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I don’t need to justify to anyone the way I choose to live my life or the beliefs that I hold inside. I’ll just let the results of the life I have lived speak for themselves.

People say I’m “lucky” to stay at home or believe my husband must have money or something, but neither of these things are true. We were dirt poor before we married yet I quit working entirely, even though we didn’t yet even know where we would live, and never for a single day were we ever out on the streets. I’ve always lived with what he could give to me, or what he chose to give to me, and over time we were blessed as a result of it. I believe we have been productive precisely because I stayed out of the workforce, but more than that, I believe it is because of my traditional beliefs in coverture. (Even though I had no idea what coverture was, or that it was really a legal thing once, I still felt it in my heart.)

Me being at home isn’t so much about my relationship with my child as it is about my relationship with my husband. It’s not about being a “stay-at-home mom.” I’m not a stay-at-home mom, I’m just a traditional wife. And this will hold true even when our daughter is fully grown.

For the brief period of time that I worked, I had no relationship with him. As my readers know, that is precisely why I started working- because in my heart I was separated from him and no longer willing to submit to him. But I felt in my heart I would be OK, that it was time to reconcile. He told me that, while he wouldn’t necessarily forbid me from working a couple of days if I really wanted to, he would really rather that I just put in my notice and quit entirely, so that’s what I did, because I couldn’t reconcile the beliefs and desires of my heart with having paid employment- even part-time employment. Part-time employment is still employment.

At the beginning, so many years ago, I chose to accept him as my guardian, my authority, my provision and protection. It can be scary sometimes, to give up that independence you once knew and rely entirely on a husband, but I did it, and I will do it once again. He tells me he wants me to stay close to him and to do what he tells me to do. I accepted that at the beginning and I told him that I would accept it once again. He’s not a pig or a misogynist, nor is he weak or “beta.” He cherishes me the way men have all but forgotten to cherish women in our world today, and I look up to him the way women have all but stopped looking up to men.

“What’s there to cherish?” the modern man will say.

“What’s there to look up to?” the modern woman will say.

So, yes, I’m coming home. I know he’s always provided well for me. There were things in the past that he told me I couldn’t do, so I didn’t do them. There were things in the past he told me we couldn’t afford, so I couldn’t have them. But that was ok with me. It’s still ok with me. While I did like having some money to spend, a paycheck could simply never compensate for the loss of love and passion I experienced. If I am to submit to him and allow him to protect me and take care of me, I can’t also be my own independent woman out in the workforce. And I sure as Hell am not going to work and submit to him. What a joke.

I know some scoff at me, I know some think me a fool- but that’s their problem. I’m a lot safer and secure depending on a husband than being independent. It’s like people feel sorry for me if I tell them I’m going back to my husband and quitting my job. But that’s their problem. They can think what they want. The results of the life they live show, as do the results of the life I have lived. Shall we compare them?

So, I am going home once again. In my experience people do what is in their hearts to do. If a woman has it in her heart to be home and relying on a husband and submitting to him, then that’s what she’s going to do, even if she’s poor- the same as I was poor all those years ago. The same people who talk about two incomes being “necessary” are the same ones who talk about how they could never give up their independence, and the women who say they wish they could be at home are the same ones who turn around and start talking about how they could never just “sit at home” depending on a man and how they love to cash in those paychecks. You do the math. I believe modern women work because of ideology, not necessity.

But that doesn’t matter. I don’t care what it is people might think or say. They are of no concern to me. I accepted to follow him and do what he told me to do. The outside world doesn’t concern me. For the brief time that I worked everything turned into a disaster. The house was a wreck. There was all of a sudden nobody there for the small errands that needed to be run, and entire schedules had to be re-arranged when our daughter wasn’t in school, was sick, or when my husband had doctor’s appointments and needed someone to drive him.

Never again. I cannot see how anyone could live that way. If I had worked since the beginning we wouldn’t be together today, and it’s doubtful that me working would have even helped us financially- unless I had some fancy career, which would have only been even more problematic.

Lastly, I won’t defend the words I say to anyone. I’m not going to apologize or give a speech about how I’m not really anti-feminist or anything of the sort. Because I’m pro-patriarchy. I’m against feminism. There’s nothing great about feminism and there’s nothing wrong with patriarchy. I don’t have to defend my words and beliefs to the over-sensitive PC crowd. They’ll get over it and find something new to bitch about ten minutes later anyway. I don’t believe that as a wife I should be in the workforce, not even part-time. Even part-time work takes me away from his guardianship.

Because femininity is passive, submissive, graceful, nurturing and beautiful– and that just isn’t compatible with being independent and career-driven in my book. I always felt it was right to be under the guardianship of a man that loves and cherishes me and I know that what I’ve always felt in my heart cannot be wrong, especially considering that it has been the way of so many cultures, including our own for so long. Feminist politics can’t protect women.

But I leave all these things I have written up, because they show the truth of what is in a woman’s heart and how she is made. And I hope that young women everywhere will truly listen.

7 Signs your girlfriend or wife is wearing the pants:

1) You have to ask her to have sex

It has sadly become the status quo that most men have to ask their wives to have sex with them.

Men speak of “getting lucky” with their wives, or their girlfriends “putting out”.

Every time I hear this, it disgusts me to the pit of my stomach – as it should disgust you!

Modern men forget that they have natural common-law conjugal rights, that were only persecuted from the 1970s onwards. In fact marital rape was only established in English law from 1991.

The most insidious part of this status quo is that by asking for sex, men instantly eliminate the #1 component of erotic tension – power.

What happens in a healthy relationship: you screw her at any time and place of your choosing, at your will. The very act of taking her against her will, makes her wet for you immediately.

2) You routinely cook dinner or do the washing up

Many otherwise healthy men routinely cook for their wives. They have been fooled into thinking “I enjoy cooking”, as they attempt to self-rationalise their shameful femininised behaviour.

Think about it from a different perspective. What other, more enjoyable and masculine activities could you be doing whilst your wife is cooking for you? You could be spending the time working on your business and other entrepreneurial activities, earning money! You could be be fixing up those odd jobs around the house that need doing. You could be training martial arts, preparing to defend your family against attackers, or teaching your son the importance of integrity and accountability! Why would a masterful man waste his valuable time in the kitchen?

Take a close look at what your wife is doing whilst you are cooking for her. Is she perhaps watching television – diluting her awareness of life in a sea of pitiful and malignant tripe – or wallowing in a glib and vapid ocean of foolish jibber jabber on Facebook? Or – let me guess – she is at work, or doing something relating to her career. All whilst you fill the traditional female role of staying in the kitchen and cooking food!

Sure, I enjoy cooking from time to time – I am an awesome chef. But I reserve my cooking skills for that rare occasion when I wish to demonstrate my mastery in that skill. My time on a routine basis provides a mu h more valuable return if invested elsewhere.

Don’t fool yourself that you enjoy cooking so much that you sacrifice your valuable time and thus your potential opportunities in life to do it. If that’s the case, become a professional chef. Professional chefs are the only exception to this rule.

What happens in a healthy relationship: the woman does all the cooking and cleaning and constantly looks for ways to improve her cooking to please you.

3) The world revolves around her career

This is a case guaranteed to be all too common!

If a couple has no children, there is no issue with the women having a job. However, this does not mean the entire world should resolve around her and her work!

If a couple have children, the women must put her career on ice until all the children are at school. Then, if she wishes, she can re-enter part time employment.

If the focus of her life is directed towards her job, what energy will she have left for you and the family?

Elevating her ‘career’ onto a special pedestal is the same as saying “I am more important than you”. For a women to prioritise her job is self-serving and narcissistic. By investing all her time in this ‘career’, she is investing all her time in herself.

In the natural world, a woman sacrifices herself for the long-term benefit of her family. She deploys her natural nurturing and care-giving instincts, for the betterment of the bloodline.

What happens in a healthy relationship: if the women works, it is a distant last-place to the needs of the family. Her world revolves around you and she loves it.

4) She expects you to follow her orders

I see it day after day. When you remove the veil from your eyes and behold the truth, you will see it too.

Men walking in the supermarket, as if on leashes. Their wives walk them as if dogs.

Whilst you unwittingly entered the relationship placing your trust in the theory of “equal rights”, the practice is far different. Women will rush to fill the power vacuum left in the absence of your natural male dominance and will literally begin to tell you what to do. It may start slowly, but it is a rapidly descending slope.

This may come in the form of direct orders, or dominantly phrased rhetoric questions, e.g., “Could you go and do this for me, honey?”

The reality is that women want to be told what to do and if you assert yourself as a good husband in this regard, she will be happier than ever before.

What happens in a healthy relationship: she does exactly as you tell her to do and if she needs something of you she requests it politely and respectfully.

5) She continually nags you

There is nothing more insidious in a women than nagging. This is exactly why men must spank their wives, to combat such emasculating and rude behaviour.

The media has steadily fed men the lie that “nagging” is somehow natural and expected. We have been programmed to believe that a wife is naturally a ‘ball and chain’ that will constantly ‘nag’ her foolish husband, who is ‘deserving’ of this derision. The implication is that the husband is weak and is being justly apprehended by his wife for this fact.

In fact, the complete opposite is true. A man takes the lead in providing for his family and his wife is there to offer her every assistance to him. A good wife is like her husband’s Personal Assistant and should be continually thinking of ways she can help to drive forward the direction that the man has set for the family.

What happens in a healthy relationship: she continually supports your every effort with practical assistance where she can

6) She talks down to you

This can start so slowly that many men do not even realise it is happening.

What would be gasped at 50 years ago as unforgivable petulance and disrespect, is now routinely acknowledged as expected behaviour.

The situation is compounded by subliminal programming from the media, where men are portrayed as buffoons and women as heroes. I stopped listening to the radio or watching the TV a long time ago. Next time you are watching some ghastly shite via these mediums, pay close attention to the dynamic between male and female co-presenters. Chances are, the women openly mocks the man, deriding him and reducing him to an emasculated caricature of a true male.

Many men are so used to being on the receiving end of this disgusting behaviour, that it may come as a shock to them to find that a true woman does exactly the opposite. Rather than talking down to her man, she praises his leadership and valuable male characteristics. She looks upto him and regularly reminds him of what a great job he does providing for her and the family.

Can you imagine what you would be capable of with a women like this behind you?

This is still the norm in non-Westernised cultures such as Singapore and India.

What happens in a healthy relationship: she lovingly praises and supports you, like your own personal cheer leader.

7) She won’t allow you to make decisions

One of a man’s most fundamental roles in a relationship is as the decision maker. He is entrusted to consider the greater good of the family. He is entrusted to follow his instincts for the long-term prosperity and survival of his bloodline. Whilst a man may often seek his woman’s input or guidance on major life decisions, ultimately the decision is his.

By claiming ‘veto’ rights on the basis of an ‘equal relationship’ where “everybody contributes the same”, the sly women establishes an unhealthy power framework where she has eroded the man’s most fundamental and valuable contribution to the relationship. A relationship is not a jury or a council committee, where votes are taken. A relationship is an exchange of power and resources, based on agreed terms.

Millions of modern men are living unhappy and emasculated lives, as they have naively forfeited one of the principal tenets of their masculinity: the ability to lead and direct a family.

The truth is that a good women wants to be lead by a good husband and will trust in him to make good decisions.

What happens in a healthy relationship: the man makes the decisions, based on his strategic direction for the family and in consultation with his women where he deems fit.