It's funny - the Romans persecuted the Christians for a couple hundred years and Christianity was not taught among the elite and yet it took root there because Christians - individual Christians - lived out their faith even if they couldn't express it openly. Christian children were raised in Roman homes where, outside, they were expected to show reverence to the gods. And I'm sure, if they valued their skins, that's exactly what they did. And yet they remained Christian.
Why do secular people, including atheists, generally have respect for the Amish? Granted, certain of their activities are immoral, such as their puppy mills - no group is perfect - but in the main, people seem to have respect for the Amish. My own theory is rather simple: they live out there faith in real time, all the time. You know they're Amish by how they dress, both men and women. You know they're Amish by how they act. You know they're Amish by how they support members of their own colonies.
But nothing, aside from the occasional Bible quote, separates average American Christians from average American conservatives. They walk in lock step politically. Even when the politics of conservatism branch away from what the politics of Christianity should be, the vast majority of American Christians still vote conservative. Trump, the lying, hateful idiot was endorsed by nearly every major mega church preacher. There are even pictures of them putting their hands on him as if he were their modern golden calf - an idol. American Christianity generates disgust in people because American Christians don't act like Christians, and that includes you Scott Lively, Kirk Cameron, MTG, Cawthorne...the list of professed Christians who don't act Christian in the least goes on and on and on. They claim to hate homosexuality because it's in the Bible to do that but they don't follow any of its other tenets. The Bible belt looks a lot like Sodom did, if you take Ezekiel's claim seriously.
So, Christians! Be Christians. Don't support things that run contrary to biblical values, such as putting people in cages, or driving them to suicide, or voting against giving parents a stipend for baby formula, the proliferation of guns on the streets of the United States, or any of the other thousand things you do a day that makes you look not-Christian.
Of all the people who see you, your kids see you most. And they see the hypocrisy most clearly.