For example, if sex before marriage is OK because people supposedly can’t control themselves, then it must be okay to engage in pornography, too, right? After all, the temptation to watch and participate in porn abounds like it didn’t in Bible times.
Not surprisingly, when Cindy asked Rob if it was OK to engage in pornography , his theology changed. “Pornography isn’t OK because it’s damaging to the people who are doing it, and it’s not very Christian.”
Why does Rob have an inconsistent view of purity and of the Bible’s commandments?
Additionally, if scriptures in the Bible became untrue because people can’t control their desires , then we’d also have to cut out the commandments on stealing, lying, cheating and having affairs.
Sure enough, there are holes in Rob’s sex-before-marriage theology, just like there would be holes in his Bible if Cindy cut it up.
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Stealing, lying, cheating and having affairs aren't ok in the cases where they hurt others. Sex before marriage doesn't hurt anyone. Self-control isn't part of the equation at all, we don't excuse harmful behaviors because "they couldn't resist".
As I said before, I consider sex before marriage to be not merely okay, but proper. And not just because I am horny. Basically, it’s about mistaking the certificate for the achievement.
As an analogy, in the second book of the German Sams children’s book series, Mr Taschenbier, who has a wish-granting machine at this point, wishes for a sports car. Then he realises that he never made a driver’s license, so he wishes for one. But of course, simply having a driver’s license does not actually confer the ability to actually drive a car… Hilarity ensues.
Similarly, marriage does not produce a stable pair-bond. It legally recognises it and brings legalm benefits that will hopefully reduce stress that could threaten it, but you really should already be a well-established couple before the wedding.
Josh Buggar. Also, Jerry FAILwell Jr. Even the Holy Spook putting in Le Club Pudding the underage child bride Mary.
So it's not only your 'Opinion' that is invalid, Shana Schutte The Fuck Up.
My brother’s a pastor and while he “kept himself for marriage,” he told me that now he has no expectation whatsoever that anyone else do so and simply assumes that any couple that asks him to marry them are already sleeping together. He said it would be weirder if they weren’t, really, and that it doesn’t figure into his thought process, preaching, or counseling. I’ve also known conservative pastors who thought that sex itself counts as marriage in God’s eyes, so it doesn’t really matter if it is before or after the vows are exchanged, only that the couple is faithful to one another.
Sex before marriage helps ensure that the couple is compatible in that regard. That avoids the difficulty of a couple discovering on the wedding night that one has preferences the other can’t or won’t accommodate: he wants the lights on, she wants them off; she wants oral, he doesn’t; they both want to be on top. If they’re going to insist on being virgin on the wedding night, it at least should be discussed. It’s no different than discussing politics, religion, whether they want children, or one is a vegetarian. Differences won’t necessarily ruin a marriage, but it’s better going into it knowing, instead of finding out after the ceremony.
"The only purpose for which power can be rightfully exercised over any member of a civilized community, against his (or her) will, is to prevent harm to others."
- John Stuart Mill
Sex outside marriage hurts nobody (except maybe at first, lol). Just as long as it’s a consensual arrangement between the couple involved, your religion has no place in their bedroom.
<@Anon-e-moose > #84521
That is some pervert mind you got there. According to Christian belief, Mary got pregnant in a non sexual way. It’s unknown how, It wouldn’t be one if sex was involved. Why would a supernatural ghost of God need to have sex? He could just snap his finger to get someone pregnant.
Also we don’t know if Mary was 12-14. I been doing some research and found out that Jewish girls in ancient times married around 12-18 with some sources saying 12-20. Ancient Jewish girls in Israel married far later then their Jewish counterpart in Babylon. Jewish men in ancient Israel married around 30 to a woman 10-15 years younger, so a woman around 15-20. Mary could have been 18-20. She may have been betrothal around 12-15, but that doesn’t she was 12-15 when she conceived. For all we know God, Joseph and their family could have cause the betrothal to last for several years.
The New Testament on Sexuality
By William Loader Pg 17
<@Anon-e-moose > #84521
(Okay I didn’t save my password, so starting over)
Updated. What I should have said was that was some pervert thought about the virgin birth. It wouldn’t be a virgin birth if sex was involved.
Jewish girls could married at 12. However that doesn’t prove that most married around 12-14 (and more likely 12-18). Well at least not the Jewish girls living in ancient Israel/Palestine. Most of them married around 15-20 (I hope she was like 18-20) to a man who is 30.(see source from my previous comment above). And we can’t really call someone a pedo when Mary’s age isn’t known and base on guesses. Yes educate guesses, but still guesses. Not to mention according to Christian belief it wasn’t done in a sexual manner, but it was done in a supernatural way.
And while I’m at it. Since that you mention the Holy Spirit. There’s this thing how early Christians and Jews believe that the Holy Spirit is female. John said himself state that he saw the Holy Spirit coming down in bodily form like a dove. According to the Jewish encyclopedia, dove is smilie for female beauty. Weird since that the Holy Spirit got Mary pregnant. But if it was done with divine powers, I don’t see why one needs to be a dude if they can impregnated someone by snapping their fingers. Or either that it was done with tech https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn4909-virgin-birth-mammal-rewrites-rules-of-biology/amp/
The Bible never describe anything sexual about Mary conceiving since that the Bible in any version use comes upon you as anything sexual.
https://www.cbeinternational.org/resource/article/priscilla-papers-academic-journal/feminine-imagery-god-hebrew-bible
https://earstohear.substack.com/p/holy-spirit-the-feminine-being-of?utm_source=url&s=r
Ancient Jewish Epitaphs: An Introductory Survey of a Millennium of Jewish Funerary Epigraphy (300 BCE-700 CE) by Pieter Willem van der Horst Pg 104
<@Anon-e-moose > #84521
And why did you call Mary a child when the Bible said she was a woman? I can’t remember the verse, but Jesus called a 12 year old girl a little girl. That shows you in ancient Israel 12 year olds were still seen as little girls. However old Mary was, she seem to understand what was going on. I say she was around 18-19 or 18-20. I don’t know, but Mary doesn’t come off being a kid to me. And I find it hard to believe that an all powerful being didn’t cause the betrothal to last for several years for Mary if she was 12-15 when she was betrothed. I believe he did. God is not a man and neither is the Holy Spirit. Only a man would impregnated a 12-15 year old girl. A an all loving God would have cause the betrothal to last until Mary was 18 or older.
Maybe you should’ve read the Bible and did some research* instead of listening to scholars who are guessing and basing their guess either on a mix up or weak evidence. I say mix up because maybe they are mixing Babylonian marriage age with the ones in Israel or assuming it’s the same. There are a lot of sources I read that states that Jewish women and man married later in ancient Israel. Or either that maybe they are basing their guess on some law. The law in ancient Israel does say one can married at 12 and maybe the talmud may said something about marriage at 12. However those things don’t prove that most married around 12-15 or only around 12-15. The talmud is probably the ideal and not the reality.
* (although to be fair I found my sources on google books.You also have to know what to look for and what to type in).
Ps. I find it strange that Mary’s father (or mother) was not a part of this. Girls and women until marriage were under their dad’s authority.
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