“Sexual agency means people are allowed to not sleep with people for bigoted reasons. It does not mean those reasons are not bigoted.”
I’m guessing someone said they’d never sleep with an incel, and you’re screaming ‘bigotry!’
Doesn’t really matter. Whether they say ‘I won’t sleep with you’ or ‘i won’t sleep with any of you guys’ they still said ‘no’ to you. That’s the operative part of the response. Their reasons don’t really matter.
“When people say they will not date members of (insert marginalized group), it is usually a red flag that the person is likely bigoted against that group.”
Kinda depends on the group. Blacks, blondes, left-handed, etc. that’s something the person cannot change.
If I won’t sleep with Klansmen, Republicans, Incels, TERFs, those are people who made a choice to associate with groups that have espoused or enacted harmful ideas and standards. If you having community with the guy who wants us all to call all women ‘toilets’ is more important to you than being taken on your own merits, then it’s probably not bigotry, just preemptive distaste.
“Sexual preference is arbitrarily treated as sacred,”
This is the statement that makes me think the underlying issue is inceldom.
And there’s nothing arbitrary about granting a woman the right to turn your ass down. Ignoring her ‘no’ is rape, pure and simple.
“No one should have to wait until a less acceptable form of bigotry is expressed before they write off a toxic person for what they are.”
No, but you should have an actual argument, not just being butthurt that no woman will touch you with a ten foot pole.
“And avoiding a marginalized group because one member committed a traumatizing crime is pretty much an embodiment of the definition of prejudice.”
Um, no. Not ‘avoiding’ someone.
Prejudice would be if she told everyone that you’re probably a rapist because of the group you’re in. I mean, unless it’s the posters of ‘rapeapology.com’ or something like that.
“If that is the case, it should be acknowledged as a problem and worked on.”
So, I don’t want to date Nazis. I know why. I see no reason to ‘work on’ my lack of attraction to Nazi ideology or those who practice it.