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Explaining why "Stop focusing on relationships, focus on yourself!" is a blatant contradiction to self-improvment (IT CHERRYPICKERS AND LURKERS GTFIH)[

A normie platitude I hear that doesn't really make sense is "Stop focusing on relationships, focus on yourself!". Without any consideration into the emotional rewards relationships give, I shall explain why this is contradictory to the good cause of "self-improvement"

Before we start, we must agree on these axioms:
Axiom A: Self-Improvement in the area of personality must be done selflessly. There is no reward to oneself because of it, only a reward to others (interactions are made far easier, and they don't have to be menaced by a rude misogynist/non-cuck/non-fag/non-tranny/whatever). While stuff like weight loss (health benefits) or meditation (transcendence of this material world) has some benefit to it, you receive no reward for improving your personality.
Axiom B: No form of self-improvement should be detrimental to your health. Violate this and you have no life (or at least mental health) to see that shinning personality of yours improve.

These axioms will be instrumental in the point I will make in this essay.

Now, you might ask, how does one improve a personality? Perhaps these ideas have come to mind:

• Donating to charity
• • Adopting a pet to care for animals
• Volunteering at charity services
• Ejecting from the mind incorrect beliefs (such as Incelistani ideology, although I'd argue more would be done by leaving cuckqueers instead, but I'm trying to make this understandable for cuckqueers)
• Socializing with others
• Etc.

While these ideas are great and all of them DO work, we must also consider the scale of their effects. Donating to charities does help, but it doesn't help as much as actually volunteering at a charity service per say.
In that way, acquiring a relationship may be one of the most effective ways to 'personalitymaxx' if you will, or more appropriately, become a 'personality Chad'.

How so?

A relationship actually has you caring for someone at all times, in a good relationship you will not forget your SO. This provides you with the skills to better care for people and forces the selfishness out of you ; there is no 'I' in 'love'.
It also matures you as a person and teaches you valuable skills on how to properly interact with others.

How so?

Rather than simply talking to friends for a short time, a therapist who views the interactions as a business (which may toss YOU off, thinking that money has a more important role in interactions), a roommate who may move out when they wish, Family, which you should already do, or your pets which cannot understand your human 'language', a SO is far more different. You have them present at all times, and unlike Family, where you are related by blood, for an SO, you are attempting to create deep connections despite often times not many things in common. Such forces you to think outside the box on how not only to survive with them, but to thrive with them.

In a world where life expectancy is still a real thing and the ability to tire also exists, humans, not only in the field of personality-improvement, but in almost every field imaginable (Including typing these damn things, sorry I was gone for so long :() have to act as efficiently as possible. An example would be, training at the gym. Why, if of average lifting capability, lift what barley takes any effort, when you can lift what's harder to lift, thus creating more of the desired result. In our case, no matter how much time is expended improving one's own personality, one will always have time left over. In this case, acquiring a SO would be beneficial, as you have to go the aforementioned difficulties at all times, yes, including your spare time. It's the most efficient, considering that no one, can spend all their free time doing the other ones without violating Axiom B. An SO is the most feasible option for the Efficiency-Axiom paradigm. While not spending too much energy, great improvements to the personality can be made.

This is not to mention the emotional rewards you are giving to your SO by taking care of them properly.

But wait!

You may ask: Why not just adopt a kid? That kid is also human, and the time you are with it is also the same, no? The answer is simple: Two parents do a FAR better job than one. Without that SO, you aren't raising that kid as well you could have. Due to the fact that you are now experimenting with the life of a child, If you are incapable of doing it. Don't do it, lest that kid be stuck with question of how to improve it's own personality one day, as it now has dents in it's personality left by you, and leaving dents in someone's personality is detrimental to the improvement of you own.

THERE WE GO! GET THIS ONTO IT BOYOS!

(Emphasis original)

Inceldom Is Actually A Blessing In Disguise (If You Let It Be)

Made this thread to respond to a specific post that I thinks need to be addressed because it reflects the general mindset of a lot of the incels on this site (incels in general actually). Its a false mindset, you guys clearly haven't "studied" and interacted with normies enough to see whats really going on.

Thread here - https://incels.me/threads/my-whole-fucking-life-is-done.31324/#post-534850

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I can relate to that as a 27 year old dude. My friends from university and HS are having children now. It is really soul crushing experience.
I lack behind so bad, it is depressing. Everybody moved on with their lives, and i am still here. Kissless virgin living in a condo at age 27 when people of my age are moving and progessing in life.
Most people in here will move on with their lives too. It is really brutal when you think about it. We are losers even here in this forum.
A lotta sexually frustrated kids here in this forum will reflect back on these days with sad cringe a couple years later thinking "ah, i was just an edgy sexually-frustrated teenager back then".
We are the real losers here. Suicide inducing..

Your standards are too high, and I don't mean for choosing women, I mean for what you expect from life, you have to adapt, we weren't born in the 50's, we were born in the era of whores (in my 20's), I've never felt love, only lust, never really wanted to get married all that much, only thought about it because parents try to poke that shit into their childrens heads over the years. I've started to realize that I'm not suffering as much as many of the incels on this site because I had the best "default mindset" for someone who would grow to be incel.

I only want sex, I don't want to feel desired, or admired, etc, I abandoned my ego years ago, I just want to enjoy the physical feeling that comes when you ejaculate into a womans body, and for that there's escorts, if I had your financial means I likely would have never even found this site because I'd be too busy, watching anime, playing games and fucking whores happily to care. Glad I found the site though.

Change your standards, not for women, but for life, latching onto normie standards when you clearly aren't one is illogical, the moment you focus on what you can enjoy in this life rather than what you can't enjoy you'll stop wasting time and feel a lot better. Also you are only getting to see the surface level of all the "happy family" BS that your friends ALLOW YOU TO SEE, most everything normies do is all about appearances, you see the smiling faces in images of vacations and family trips, you don't see the arguments your friend has with his wife about how little sex they have these days, that he suspects she's cheating, that he's worried about his son possibly being gay, that he thinks his daughter is no longer a virgin, the arguments that comes with the financial stress of having a family (mortgage, vehicles, tuition, school supplies, etc). You don't see all that shit, because they don't want you to, they only let you see "the good shit".

Most of the happiness normies get from the things you THINK you are missing out on IS SHORT LIVED, that's the great irony, we didn't really lose out on anything (inb4 this is cope), the only parts we legit missed out on were the PHYSICAL PARTS, the parts they enjoyed in their youth, most of which was an illusion anyways that they could only enjoy in blissful ignorance. Love isn't even a real thing, its just a chemical reaction in the brain, they weren't "teens in love", they were "teens in lust", but we only get to see those relationships from the outside looking in, so it looks so "magical" and "grand", again you didn't hear about all the bad shit, you never do, because normies don't like airing out their dirty laundry for others to see.

I have a friend that was going to be a doctor, complete normie coper, had "inspirational quotes" and shit on his book covers, studied hard, way smarter than me, would have definitely became a doctor, got all the necessary qualifications to pursue his university degree. The girl he was with for years cheated on him and he rebounded quick, he wasn't careful and a few months after he got his rebound pregnant when he was trying to get into university, guess who had to drop out and become a cuck, that's right him, in a lot of his images all I can see now is depression, he tries to hide it but he can't hide it well, met him in person at a store once too, he's now TRAPPED IN HIS OWN LIFE. Is sex enjoyable yes, and that's the only part of relationships that were really missing out on (unless you are some kind of idiot egoist that just wants to have their ego stroked, if so fuck off, this post is not for you, you will never be satisfied). Guess what, how much time for sex do you think people have when they have a child to worry about....... are you getting the point yet, the path that all normies take IRONICALLY LEADS THEM TO BE JUST AS UNHAPPY AS WE ARE.

I don't understand how you guys are so blind, WE ARE LIVING THE INVERSE LIVES OF NORIMES (Can't you see it?)

Normies start off having amazing lives, thrilling "emotions", great sex lives, having fun, but part of being a normie is "settling down", they are all followers because part of normie life is "fitting in", so they all mostly follow that road. As they reach the "settling down" phase their lives slowly become like ours, especially more so for the men, their sex lives dry up, they stop feeling less for the person they "love" and get hit with the black pill that even feelings fade over time because the human brain is wired to grow accustomed too and "bored" of similar stimuli.

Can you fap to the same porn video, every single day for for a month and REALLY get off to it, no, by the second week it won't be as enjoyable, now imagine the reality of this, but applied to a person OVER YEARS. That's the first black pill normies are forced to accept in their later years, you not only get bored of a person over time, but you get bored of "loving them" and eventually want someone else. Your brain is wired to do this, its part of our biological imperatives, monogamy is a forced thing, it isn't even normal for most other animals.

We however are somewhat cursed with how our lives began, but IT IS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE. We got black pilled early on all the shit that normies will end up learning ONLY WHEN ITS TOO LATE, we don't have to end up "trapped in our own lives". Don't get married, dont have children, just spend your years having sex with random beautiful women and enjoying your hobbies (whether you're paying for it (escorts), or looks/wealth maxxing to coerce women into fucking you). We've only failed at life here if we fail to take advantage of the benefits that come with having been incel, and that benefit is KNOWLEDGE.

Why do you guys think a mid life crisis is a "normal" and culturally known thing for men?, its because many men only start considering the shit we already thought of years ago, in their old age, when its too late to make changes because you have commitments to fulfill. So they perform copes like "buying a nice car" or "dressing differently", or the most outright admission of what I talked about above in relation to sex - THEY HAVE AN AFFAIR. They realize too late in life that one woman isn't enough.

I could never admire normies, not at this point, I already know how most of my other friends lives are going to end up, most of them are gonna be beta providers for some used up whore, have a few kids that will be hard to raise in this shitty era (kids might not even be theirs), probably get cheated on years into the marriage and maybe never find out because "tee hee, its for the best, I don't want to hurt you, I love you". Normiedom is the biggest long con, we ironically got screwed out of making a shitty deal, but again, we can only make this into a positive with effort and applying the black pill mindset practically. If you just LDAR, be a neet, don't work and build your wealth, then you're just going to remain a poor sex starved suidical poor sap, but if you do the opposite you'll actually look back on the days laughing at when you envied normies.

This isn't cope, this is reality, and I know I can't be the only person who has come to this realization, I have to work and talk to normies everyday so I have to learn to "blend in" and talk to them, every single damn relationship is terrible and the only glue that holds it all together IS SEX. Their lives are very "fragile". I know a guy right now (normie) who a month before was telling me about how great his GF is and how perfect she is and that they're getting married, last week he cheated on her with some random how who he ADMITS ISN'T AS ATTRACTIVE lol. He still plans on marrying her, do you see how much of a joke this BS fake illusion of the magical lives you think they're living is, stop fooling yourself, I could literally just message this girl and destroy his entire "construct" of "normie life" and let he know he cheated and who he did it with. But I won't because I don't care enough about his life to do it, I'm focusing on building my wealth, and fighting some normie right now isn't to my benefit, I just laugh and observe at these peoples lives, they project this air of happiness, especially online, but they are miserable, they are all LITERALLY COPING WITH THE JAIL CELL THAT IS THEIR ADULT LIFE (especially the ones with children, when you have kids ITS OVER).