At 40, if you decide to pivot your gender identity entirely — after decades of friendships, work, and public presence — I see that less as brave self-discovery and more as a betrayal of accumulated trust and expectations. espcially Claire publicly distanced herself from Chuggaaconroy during a period of widespread (and now often criticized) overreaction. Rather than defending a long-time collaborator or giving him the benefit of the doubt, she issued cold, brand-safe distancing language. You weren’t there for your friend when people were twisting the story but now you want everyone to show up and validate your truth?