“I could never knowingly date a woman who was not a virgin. I find them disgusting.”
That’s going to be a problem on the 2nd night of your honeymoon, then.
“I don't find married women or women who have boyfriends disgusting because I don't think about them that way, but when it's time to actually date someone, I would never be with a woman if she was not a virgin.”
Because dick is contagious?
“Years ago when I first started analyzing this I thought it was only the "slutty" women I didn't like, but no, it's the sex act itself.”
Okay, you’re gay. Own it and deal.
"I see an extremely vivid image of that happening in my mind and I feel such disgust I can't live with it.”
Okay.
“I'm not religious and I have no moral objection to any of this stuff. I simply find it disgusting.”
May I suggest therapy?
“I just don't want to believe that no women that I (initially) like are romantic or strong-willed enough to wait for the right man.”
Make up your mind, are you upset that sex happened or that she didn’t wait for YOUR sex to happen?
“This way of thinking seems very rare in Western countries.”
No, no, you have hang-ups, blame all non-virginal women. That’s pretty common.
“Some may say they prefer a virgin, but are too realistic to completely shut non-virgins out of their dating life.”
I depended heavily on my first girlfriend knowing what we were doing and doing my best to satisfy her. She was a virgin, but it turned out that she read a LOT. It worked out. We’ve been exclusive since 1985.
“So, any thoughts?”
You’re obsessing on the wrong things. Get help.