When Cindy suggested to Rob that his “test drive” mentality could lead him to compare his wife’s sexual performance with his other partners
Why is she assuming that he *had* other partners?
After all, if he’d never had multiple partners, he would automatically think his wife the best.
I would say that it would still useful to see if you are into the same things in bed.
Even if I had points of references, “best lover” would not be my standard for a wife. Finding the love of my life and mother of my children would have far more facettes than *just* sex, and in any case, I most assuredly hope that, once I’ve found my beloved, that we have many, many decades of love before us in which to learn not only how to be better at sex, but also how to please each other specifically. But I definitively want to be sure we are sexually compatible, just like I would want to be sure that we don’t have other things that means that things cannot work out between the two of us. Really, it’s very much on the “necessary condition” side of things rather than “sufficient conditions”.
Also, as I have mentioned before, I consider “marriage before sex” to be backwards legalistic thinking.
Of course, you fundies think people want people to be completely ignorant of what sex actually is beyond “it’s shameful” and “it is how babby is made and nothing else”* so people cannot form an idea of what they desire, so their sexuality and relationships are miserable, so you can better control them with your false promise of a better existence after death like the vile manipulative authoritarian scum you are!
Partners can also feel threatened if they think their mate could be comparing them with previous partners.
So it’s not just men who are so unreasonable insecure in their sexual abilities that, rather than trying to prepare theoretically and being honest and finding an understanding partner, they are paranoid about their partner having points of references and preferable want to delay sex until it is too late. Not that I am surprised.
When Cindy randomly asked 10 women at work if they would be worried that their husband was comparing them if he’d had intercourse with multiple women before marriage, 80 percent of them said yes.
Don’t trust any statistics you did not fabricate yourself!
*and again, I wonder how many fundie’s children learn about anal sex before they learn about PIV because they overhear their parents rant against “sodomites sticking their dicks up another man’s ass!”