I don’t see the big deal about letting minors consent to sex. I remember being 13 and knowing which things I wanted and which I didn’t. Even at 9 years old, I held meaningful opinions about things that were happening to me
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Problem: A 20-year-old man has sex with a 13-year-old girl. Was it consensual?
Solution: Let the girl know that her answer is entirely private and that no harm will come to her from answering or testifying in court. Then ask her if the sex was consensual. If she says yes, don’t waste any more taxpayer money on the case.

Let’s take your logic further -[b] Are there any 10 year olds who are capable of giving consent? 8 year olds? [/b]Certainly there are some who think that they are. Are they just because they believe it? Is there no victim?

I have no reason to think it’s impossible. I’d have to look at each case individually, unless presented with medical evidence that 100% of humans younger than N years are incapable of giving consent.

if the child doesn’t feel she has been victimized, she wasn’t subject to any force or fraud, and she (as an individual) hasn’t been found incapable of giving consent, I don’t think she’s a victim.

And I don’t think we can possibly help the child by telling her, “I know you don’t feel like anything is wrong, but what happened was very bad, and your friend is a very bad man who will be going away for a long time,” creating a painful memory from what was otherwise a pleasant (or at least unremarkable) experience