The whole love language discourse is male bullshit.

Only the autistic moid mind needs a spec sheet to see where a character’s “love” experience points are allocated, and how each class performs in romantic “matchups”.

The only reason women adopted it is because they have no choice but to converse with men like children if they want to reason with them, otherwise they’re unlikely to be understood at all. Love language is the same as mommy gamifying life lessons with simple rules, small words, and uptalk so her toddler understands it better. No sweetie, it hurts puppies when you kick them, so don’t do it again, or I’ll take away a star! Yes, the puppy likes it when you pet it gently! Good boy, here’s a gold star! Mommy likes it when you give her words of affirmation! Good job, here’s another one! Save up 20 more stars and you’ll get sex!

You can’t rely on men to do the right thing the same way you can’t rely on a toddler to do the right thing. They have no internal drive to care about anything other than gratifying themselves. They can only understand a gratification system with instructions, rewards, and punishments. But men are unfortunately smarter than toddlers, and primarily use their intelligence to flip the rules back on you to get more of what they want.