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8 Factors That Are Destroying Healthy Relationships Between Men And Women

Corey is an iconoclast and the author of 'Man's Fight for Existence'. He believes that the key to life is for men to honour their primal nature. Visit his new website at primalexistence.com

Most men, even if they’re still swimming in ocean of blue pills, have some awareness that something has gone awry with the relationship between men and women. Statistics prove this as well as divorce has been epidemic for a while now with record-number of children growing up with single parent around the world while young people are having less sex than before. And whether you be a feminist or part of the manosphere, I think both sides can agree on one thing: that a war between the sexes have been heating up in the recent years.

Why is all this happening? While men and women tend to play the blame game to avoid taking any responsibility, there are greater forces at play. The fact is, the continuing transformation of our society is making the antagonism between the sexes inevitable. Feminism is just a symptom, not the cause of our problems.

Before we look at why today’s sex relations are in a dismal state, consider the single factor that makes relationships prosper: Mutuality based on different but compatible roles.

All relationships work best when two parties have something different to share for their mutual benefit. For example, humans and horses have enjoyed a close relationship together throughout history (unlike, say, humans and bears). The relationship works because in exchange for food, protection, and care that humans provide, the horses offer themselves as transportation.

The relationship between men and women was also mutually beneficial for the entirety of human existence with men offering their services in exchange for having the women bear their children. But now, with the advent of modern society and its conditions, things have changed drastically.

1. “Equality”
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At least these men had their male privilege.

“Equality” for women is the most abominable lie to have ever perpetuated on mankind.

Men have always provided for women. Men hunted for food, labored to build everything, and fought battles to defend their tribe. To say that men oppressed women throughout history is an insult to all those who sacrificed themselves in the factories, the coal mines, and the trenches. If women didn’t have certain rights that feminists like to cherry-pick, it’s because women weren’t drafted to fight wars. In exchange for their toil, the only thing men asked of women was to be supportive in their roles as wives and mothers.

But fast-forward to today, now that women have “achieved” social and political “equality” and even various advantages just for being born a female, many women today no longer feel that it’s necessary to exchange values with men for mutuality. It’s like when humans developed automobiles and didn’t need horses anymore. The difference is, humans and horses don’t need to be together; men and women do.

However, men’s sexual desire—which is greater than that of females—is still alive and kicking. So what we have today is a situation where women have gotten their social equality while sexual inequality persists for men (which is why many men choose to give up sex entirely to level the playing field). This is what happens when you standardize human beings into economic units.

2. Education and career over family

Stressed out from balancing between work and family? Yup, it’s the men’s fault that you tried to do both.

To maintain their advantage over men, women today are dedicating themselves to their education and career. Western women, in particular, have been so thoroughly sold on the idea of status and consumerist orgy that they are no longer interested in relationships. More and more women today are delaying marriage (if not outright rejecting it). And when they do get married, they are using it as a means to trap men into donating their sperm and cash, only to bail out when they want to.

3. Slut culture
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Wow, what an achievement! I’m sure your failed parents are just as proud.

The advent of contraception and the decimation of whatever feminine decency that was left has turned the vast majority of young Western women into drunken sluts. The increasing number of sluts is diminishing the availability of quality women that men want to start a family with and has social implications for the society as a whole.

4. Government supplanting men
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The only way women were able to “liberate” themselves from their supposed oppressors was by latching themselves on to a new alpha provider: the government. As said before, men form relationships with women by exchanging values, with his strength to provide and protect being his greatest asset. But now, the government (along with corporations and education system) fulfills those roles that men previously occupied. And not only that, but the government is deeply involved in the affairs of marriage, sending professional white-knights to extort and arrest men who’ve been used up and thrown away by women.

It also doesn’t help that the government is increasingly monopolizing violence, one of the most important value that a man possesses. And that leads to my next point.

5. Too few wars, too many men
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I doubt these men had to think of ways to entertain women like a monkey to get their attention.

The recurring theme across patriarchal societies of the past and present are violence and warfare. And the most commonly associated traits of masculinity are also traits of warriors such as strength, bravery, aggression, discipline, and so on. It’s quite simple: the more violent the environment is, the more masculine men become. And the more conflicts and wars there are, the more the women depend on men—thus keeping the collective value of male population high.

It’s no coincidence that Western societies have started to feminize as they endured decades of relative peace since the end of WWII. The lack of warfare also means that there are now more young men per woman (practically 1 to 1) than there normally would have been under a warring society. Excess of men—who are also emasculated and feminized—means that the collective value of average men has dropped to a historical low, upsetting the balance of sexual marketplace in the process. Only the top 5-10% of men with the warrior traits and wealth are able to enjoy a semblance of a balanced relationship with women—and even they have to play the game.

6. The decimation of Western women

Declining marriage rates? Don’t worry, some simps will try to put a ring on their fingers.

Many Western women have been corrupted by our toxic materialist society. They are fatter, uglier, more narcissistic, more entitled, hedonistic, superficial, less faithful, and seem to think that having bitch attitude makes them hip. Women can afford to stoop low because their sex drive isn’t the same as men’s, while they couldn’t care less for love and companionship when they’re too busy with their travels and careers.

And because of all the thirsty men, women’s collective sexual market value hardly suffers while the value of those who are merely average becomes inflated beyond their real value. You only need to check out the gross discrepancies between the sexes in dating sites and apps to see how bad things are.

7. Anti-male culture

Men are all rapists waiting to be hatched out of their facade, men merely uttering a word to a woman is a harassment, men are always “mansplaining” to women, men are insecure cry-babies, men open their legs too much when they sit, men and their toxic masculinity need to be controlled, men have to do more for women, men are dominating in tech fields because of sexism, men shouldn’t say this, men shouldn’t do that, etc, etc— And of course, if men push back, they’re “misogynists.”

And we’re we still wondering why relationships are getting harder to form these days?

8. Lack of shared values

As social beings, we humans need more than economic incentives and passions to form a relationship for a family to prosper. There must be shared values.

With traditional family values under constant attack from all directions, the bonding between males and females have been reduced to mere hook-ups and economic unions. To make matters worse, many from both sides are resorting to predatory behaviors to exploit one another for either money (for women) or sex (for men), augmenting the distrust between the two sexes. Others, who either don’t want to play games or have become overtly hostile to the opposite sex, have given up on relationships entirely. This is the end result of atomization and extreme individualism under a system that destroys all values for the sake of economic advancement.

Conclusion

The destruction of sex relationship is having a negative effect on society as a whole and is transforming the demographic landscape of many Western nations. Unlike what the aesthetically-challenged feminists and the man-children crying their own way believe, men and women are not adversaries. You don’t have to be a traditionalist to see that the sex relations have gone awry due to the development of modern society and its destructive cultures.

Many Western men have already checked out or gone out to find traditional women elsewhere. But that is merely adapting to the situation; it doesn’t solve the problem at a societal level. The continuing antagonism of the sexes will eventually spread around the world. Unless the current course is somehow reversed, we can only wait and see how far the damage will run its course.

(Note: This is an amalgam of three different comments)

You'd think that people from IncelTears would be more angered by these. They're complaining about their privilege.

Also what happened to them being able to gauge personality? I'm not an incel but the blackpill idea is like 90% dead on. I don't know why people are so dishonest and want men to be so unprepared as teens entering the dating world by feeding them endless lies about female nature. Women are completely prepared for what men will want from them and what drives them. Meanwhile the second anyone with any experiences starts to nail down female sexuality the entire western media starts bucking like a horse with a rubber band around it's balls.

edit: Also I haven't seen anyone make this point before but extremist feminists have done everything that they claim to hate about incels. Yet why aren't they going after them? There have been feminist murderers, terrorists and sites actually full of women aborting their male babies, planning evil shit to do to their male children and on and on it goes. I mean out in public women were saying "kill all men" on Twitter. Nobody really cared. In fact from my experience feminists have done a lot worse than incels. Most incels are just harmless guys venting about the lies they were told as children.

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I know from personal experience about all this shit, then I found incels and saw that they have it all down to a science. I guess I'm "chad lite" on the ratings scale so even with crippling social anxiety would get girls and even my friends girls kept trying to fuck me which started to make me look down on them. (You hear comedians and musicians talk about this, married women trying to fuck them and just saying "so?" when they say "but you're married".) Then I went through a stage where I got really sick, lost all my physique and looked terrible. I'm not exaggerating when I say that women started treating me COMPLETELY different. They'd actually give me looks of disgust. My friends noticed too.

Then I got better, worked out, got everything back to how it was and suddenly strange girls are being nice again. One who was horrible to me even suddenly started asking a friend if I was single. It turned me into a complete pessimist. But if someone would've told me when I was younger the truth about female sexuality it wouldn't have bothered me at all. Girls being attracted to me would say I was funny and they liked that I had various talents. Meanwhile when I looked like shit they stopped laughing at my jokes and didn't care about my talent or intelligence. Weird huh?

Male sexuality is well known, it's part of our culture to understand it. Meanwhile female sexuality is shrowded in mystery and called "complicated". We're animals. It's not complicated. I fucking can't stand how men can't explore and discuss this stuff without all being called terrorists or something insane like that. Meanwhile feminists say "kill all men" feminists make bomb threats, murder people, cut men's dicks off and if you group them in with feminists you get the old no true Scotsman fallacy. "They're not true feminists." Oh right, then that one guy who said something about incels online isn't really an incel. It's all so frustrating. Yet they sit there with these puzzled looks, wondering why men are suddenly all being so mean. If it was women rising up like this they'd try to understand, look for the root cause and fix it, the cause of negative female behavior is always external. (Abusive father/husband/single motherhood is tough!) With men it's always internal. (Toxic masculinity/he's just evil/a psychopath etc.) But if it's guys then it's just inherent as if men can't be influenced by the outside world.

It's all so fucking petty and will have to come to a head somewhere. Things will HAVE to start moving back the other way because they're becoming too unstable. I was honestly stunned when I found out about groups like Incel Tears. They've found some of the most lonely, depressed people on Earth and are attacking them for making some offensive jokes. People in terrible situations cope with dark humor, it's pretty much well known. It really is just an excuse to bully these guys. I think all of this is instinctual and that people try to rationalize it afterwards. This is the case with almost all beliefs and behavior. People react based on emotion and animal instinct and then try to act rationally after the fact. People HATE weak guys, they mock them, people want to help weak women and women in need.

Like I remember asking a feminist what she thought about a 14 year old guy whose teacher raped him, got pregnant and had the child. He then had to pay child support at age 18. If he DIDN'T PAY HIS RAPIST HE'D GO TO PRISON. I got called a rape apologist. There's zero sympathy for men. Meanwhile Muslim women who get raped and imprisoned on the technicality of adultery are seen as victims who need to be saved. I want to save both yet I'm the fucking rape apologist. I'd love to know if there's any kind of science exploring how people react to men and women in various situations because I'm convinced that all of this insane behavior is to do with reproduction and protecting offspring in the past. None of it makes any sense in today's culture but it just FEELS wrong to say that so people hang onto it. It's all a fucking mess.

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True. And those in the center just learn to become content with their existence and make themselves as busy as possible. It's like with depression. Depressed people perceive reality FAR more accurately then regular people. I guess the black pill would be depressed people and the blue pill regular people.

I think you might be right about things going too far. What I should've said is that if they don't move back they'll probably collapse which will fix things anyway. Awareness can still be raised, we see groups like MGTOW growing and also a curious thing that people overlook is a lot of chad lites and "normies" joining incel forums just to be able to post. There's a good reason for that, because most people have noticed this stuff but either haven't been able to put it into words or they feel like they have nobody to talk to about it.

You're right about experiencing both sides. I'd never really thought about this stuff until I got those disgusted looks. I guess it's similar to that experiment where that woman disguised herself as a man for a year or something and suddenly found out that most of what we're told about guys is bullshit and that she was treated like shit on sight by most women. I think she actually had to go to therapy afterwards lol.

I've been thinking of making a Youtube channel for a while. I've been interested in this stuff for years among other subjects so I might give it a go. I think I can present it in a way where regular people won't instantly switch off.