1. No movies, TV, or parents I’ve met have ever pushed this idea. Complete strawman. But you’re right in that women shouldn’t be put on a pedestal; but neither should men.
2. “Helpmeet” is a word you fundies came up with. The PHRASE (not word) is “help meet,” which, in Shakespearean-era poetic English, translate to “a partner suitable for” someone else. “Helpmeet” is not a real word, and the original phrase never meant that women were servants like your type seem to imply.
3. Women are NOT “biologically designed to follow men.” This is psuedoscientific nonsense.
Furthermore, if they may tell you they want to be equal partners, it’s NOT a test. If they say that, and you insist on trying to “keep them in their place,” or being the sole decision-maker (as if women can’t make decisions for themselves), then you’re going to make them miserable & likely end up divorced.
4. It’s not normal or healthy for men to embrace toxic masculinity & ideals of machismo, either. Having a social life that involves other people in general - regardless of sex/gender - is healthy. Stifling anything that seems remotely “feminine” to reinforce your fragile masculinity is extremely UNhealthy.