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8 Factors That Are Destroying Healthy Relationships Between Men And Women

Corey is an iconoclast and the author of 'Man's Fight for Existence'. He believes that the key to life is for men to honour their primal nature. Visit his new website at primalexistence.com

Most men, even if they’re still swimming in ocean of blue pills, have some awareness that something has gone awry with the relationship between men and women. Statistics prove this as well as divorce has been epidemic for a while now with record-number of children growing up with single parent around the world while young people are having less sex than before. And whether you be a feminist or part of the manosphere, I think both sides can agree on one thing: that a war between the sexes have been heating up in the recent years.

Why is all this happening? While men and women tend to play the blame game to avoid taking any responsibility, there are greater forces at play. The fact is, the continuing transformation of our society is making the antagonism between the sexes inevitable. Feminism is just a symptom, not the cause of our problems.

Before we look at why today’s sex relations are in a dismal state, consider the single factor that makes relationships prosper: Mutuality based on different but compatible roles.

All relationships work best when two parties have something different to share for their mutual benefit. For example, humans and horses have enjoyed a close relationship together throughout history (unlike, say, humans and bears). The relationship works because in exchange for food, protection, and care that humans provide, the horses offer themselves as transportation.

The relationship between men and women was also mutually beneficial for the entirety of human existence with men offering their services in exchange for having the women bear their children. But now, with the advent of modern society and its conditions, things have changed drastically.

1. “Equality”
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At least these men had their male privilege.

“Equality” for women is the most abominable lie to have ever perpetuated on mankind.

Men have always provided for women. Men hunted for food, labored to build everything, and fought battles to defend their tribe. To say that men oppressed women throughout history is an insult to all those who sacrificed themselves in the factories, the coal mines, and the trenches. If women didn’t have certain rights that feminists like to cherry-pick, it’s because women weren’t drafted to fight wars. In exchange for their toil, the only thing men asked of women was to be supportive in their roles as wives and mothers.

But fast-forward to today, now that women have “achieved” social and political “equality” and even various advantages just for being born a female, many women today no longer feel that it’s necessary to exchange values with men for mutuality. It’s like when humans developed automobiles and didn’t need horses anymore. The difference is, humans and horses don’t need to be together; men and women do.

However, men’s sexual desire—which is greater than that of females—is still alive and kicking. So what we have today is a situation where women have gotten their social equality while sexual inequality persists for men (which is why many men choose to give up sex entirely to level the playing field). This is what happens when you standardize human beings into economic units.

2. Education and career over family

Stressed out from balancing between work and family? Yup, it’s the men’s fault that you tried to do both.

To maintain their advantage over men, women today are dedicating themselves to their education and career. Western women, in particular, have been so thoroughly sold on the idea of status and consumerist orgy that they are no longer interested in relationships. More and more women today are delaying marriage (if not outright rejecting it). And when they do get married, they are using it as a means to trap men into donating their sperm and cash, only to bail out when they want to.

3. Slut culture
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Wow, what an achievement! I’m sure your failed parents are just as proud.

The advent of contraception and the decimation of whatever feminine decency that was left has turned the vast majority of young Western women into drunken sluts. The increasing number of sluts is diminishing the availability of quality women that men want to start a family with and has social implications for the society as a whole.

4. Government supplanting men
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The only way women were able to “liberate” themselves from their supposed oppressors was by latching themselves on to a new alpha provider: the government. As said before, men form relationships with women by exchanging values, with his strength to provide and protect being his greatest asset. But now, the government (along with corporations and education system) fulfills those roles that men previously occupied. And not only that, but the government is deeply involved in the affairs of marriage, sending professional white-knights to extort and arrest men who’ve been used up and thrown away by women.

It also doesn’t help that the government is increasingly monopolizing violence, one of the most important value that a man possesses. And that leads to my next point.

5. Too few wars, too many men
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I doubt these men had to think of ways to entertain women like a monkey to get their attention.

The recurring theme across patriarchal societies of the past and present are violence and warfare. And the most commonly associated traits of masculinity are also traits of warriors such as strength, bravery, aggression, discipline, and so on. It’s quite simple: the more violent the environment is, the more masculine men become. And the more conflicts and wars there are, the more the women depend on men—thus keeping the collective value of male population high.

It’s no coincidence that Western societies have started to feminize as they endured decades of relative peace since the end of WWII. The lack of warfare also means that there are now more young men per woman (practically 1 to 1) than there normally would have been under a warring society. Excess of men—who are also emasculated and feminized—means that the collective value of average men has dropped to a historical low, upsetting the balance of sexual marketplace in the process. Only the top 5-10% of men with the warrior traits and wealth are able to enjoy a semblance of a balanced relationship with women—and even they have to play the game.

6. The decimation of Western women

Declining marriage rates? Don’t worry, some simps will try to put a ring on their fingers.

Many Western women have been corrupted by our toxic materialist society. They are fatter, uglier, more narcissistic, more entitled, hedonistic, superficial, less faithful, and seem to think that having bitch attitude makes them hip. Women can afford to stoop low because their sex drive isn’t the same as men’s, while they couldn’t care less for love and companionship when they’re too busy with their travels and careers.

And because of all the thirsty men, women’s collective sexual market value hardly suffers while the value of those who are merely average becomes inflated beyond their real value. You only need to check out the gross discrepancies between the sexes in dating sites and apps to see how bad things are.

7. Anti-male culture

Men are all rapists waiting to be hatched out of their facade, men merely uttering a word to a woman is a harassment, men are always “mansplaining” to women, men are insecure cry-babies, men open their legs too much when they sit, men and their toxic masculinity need to be controlled, men have to do more for women, men are dominating in tech fields because of sexism, men shouldn’t say this, men shouldn’t do that, etc, etc— And of course, if men push back, they’re “misogynists.”

And we’re we still wondering why relationships are getting harder to form these days?

8. Lack of shared values

As social beings, we humans need more than economic incentives and passions to form a relationship for a family to prosper. There must be shared values.

With traditional family values under constant attack from all directions, the bonding between males and females have been reduced to mere hook-ups and economic unions. To make matters worse, many from both sides are resorting to predatory behaviors to exploit one another for either money (for women) or sex (for men), augmenting the distrust between the two sexes. Others, who either don’t want to play games or have become overtly hostile to the opposite sex, have given up on relationships entirely. This is the end result of atomization and extreme individualism under a system that destroys all values for the sake of economic advancement.

Conclusion

The destruction of sex relationship is having a negative effect on society as a whole and is transforming the demographic landscape of many Western nations. Unlike what the aesthetically-challenged feminists and the man-children crying their own way believe, men and women are not adversaries. You don’t have to be a traditionalist to see that the sex relations have gone awry due to the development of modern society and its destructive cultures.

Many Western men have already checked out or gone out to find traditional women elsewhere. But that is merely adapting to the situation; it doesn’t solve the problem at a societal level. The continuing antagonism of the sexes will eventually spread around the world. Unless the current course is somehow reversed, we can only wait and see how far the damage will run its course.

Re: Middle school teachers favor girls when they grade. Gender-biased grading accounts for 21 percent of boys falling behind girls.

(azazelcrowley)
Directly accounts for it. You've got to include the positive reinforcement and feedback and so on too.

Studies showed boys were at least subconsciously aware their female teachers would grade them less than girls (they placed lower bets when faced with women teachers), that has to impact motivation and so on.

(source article; https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/02/16/female-teachers-give-male_n_1281236.html )

Notably, girls had an inaccurate view of the situation, and believed men would grade them more positively than they did, whereas boys accurately deduced women would grade them lower.

Female teachers mark male pupils more harshly than they do their female students, research has claimed. Additionally, girls tend to believe male teachers will look upon them more favourably than female teaching staff, but men treat all students the same, regardless of gender. The study, released on Thursday, told 1,200 students in 29 schools to place financial bets on who would give them higher grades: external examiners or their teacher. Conducted by professors Amine Ouazad and Lionel Page, for the London School of Economic's Centre for Economic Performance, the report said: Male students tend to bet less [money] when assessed by a female teacher than by an external examiner or by a male teacher. This is consistent with female teachers' grading practices; female teachers give lower grades to male students. Female students bet more when assessed by a male teacher than when assessed by an external examiner or a female teacher. Female students' behavior is not consistent with male teachers' grading practices, since male teachers tend to reward male students more than female students.

This is a good example for showing that women perpetrate sexism in an institutional sense. They are the overwhelming majority of teachers, and notably, men do not share their habit here. Their treatment of the boys is abusive, and stems from a culture of disdain and contempt for boys and men, as well as their high in-group bias, stemming from female chauvinism.

Important to note is that while the boys view on the dynamics of sexism was accurate, the girls wasn't. This is something that continues into adulthood as a result of how the inaccurate and gynocentric feminist narrative on sexism is drilled into us. See the study showing women perceive lack of benevolent sexism in their favor as sexism against themselves. In the school study, the girls expect better grades from men than they are given. I would bet if follow ups were done, they would conclude it was because the man was a sexist, when in reality, it is down to female chauvinism and entitlement not being adhered to. Womens in-group bias is high, and because men are not biased in womens favor too, they perceive that as hostile and unfair. I'd personally argue that high in-group bias is due to feminism and its chauvinistic impacts on our culture and how we view the sexes, women MRAs and those sympathetic to the cause who take the time to critically analyze the ideas they were indoctrinated with and reject them, tend to avoid it.

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It's also worth considering whether a profession that is full of women we can empirically and measurably show to be misandrous and sexist, might itself have impacts on the number of men willing to be their co-workers, an argument feminists usually assert based on anecdotes that don't align with data (See STEM and hiring bias in favor of women), but in this case might be more apt and based in verifiable facts about the prevalence of sexism in the people who work in the field.

(Aeponix)
I had this experience in university as well, particularly in the humanities. Female professors graded me more harshly when first meeting me. Then I would lie and let them know I was trans, and my marks would suddenly improve significantly. Male teachers would generally mark me better initially, and little to no change happened if I lied and told them I was trans.

The only time this pattern didn't seem to hold was with openly feminist male professors. They seemed to follow the female professor model.

Obviously this is just anecdotal, but it was noticeable.

(karatdem)
Funnily enough it toughens up the boys who make it and it weakens the girls. Obviously it also discourages some boys.

But of the boys who "make it" it toughen them up because they get used to work harder than the girls.

(PowerWisdomCourage)
They work harder than girls and go on to become men that work harder and earn more than women. Some women then complain and try to pass laws because their mediocre effort isn't rewarded as much or more than someone who has worked harder their entire life.

(FastFourierTerraform)
That's one of the arguments I always make. If person A and B are training for a marathon, and they run the same training runs, only you've burdened person B with 5 lb ankle weights, who do you think is going to run a faster marathon? Which is why most of the "institutionalized discrimination" claims I come across seem wrong. If one group of people is discriminated against, they have a more selective filter than everyone else. That should mean that the ones who make it through tend to be better at whatever it is. But the only cases where we really see that are with Asians in academics and men in many fields.

(soakthenfo)
the same complaints if you've ever been in a relationship. the WANTS never stops. You need to put your feet down and set boundaries. Or you'll be step on and perceive as beta while they find something else to be dissatisfied about. It NEVER stops. Funny how the loudest proponent of this feminist movement are #foreversingle women, parents with only daughters, divorcees.

And the new generation of kids brainwashed in public schools.

(KingZorc)
So let me get this straight, women try to keep men from graduating high school, getting into college, and getting jobs. Then men proceed to work harder than any woman, get useful degrees, get jobs that pay more, and fight for promotions. How are women equal to men again when they can't even succeed with everything slanted in their favor?

(inferior--female)
Couldn't have said it better myself. There's a reason why men have been in charge for most of history prior to the "politically correct" era.

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I definitely saw this happen as a kid (I'm a woman). The top students in my class grade-wise were always girls but when the teachers asked questions in class it was always boys who had the good concise answers! Something's fishy.

(coffeeaddicted)
So, boys have to work 21* harder, close it down bous, wage gap explained.

(aelfric)
This is true at all levels of school, too. I experienced it during my own college career in the 80's - men didn't care for women teachers and there was an noticeable bias in how they interacted with and graded females in their class.

I watched my son experience the same thing all through elementary, high school, and college.

Add in lack of recess to burn off boy's energy, lack of discipline in class, lack of positive male role models within school, and you have a recipe for failure. It's almost as if it's purposely designed to have boys fail.

(CylonGlitch)
Same here. My sons went through the whole thing. So far as one elementary school teacher slipping up during the back to school night. All the students there with their parents, she said to everyone, “I love my girls.” Followed by a ton of glares from the parents of the boys. She stammered, never correcting anything and just continued on.

The primary school education is horrible.

(BlueOrange22)
This sets boys behind from an early age and has life long consequences. And just think how much worse it will get when the SJW generation reaches the age where they become teachers/professors, which is probably happening already. Maybe that's even a part of the increasing rate of the gender gap.

(soakthenfo)
For the exact reason I do homeschooling and promote it for kids, specifically for boys. The entire primary and secondary education is run by women. These female instructors just like how a mother's response to a boy's playful and creative expression as trouble making, a female teacher will interpret and deliver discipline for the same thing. Fortunately at home, there might be balance when both parents are present, but at school where a child spends most of their life, the balance is nonexistent. On top of boys not mentally ready for school at an early age, boys are further disenfranchised and misrepresented in institutions.

I promote homeschool for boys for these reason because the education system is failing boys. Do Not allow your child, nephews, and cousins to fall prey to this.