famous documentary on the subject has mixed conversion therapy with exorcism, guilt-tripping speeches, group prayers and behaviourist therapies from another age, as well as some legitimate and honest speeches, with a certain amount of bad faith.

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My experience seems to prove that there is a third way, which I call ‘reconciliation therapy’ between gender identity and sexual identity (not to be confused with ‘conversion therapy’). Yes, psychological identity is a flexible thing and there are therapies that allow you to change not only your behaviour, but also your self-image in the eyes of yourself and others.

F is for Feminist, Annie J., Alan rose #transphobia pittparents.com

(F is for Feminist)
Why should your daughter, in order to be a girl, have to present herself in the restrictive, out-dated, stereotyped trappings of a girl? That is part of the problem. [...] The trans-mob is one of the most repressive, hetero-normative, stereotyping, misogynist, anti-feminist, anti-lesbian/gay movements to ever exist and be so far reaching. Yes, fight back for your children but not by being trapped by gender stereotyping.

(Annie J.)
I agree with you, and this is what I tell my daughter. She first came out to me as bisexual, and I accepted her as so. I love her no matter what. Then she told me she was "pansexual", then it changed eventually to trans. I supported her in those earlier years by telling her to be herself - dress how she wants, cut her hair how she wants - that's no big deal. She always had a style all her own, and that's part of what makes her special. However, this whole trans thing is insanity. You are so right about the trans-mob's anti-female (anti anything but 100% trans affirming) stance. It's awful, hateful, and unrealistic. I am sickened by what it is doing to our children and cannot understand how it started, nor how to stop it. I grew up a tomboy, had boy friends, did boy things (bb guns, tree climbing, baseball, football) - it drove my mom nuts but she let me be me. I grew up a well adjusted woman. It sickens me to know if I were a kid today, that I'd be groomed and put in the trans category.

(F is for Feminist)
Yes Annie J. I too was called a tomboy. I gravitated toward “boy” things. I feel so lucky that I was able to grow into the woman I am. Today, I would have been told I was “really a boy” and could have spent my youth with a mutilated body and a lifetime on hormones.

(Alan rose)
Genesis 1:27 And God created humankind in the divine image,

creating it in the image of God—

creating them male and female.

Elizabeth #transphobia pittparents.com

I felt such gratitude and relief when President Trump issued this executive order. It came too late to help my own son or my family. Multiple doctors, teachers, psychiatrists, and even a few psychiatric institutions all failed to help my son. Those so called professionals were so captured by the gender lie, or too cowardly to fight against it, that they let the gender lie consume an autistic teen. It is despicable. It is my hope that this EO will save other children, and will stop the bullying of parents who know that their child cannot change sex.

Now congress must act to put the nail in the coffin of gender ideology and all its harms. If they don’t act, Trumps actions could be undone by a future president.

It is my hope that so many people will now feel free to speak against the lie of “gender affirming care” , that the floodgates will have burst, and there will be no going back.

Runemasque #transphobia pittparents.com

In the days after my son announced he was a woman, he was ecstatic, thinking everyone was on board (I was listening and asking questions and ordering my mind). He was giddy explaining how excited he was to get thigh high boots finally and how they'd look. Now, how would he be tapped into that? I realized that the porn that I had some awareness of was facilitating a fantasy. I could not ethically nor honestly participate in what, to me, had become a fantastical ritual given very very grand and heavy meaning. I am not going to go to the trans church and say I believe in the god when I don't, and when I can see that, for my grown son, it has been attributed with the meaning of everything. Add sex to the meaning-making, and it is a very potent attachment. I don't see how I can participate in that.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

As a liberal democrat, I am alarmed at what has happened to my beloved democratic party. Gender ideology - the trans cancer - has disguised itself as a social justice/civil rights issue and infected the democratic party. This cancer has consumed women’s rights, parents’ rights, LGB rights (yes, you read that correctly), children’s safety and many of the principles and values that democrats hold sacred. Consider:

The democratic party has abandoned science in favor of ideology.
The democratic party now demands that a specific religion be taught in public schools.
The democratic party now supports child abduction when a child has religious differences with his or her parents.
The democratic party now endorses a new type of conversion therapy on the LGB community.
The democratic party is unconcerned about the mass mutilation and sterilization of children.
The democratic party has set women’s rights back 50 years.
The democratic party now embraces misogyny.

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How can the democratic party rid itself of the trans cancer? Renounce gender ideology. Work with republicans to ban gender affirming treatments for all children under 18 and ban the teaching of gender ideology in schools through middle school. Gender ideology can be taught in high school during the section on cults.

Marianne #transphobia pittparents.com

They only “think” and “feel” like women. But they obviously don’t know how women think and feel, so they are acting the way they think women think and feel.
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They think we worry about being “misgendered” as much as they do. Although we don’t worry about it at all, they never really “pass” because there is always something that is a dead giveaway, usually the voice, but also man hands, huge feet, wide shoulders, narrow hips, skinny legs, course facial skin, Adam’s apple, male pattern baldness, and being someone you immediately feel your born in female compassion kicking in because they are so pathetic and really just so darn ugly.

I think of poor Jazz Jennings talking about his “seven inch deep vagina” and saying he “wants big boobies”. As much as they whimper about being afraid in the ladies room, they know they can overpower a woman if they want to. Yes, they are fools, but they can’t fool us all the time. I will be so glad to see them go away.

Average Dad #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

There is not a place in time except today that parents have to worry, reinforce, protect, or fret over what sex their children are at birth and that sex is not mutable. Our government, leaders, teachers, doctors, professors, clergy, everyone except a brave few have failed civilization spectacularly. The diabolical want this step to normalize pedophilia this is as clear as day. God help us all!

Girl Mom #transphobia pittparents.com

When we simply asked our daughter, "When did you first start feeling like a boy?", she became visibly enraged and lashed back, "I can't answer that!". She proceeded to yell at us for not using her fake pronouns or name. She seemed on the verge of tears, but couldn't cry because the testosterone had already started messing her up. For nearly four years now, despite other efforts for a civil conversation, our questions have remained unanswered and she has estranged herself, at nearly 22. There is no reasoning with these mental patients, which is essentially what they are, but we also need to be careful to not anger them so they don't do some very stupid & dangerous, like shoot up a school, which has happened. I really fear for what my daughter, who's turned to the dark side, hopped up on T, might do someday.

Allison #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

Here in rural Canada recognizing Trans ideology started with a parade and now its an entire month. Many stores put authorized/ official Trans posters up in the store. Some churches remove the Canadian flag replacing it for the Trans flag. ( They even include the colours for MAP - pedophiles aka minor attracted persons!) Next June I plan on contacting the stores displaying this support and insist they refrain or I will make a point of boycotting their store.

Lisa #transphobia pittparents.com

Recently I felt my heart open up toward my son, but I started to think maybe I should try using his new name. After discussing with my therapist, I realized that once again I was taking on responsibility and trying to fix it. My son is 29 and started this at 25 - so he’s an adult and while he is probably delusional, I can’t change how he thinks about this. I can however, work on keeping my heart open and loving him from afar. I can practice compassion toward him, toward myself, and toward everyone caught up or affected by transgenderism.

I have observed that it seems the majority of those who are keeping contact are doing so for financial reasons. My son broke all financial ties before coming out. Therefore, he had nothing financially to lose by going no contact. This may sound harsh, but I think it’s the cold hard reality for many.

I stand here in the light, ready to help my son. But helping is not reinforcing the delusion or doing anything to make it easier for him to live this lifestyle. I look at it like enabling an alcoholic - I can’t control an adult’s drinking but I sure as hell can control not buying him booze.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

[From a satirical article presenting transition as a deal with "Dr. Lucifer"]

I want more. I want…your parents. Well, I don’t really want THEM, but as part of our deal, you must cut your parents out of your life. Completely. I call it “going no contact”. This isolation from your family is an important requirement of our contract. Remember that time you lost a balloon at your 8-year-old birthday party, and your dad found it and you cried, “Daddy fixed it”? Forget that memory, and any others like it. Yeah, it’s true your mom and dad love you to a depth you can’t begin to comprehend. Your parents never give up on you. They are there for you. They want the best for you. But dumping your parents will not be as hard as you think because once you become trans, you will actually want to cut them out of your life. It will be entirely your idea. And you can cut out the rest of your family too!

And if you’re under 18, some countries and US states will actually help you ditch your family. I have helpful servants everywhere! They take the form of clueless teachers and counselors, child protective services, and others. If one of my servants hasn’t given you instructions about this, let’s review. Start by keeping secrets, and then move onto lying. Go to an LGBTQXYZ meeting and don’t tell your parents. Pick a new name and try it out with your friends, in secret of course. Then, if you go to school, insist that everyone at school use your new name and gender, and keep it all secret from your parents. My servants working as teachers and counselors can help you with that. Tell your parents everything is great! If you can, don’t even tell them about seeing me! When you make your big trans announcement, you can then tell your parents how they have ruined your life and proceed to ditch them. Now since I’m the devil, I will make deals. If your parents or other members of your family are “all in” with your new identity and support gender ideology, you can consider keeping them around. (Note to Reader - Gender ideology has been my best gig in many years for acquiring souls, sterilizing and injuring children, destroying families, and just spreading pain and misery everywhere - all with societal approval - so I consider parental support of gender ideology an investment in my future returns.)