I've had police officers not write me a ticket when I was pulled over without my driver's lisence or insurance. I never had the police called on me for something trivial like picking a flower. I've never had someone touch my hair without asking for permission.
The Civil War happened over a century ago. Times have changed so you can't be sent to war against your will anymore.
We're not saying you're a bad person for being white. But in comparison, you have to deal with a lot less stress just for existing.