strained relationships and broken families
No need for outside help for that, if you reject or persecute your own for being different, mistreat your partner or children. The "family values" argument has always been "patriarchy", not about actual families, that can be loving and functional otherwise, sometimes more so.
detransitioners who’ve experienced medical harm
A fringe rarity.
outright cheating in women’s sports
While there is panic disinformation propaganda pushed like yours, there's no such example to present. Weren't you advocating for material reality? And who's been lobbying and pushing privacy invasive laws because of that irrational panic? That's draconian.
Orwellian language rules enforced by shameless bullies…
If you tell me you're a Christian, I'll accept it, even if the particular cult I was raised in claimed that all other Christians are actually pagans. Knowing better, I don't subscribe to that. How is it different, knowing better, to not insult someone out of intolerance, by deadnaming them or constantly deciding their gender for them? That's simply disrespectful, there's nothing draconian about understanding that. There is however, something draconian about persecuting them. My example is still not fully equivalent: many people have the opportunity to leave or convert to another faith, although that may be denied in authoritarian settings. Transgender people may have the opportunity to transition or not, but they do not decide who they are, they simply discover and acknowledge it.
not what anyone was sold in exchange for their silent compliance.
False conspiracy theory, to justify your bigotry. People you cannot tolerate don't owe you anything.