You, the OP, blame women - all women - for what I will describe as your poor training in social etiquette. That lack is crippling you. It's also a problem only you can solve - although you can ask for help, and should.
I know someone who has major problems socializing. With time, and his willingness to take constructive advice, it's getting better little by little. I won't get into the particulars of his behaviour, suffice it to say he can come off as abrupt and unfriendly in social situations. I've been slowly teaching him social graces, because he asked us for an honest assessment as to why he is failing in social and employment situations. My spouse is his employer and has been for 8 months. He has gone through a great number of jobs and didn't understand why he was let go from so many of them. My spouse and I considered firing him after the first week. Peeling that onion, however, one finds a good guy. We have never found him frightening, for example.
He has been able to keep a second job now, which is incredible.
My spouse and I can do this because we set boundaries, because we can send him home when it becomes too much to handle, and because we both have experience in dealing with people who have mental health issues.
We are always encouraging him to get professional help and perhaps to go on medication. Unfortunately, that's not a step he is prepared to take at the moment so all we can do is what he has asked. As long as he does his job and continues to work on his social skills, we plan to keep him on.
Most employers don't have that luxury or is that kind of time. Most potential dates don't either. For women, a man who is rude to wait staff is a red flag, as it should be. They are risking their safety in dating men who have anger management issues. Before incels put themselves out there, they should consider therapy (with a male therapist if that's how they feel most comfortable).
Lifelong rejection and being treated like invisible disposable objects made us that way, and we are sick of putting up with womens shit.
It's not how you look. At least not in general. It's how you act. We've seen enough incel "philosophy" on this board to know you treat people like shit all the time. And if you, the OP, don't like that generalization, then perhaps you should consider women don't like being generalized either.
You know, that which is hateful to yourself don't do to others.
I don't owe women respect, I don't owe women kindness, as those things are earned. Foids aren't entitled to any of it just by existing.
You have an an Asshole Test don't you? If a guy treats you like shit, you hopefully just file him under "asshole" and steer clear of him in the future. He's not worth your time.
Well, it works the same for you.
If you start out any social interaction by being a jerk, you have failed someone else's Asshole Test. A woman isn't going to treat you with respect if you don't treat her with respect. Nor will a man for that matter. And what, would it kill you to show respect first?
It also sucks when you realize just how worthless you are to society...If you aren't good looking no one cares if you exist
That simply isn't true. I wonder how many incels actually have some kind of body dysmorphia.