My 10-year-old daughter was enticed by the "furry" movement; girls wearing cute cat ears are part of a larger movement of sterilization and misery directed at kids. The only choice for me was to homeschool. Schools are putting our entire systems at risk when they double down and undermine parents.
“At the rate we’re transing kids, soon there will be no gay people left”. […] Does anyone find that funny? I don’t. But the eradication of the gay community is exactly what is happening right now, today, thanks to gender ideology.
[…] The older sister of one of my friends was a classic tomboy […] later, I learned that she was gay. […] I’ve thought about her a lot lately. I have no doubt that if she had grown up in the last 20 years, she would now have a beard, no breasts, and would be going by a male name. She would have been trans-ed. Concerned doctors and therapists would have counseled her and convinced her that she was actually a man in a woman’s body, and that she would be at risk of suicide if she didn’t “transition”. Of course, not every tomboy is gay, but does anyone see any tomboys anymore? Nope.
[…]
What’s really creepy about this assault on the gay community, and gay kids in particular, is that if someone tried to strategize ways to eliminate a specific community or religion or social group, without the group’s knowledge, transitioning that population via gender ideology is precisely how it could be done. Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally, and eliminate the younger members of the group. Eventually, the group will shrink and disappear.
[…] All the organizations that have represented the gay community now also represent trans-identified individuals. You rarely see LGB organizations or references to LGB-specific issues […] Other organizations that have been friendly to gays and lesbians in the past, like the ACLU, now include and even prioritize trans issues. Gays and lesbians are forced to accept trans-identified individuals in all situations, even though around 50% of those individuals are quite probably gay and have been transitioned […] This is a wicked, sneaky assault - trans the gay kids and in a generation there will be no more gays.
[…]
Gender ideology is the new conversion therapy, and it’s working.
Exactly the same receipts with my son, too! He still loves his computer building and now is creating soft ware. I haven't seen or heard from him except once in 10 years but I've been informed he's well and employed at the moment. In my case both my daughters- his big sisters whom he admired and respected groomed him as Trans they being nauseating strident feminists. Hey they get to display their trans flags in their front yards,though. By association they are so cool, they think.
My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things. See work by Jennifer Bilek. It’s not ok for kids. It’s not ok for adults. It’s not. Ok. Ever.
["A Letter to My Son: From a Grieving Mother Who Still Loves Him Deeply"]
As a woman, it is incredibly painful to see men adopt what they believe are “feminine” traits, clothing, or mannerisms and call that womanhood. To me, it feels like a caricature — like our lived experiences, our biology, our lifelong struggles are being reduced to a performance or aesthetic. I don’t say this to hurt you. I say it because my womanhood was not chosen — it has been lived, in body and soul — and when I see someone attempt to replicate it externally, it feels like a wound. Not just for me, but for all women — including your grandmother, aunts and sister.
There is something else I have struggled to explain. Being asked to use a new name and new pronouns feels like I’m being forced to say something I simply don’t believe is true. It’s like being expected to live in an Orwellian world, where I’m asked to deny what I see with my own eyes. Imagine if I came home one day and said, “I’m a toaster now. Please call me Breville and treat me like one.” You would know I’m not a toaster — and being expected to play along would feel surreal, maybe even sad. That’s how it feels to me. I am not mocking you — I’m trying to explain how painful it is to be asked to override my own perception of reality just to make others comfortable.
And finally, the most difficult truth to admit: when I see you dressed this way — in a bra and with fake breasts and very odd clothing — it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away.
This statement "Trans people themselves are not the enemy – far from it." is not correct. Trans people ARE the enemy. Once the trans psychosis has been accepted as a guiding belief, there is a lot of interest in getting others to also accept this. Trans actors (Ellen Page who calls herself "Elliot") present "exemplars" of successful trans persons.
The trans are often not the prime movers, true. But do not give them a pass.
(PS)
Where’s our hotline?
“Press 1 if your child was carefully groomed and scammed into permanently altering her body to perpetuate a false idea and rejecting you, and now your family is falling apart and you’ve been crying in secret for a week straight but you can’t say anything because even at the freakin’ grocery store there are pride flags everywhere and drag queens at the checkout lane and you have a smile on your face but you feel like you are going to have an aneurysm.”
“Para español oprima el dos.”
(Caricapr)
I remember being so distraught that I texted a suicide hotline because I was shaking and couldn’t stop… It didn’t seem like they understood or cared about the trauma I was going through of my son essentially killing himself because he “dead-named” my child, killed our relationship, and killed our closeness. Thankfully he isn’t actually dead and we’ve been able to regain a new relationship. It’s not the same, there’s still hurt on both sides, he’s still on the same path, I’m still not allowed to use his dead name, but there’s always hope 🙏🙏🙏
(LovingMother)
Right? If this were not upside down land that is the hotline we would have.
Crying privately for years now - LM
My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things.
I remember thinking even then that something must be wrong with my daughter, a stomach bug or the first symptoms of the flu perhaps. Whatever it was, she looked pale and unwell sitting across from me. I half-expected her to vomit.
“So, what’s this all about?” Zack asked her. “What’s going on with you?”
She danced around it for a while as we sat there, waiting for her to say something meaningful.
Eventually, she came out with it: “I have gender dysphoria; I feel more like a boy than a girl. I’ve always known something was wrong with me. Now I’ve discovered what it is. I’m going to start living my life as a male—my authentic self—and I want you to use he/him pronouns when you refer to me.”
I stared at her. The things she was saying were so ridiculous that I almost laughed. As a psychiatrist, I’ve been trained not to do that, but still, it almost happened. She could have said, “From now on, I’m going to communicate only through puppets, and I’ll be wearing a hat with rotting fish on my head,” and I would not have been more surprised than I was in that moment. Zack shifted in his seat, as if he was experiencing a bit of intestinal malaise, and again I almost lost it. The laughter wanted to bubble out of me, but I pushed it down and told myself to be still. I wonder what might have happened if I hadn’t. How would she have responded if I had laughed out loud and said, “Okay, cut the shit and tell us what’s really going on with you.” How might that have changed everything that followed?
[The author's describing their relationship with a transgender daughter]
That’s when I found it, a link to his Bluesky account and a blog, after he’d told me about a thread he’d joined there. What I read made me feel physically sick. On his profile, he described himself as a trans lesbian, now on estrogen. I kept scrolling, my heart sinking with each post. There were repeated cries for help: “I want to kill myself,” “I’m so lonely.” Post after post radiated despair.
Then I saw a photo of vials of estrogen. He had been buying hormones online and injecting himself. There were links to music he’d made - dark, noise music. The titles told a story of despair and loneliness. In some, he could be heard crying, whispering pleas. There were photos of self-harm on his legs. There were even nude images of him, images nobody should feel the need to share publicly.
Then the final blow: he wasn’t just visiting a nearby city. He was flying to a foreign country to meet someone he called his “wife.” I was horrified. Panicked. I picked up the phone and called him immediately, desperate to understand what was happening, and how we had gotten here.
He was angry when he found out I had seen his profile, but he agreed, reluctantly, to share his flight details and put me in touch with the parents of the boy he was going to visit. I was slightly reassured that his story checked out. Still, I couldn’t shake the feeling of dread. At that point, I was imagining the worst. He’s now back home. We’ve talked. I’ve cried a lot. This shouldn’t be happening to vulnerable children. When I see people publicly celebrating “trans pride,” I feel a deep anger.
I am in a couple of online groups where parents of ROGD boys meet. We say that we are different as parents but we all have the same son. This boy is typically very intelligent, nerdy, non-athletic, and as a child was interested, no… obsessed with specific “boy” toys and interests. Surveys of ~ 300 parents indicate that almost 92% of our sons fit in this category.
[...]
So, when my son came out to me at 19 and told me that he was a woman trapped in a man’s body, I nearly fainted from shock. What happened since that initial declaration, was that my son, like many of our boys, changed the narrative about his life, his story and the interests he had as a boy and teenager. He started acting differently to try to force himself into fitting into his new “female” identity.
Last week, I decided that it was time to go through the items my son left behind when he moved out of our home and changed his identity as our son. There were containers full of toys, videos and video games, all attesting to the fact that his interests were always those of a typical boy. I found thousands of Legos and K-nex pieces, dozens of Ben Ten and superhero figurines, piles of superhero DVDs, car racing video games (he took all the Mario games!), train, trucks and matchbox car collections, strategy-based board games, etc. I texted my mom friends, “I have receipts!” while sending them photos of the items. We had a funny exchange where we found out that our kids had the exact same toys and many of the same interests when they were growing up. Several of us still have Thomas the Tank train collections, Legos and circuit boards. I am hanging on to those toys. I can’t bear to part with them. Those are receipts that I plan to keep, just in case…
Code names. Secret messages passed in the dark. Covert operations. Hiding from the authorities. Are we talking about 1944 in Europe? Sadly, no: We’re talking about 2021 and our secret resistance is taking place all over the world.
Instead of spies and resistance fighters inside enemy-occupied borders, we are parents of gender questioning children, who are skeptical of the weakly-evidenced, affirmation-only approach currently being pushed by activists and activist-captured organizations (including the Lancet, whose most recent cover insults women and our girls by calling them “bodies with vaginas”).
Rather than codes and secret messages, we pass copies of Abigail Shrier’s Irreversible Damage wrapped in plain brown paper to curious friends. We interact on secret online groups, and write articles and letters using fake names and emails to obscure our true identities due to the very real risk of cancellation and doxing. All we have to do is look at the appalling and one-sided treatment of J.K. Rowling to know we should stay quiet.
[...]
Perhaps some will find the comparison to the Resistance of WWII insulting. But for us parents, it’s very real and very apt. Our kids’ lives and long-term mental and physical health are on the line. And so we fight for their future selves, for who they may become.
If I were growing up now, I'd almost certainly have been convinced I was "born in the wrong body," would have undergone transition procedures, and then come to regret it.
[…]
When I was in my fifties, I discovered that I have ADHD and am on the autism spectrum. I would say that many girls in this category have complex PTSD because of bullying. When I was fifteen, I was sexually assaulted by a nineteen-year-old guy, and I really started acting out. If I'd been offered the opportunity to become part of a special, protected class of people (trans kids), I almost certainly would have taken it. I was tired of fighting. I would have done just about anything to become someone else rather than myself, whom I had learned to despise.
The thing is, though, no matter where you go, there you are.
Some people do have severe, persistent dysphoria about their biological sex. The majority of adolescents presenting with rapid-onset gender dysphoria will desist. These young people need counseling to explore the reasons for their dysphoria, not cross-sex hormones and surgeries.
Transing away the LGB, the autistic, and the gender-nonconforming is not a joke. It's ironic that TRAs are always shrieking about "trans genocide" when they are the most celebrated oppressed class ever.
[Context: Comment under a PITT post claiming transphobic parents are an oppressed group]
I do not think it is hyperbole to say a persecuted class at this juncture in history .
If the trans movement cared about children, they wouldn’t push parents out of their children’s lives. Children need their parents. The narrative is being pushed that parents of LGBTQ are bad. Even in the law, you are innocent until proven guilty. But if your child says they are “trans” you are guilty until proven innocent. To prove you are innocent, you must harm your own child by transitioning them. You are not allowed to ask questions; you can only follow the child’s lead. Fortunately, a new law just passed in North Carolina that says it's not abuse for parents to refuse their kid's gender transition. This is going in the right direction, and we need this in all states.
The Trevor Project is also anti-family. It perpetuates secrets and encourages minors to talk with strangers. We all grew up knowing that if someone told you to keep secrets from your parents, that person is not to be trusted. But in the trans world, keeping secrets from parents is encouraged. In normal times, if a child is suicidal, the parents would be the first to know. But somehow this logic switched to the idea that teachers and random people care more about “trans” children than parents do - all without a shred a proof. No one cares more about their child than their parents! Why does this even have to be explained?
A random person talking to a minor and keeping secrets with that minor is a child predator NOT a child protector.
[…] The Trevor Project is a well-funded activist group pushing policies that keep parents in the dark and insert gender ideology into K-12 schools.
Finally, common sense is coming back. The Trevor project suicide hotline closed on July 17th. It is one less organization pushing the suicide myth.
[…]
Children are very innocent and naive and that’s why this movement has gone after them. Children like mine. We must keep fighting back against organizations like The Trevor Project. We must stop this movement before more children get hurt, like mine has been.
I Belong to An Oppressed Group
We have been around since the beginning of civilization. Now they want to erase us. Our rights are being stripped away; our voices silenced. They disrespect us and treat us with hate. We have had to band together in secret but our voices will become louder until society finally accepts us for who we are, for our true selves.
WE are PARENTS who deeply LOVE our children; even though they don't believe us and have been encouraged to completely cut us out of their lives. We want our children to be able to lead HEALTHY happy lives. We want them in our lives no matter how bumpy the road. Life is not perfect and neither are we.
A Loving Parent
(Linda H)
“Infiltrate the target group, pretend to be their ally…” This applies to autism as well. I’ve spoken with parents of autistic children who have shared how trans activists are aggressively pushing their agenda and propaganda in these groups. I think it was autism specialist Tony Attwood who said a few years back, “This is beginning to look worryingly like backdoor eugenics.”
(THE ARTILECT)
Backdoor? They are at the front door with ramrods. And a warrant. :-(
(Alexander Joseph Hamburger)
This is full on eugenics. A group of people is alleged to be defective, and the “solution” is to sterilize them. Got autism? Let’s sterilize. Depression? Sterilize! Attention deficit disorder? Sterilize. Gay? Sterilize.
(Linda H)
No kidding!
(Patrick)
The impact on autistic children is the most devastating to me. Instead of getting treatment for autism they are being redirected towards a lifetime of plastic surgeries & hormone therapy. The vast majority aren't even required to have any interaction at all with any behavioral health services. Straight to the endo.
(Linda H)
Our son’s university lined him up with a “gender affirming” counselor but she totally disregarded the thorough evaluation we put him through and told us she felt he wasn’t really autistic but rather trans. He was sent straight to the endo while the university was working to provide him with free hormones. (This was 2014.) Little did we know that while he was being enabled by them in this delusion, he was also being groomed online by a predator. He disappeared suddenly six months later and we haven’t seen him since. It was bad enough to see this happen to our son at the college level but it makes me furious to see how they are now preying on younger and younger children.
[Context: Comment on a PITT post whining about how the poster adopted a child who supposedly later became a trans furry]
You are not alone - we understand the evilness of this cult as it poisons our children's minds. You were kind enough to take in a homeless baby girl and provide for her, protect her, and love her. She was influenced by social media, then groomed, and then affirmed. It is not your fault. Enjoy the calmness, we understand that, too.
One day I got a call from the school psychologist who said Bekah had talked about suicide. Not long after that we switched her to another school where she claimed she was autistic.
After finally finishing high school, Bekah further delved into being a furry. Then she took a step further and she told us she born to be a man. We tried to be good parents, and we were not positive what to do but I will tell you this ... mental health/furry/trans seem to be connected.
After school she moved out. Next thing, I am looking at my husband’s Amazon account and see something that made me wonder... who is buying these items and why? I asked my husband about the purchases while my mother-in-law was in the room and she gasped when she heard my question. She said the items were for someone getting a mastectomy. We knew who that was. I was devastated.
I still don't get how they let someone who is bi-polar have this kind of surgery. My mother-in-law took it upon herself to write Bekah and point out that she was born a girl and that God didn't make mistakes. In response to that letter, Bekah called and screamed at me. She said she never wanted to see or talk to me again. That was five years ago. Elias (yes, she changed her name) now lives in Chicago with her partner. I would give almost anything to talk to my child. Just to say “Hi, how are you?” “I love you and miss you!” but, truth be told, I am okay with the calmness of my life now.
And let's not forget that the monster created by Frankenstein demanded a mate to be made for him. Similarly, trans identified people are always trying to recruit new members, often "transing" their partners. Who else would have them?
Every day
I read, I listen,
I think
Every day
I read
Bernard Lane
Jamie Reed
Mia Hughes
Eyes Open
PITT
(and hundreds more)
Every day
I listen
Helen Joyce
Stella O'Malley
Colin Wright
Eliza Mondegreen
Jennifer Sey
(and hundreds more)
Every day
I celebrate
Cass, Skrmetti, HHS, COHERE
The WPATH Files, Sturm, UPenn
(and hundreds more)
While every day
I long
For my son
Who
Despite my reading
Despite my listening
Despite my celebrating
Despite me
Is not one step closer to me
Not one step out of the cult.
If the trans movement cared about children, they wouldn’t push parents out of their children’s lives. Children need their parents. The narrative is being pushed that parents of LGBTQ are bad. Even in the law, you are innocent until proven guilty. But if your child says they are “trans” you are guilty until proven innocent. To prove you are innocent, you must harm your own child by transitioning them. You are not allowed to ask questions; you can only follow the child’s lead. Fortunately, a new law just passed in North Carolina that says it's not abuse for parents to refuse their kid's gender transition. This is going in the right direction, and we need this in all states.
[...]
The Trevor Project is a well-funded activist group pushing policies that keep parents in the dark and insert gender ideology into K-12 schools. Finally, common sense is coming back. The Trevor project suicide hotline closed on July 17th.
I shock people who know me when I say that I do not support the current model of “gender-affirming care” for minors.
To keep my friends listening, I need to be careful. The language I use matters.
Here’s what I do say:
I love that you care about children who are struggling. Did you know that the latest scientific studies show that medical transition does not prevent suicide? If this stuff saved children’s lives, I would support it. Can you imagine how terrifying it must be for parents who hear, “Would you like a trans son or a dead daughter”? Yet, that’s not a real thing.
[…]
I’m scared that in the U.S., children are often offered puberty blockers or hormones on their first visit to the doctor, without any exploration of their other conditions, like autism or mental illness. (That’s what happened to my kiddo.) What do you think about that?
[…] Did you know that the doctor who is the most vocal advocate of these treatments has refused to publish the data from her NIH-funded study?
Yet, she also recommended girls as young as 13 to get double mastectomies, saying they can have breast implants later if they change their minds. I wonder why no one has conducted a comprehensive follow-up study on what happened to those children? Don’t they deserve that?
Was adolescence hard for you? […] How did it feel when your body changed so fast, and your mind was whirling with hormones? Did you struggle to find your group or feel like you didn't fit in?
I wonder: what if adolescence is meant to be challenging? When you were 13, did you have strongly held beliefs about yourself that you don’t hold now? Do you think children are equipped with the perspective to make decisions that will affect their entire lives? How do they know if they are uncomfortable temporarily because they are gay, or female, or changing a lot, and/or undiagnosed autistic?
(EyesOpen)
I witness your pain and understand it from the perspective of the same story except it is a daughter who tries to look like and act like a man.
Me too: " it hurts me so deeply that sometimes I have to pull away. It’s not because I’ve stopped loving you. It’s because I feel like I’m watching you slowly disappear into something that is harming you — something that could limit your future, isolate you, and leave you broken-hearted. That kind of pain is unbearable. Sometimes, being near you like this is too much, because it reminds me of how far we are from the path I believe would allow you to flourish."
Yes, we parents have grief. And the hard part on top of everything you wrote is having that grief mocked. So many layers of grief!
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(AlexEsq)
identity is earned through actual activities in the world. No "authentic" identity can be purchased from surgeons or with drugs. Lying about who you are does not make the lie a truth.