My child IS an adult, has been lost to us for five years, sucked into believing he is actually a woman. It is like a death to us, his family, who are cut off from him for believing he is actually a man. This is a tremendous harm to himself, his family, and to our society. He is among those in women’s only spaces, for example. No doctor should be altering a body through meds or surgeries because of a dysfunction in the mind. Period. We parents of adult trans children want our nightmare to end and it only ends when society stops being “respectful” of adults choosing this, and calling it what it is: mental illness, among many other things. See work by Jennifer Bilek. It’s not ok for kids. It’s not ok for adults. It’s not. Ok. Ever.