Hey, thanks for admitting you're not really about independence and personal choice, just about dictating *your* preferences.
I have had several encounters with women, all of whom would, I believe, identify as strong feminists, who were into BDSM; and frankly, it wasn't my thing at all. They wanted it, and I couldn't do it. Just not my idea of affection. Fine for them: unlike Radicalwhirl, I'm not trying to enforce my wishes.