Each time I say this I get down voted But the default state for men is abusing women always.. I have seen what happen when norms collapse or a war start, you are more likely to be abused by your father, brother, husbands, sons more than the enemies When mali refugees flood my country, I noticed the sheer number of fathers either SA their daughters or selling them to other men, I saw brothers doing the same, sons doing the same because there is no surveillance or consequences. I saw what men who are running from militants do when they encounter a woman or young girl running, they always abuse them in 9 out 10 cases . There is a reason why I grew up seeing my mom leaving me and my sister with our grandmother when she is absent and never with my father and brother ...evey women around me went to the same or do it to her daughters

The default of men is predation and wether it is in their nature is unknown to me but I absolutely believe its true And it's why I'm scared of marriage and don't want a daughter to experience this