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Pamela Garfield-Jaeger #transphobia pittparents.com

Froggy Girl is a rhyming picture book about a little girl who wishes she was a frog, and her parents, teacher, and friends support her wish. However, despite their support, the girl still struggles because she realizes she couldn’t do all the froggy things which left her feeling sad and lonely. She then goes on a walk and meets a wise turtle that helps her appreciate herself as the beautiful little girl that she is.

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I was inspired to write Froggy Girl because I saw the countless number of books that lead children to believe that they were born wrong. Some books even teach kids that they are boring or invisible if they have a healthy relationship with their bodies.

Today, I put in a search for Children’s LGBT books into Amazon, here are a few titles that popped up: “Phoenix Goes to School, A Story to Support Transgender and Gender Diverse Children”, “Who are You? The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity”, “Eugene the Unicorn: A Kid’s Book to help start LGBTQ Inclusive Conversations”. “The Every Body Book: The LGBTQ+ inclusive Guide for Kids about Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families”, “My History, My Gender, Me”, “Love Lives Here: A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family”, “I’ve always wanted a daughter: A Memoir of Parenting a Transgender Child”, “She’s My Dad! A Story for Children Who have a Transgender Parent or Relative”, “My Awesome Brother: A children’s book about transgender acceptance”, “Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum”, …the list goes on and on.

I have no marketing team or big name publisher behind me like Scholastic, who published an entire education package for K-12 educators called “Read With Pride” in 2024, which has been distributed in schools and libraries nationwide. All of these LGBTQIA+ books are confusing for children and it’s disturbing.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I have two children, born twelve years apart. The oldest just turned 34. Two sons, Romulus and Remus, named for mythical strong sons of a single mother. Like I hoped they would be. But it was not to be.

My baby boys, my precious wolves, have fallen to the sheep. My oldest, Romulus, who I called as a baby "my little Caesar" turned out to be more of a Nero. Ever since he could walk he was trouble. The instant he turned 17 he ran away, and I was almost relieved. Left to raise my precious little Remus, who was much more peaceful and well-behaved without his older brother's deviant behavior. No longer did I have to deal with backtalk, insubordination, selfishness, long nights and early mornings. But it was not to be.

Just a few years ago, Romulus came back on behest of his therapist. By now he was seven years transitioned, with the full effects of estrogen on full display for all around to see and hear. His new voice was grotesque to my ears.

Remus, of course, the innocent boy that he is, was enamored with his older brother. The two struck up a delightful friendship, though Romulus remained cold to me. Or so I thought. I thought that perhaps, despite his transgender identification, despite his drug use and swearing, Romulus could be a beneficial role model for little Remus, who was going through a tough time at college. Romulus even lived just a half hour away from Remus's campus. They could be great friends, brothers. But it was not to be.

Because Romulus led Remus to the same ditch that he is in. While once Remus was perfectly content to be a normal young man, little Remus became a "stunning and brave lesbian womxn" at the ripe old age of 20.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

At some point, maybe when the boys got significantly bigger than me, I started to think of the three of them as “my guys,” my husband and my two sons. They thought and acted differently than I did, took up more space, and needed to behave differently in front of their peers. As the only woman in their lives, I considered it my duty to teach them how to act around women and accepted that bathroom humor and insults were part of the language they used among themselves.

They were my world and I loved them deeply. Now I am excluded from their group, not because they want to do “guy” things, but because my youngest says he wants to do “woman” things. He sometimes dresses in ill-fitting and unattractive dresses and says he wants to use the women’s bathroom. He says he has to take hormones so he can do these things. In my family women maintain contact with parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, organize family gatherings, and provide care for family members in need. My youngest does not do these things, nor do his father and brother. They do not even answer when I call and text.

I remember loving them, the smell of my children’s heads, joining in their fantasy games, and doing everything I could to be there when they needed me.

Peppercape #transphobia pittparents.com

Both my children were very active in scouts from the beginning and completed their highest honors. I remain an active adult in the program thirty years later in the venturing program. I love adventure and I treasured sharing it with my family. The happy family chapter closed 3 years ago with my daughter in the trans cult. Overnight, from kids that called her mom as the positive influence, to political left chaos. All she talked about was blue states and Bidens legacy. The heroes Biden called trans. Suddenly, she got tattoos and frequented the marijuana stores. She went from two jobs at age 23 to one then none and wanted "me time". She went from two degrees in a great job of five years to waiting tables then drugs. Her new room mate replaced the other, going be he pronouns. He and they, went as blue as could be into Newsome territory. It's been over two years since she moved, no contact of course with anyone here. She would be 27 later this year. Most people would never understand this kind of pain. I hurt and cry every single day. Barely existing. It sucks.

GenderRealistMom #homophobia #transphobia pittparents.com

Yes, first the gay pride rainbow became tainted and then pretty much any rainbow. When I saw a rainbow on a facebook group of Noahides, I flinched - even though it wasn't a gay pride rainbow but a religious symbol. I even flinched once when I saw pink-and-blue stripped sky as it reminded me of the progress flag. Trans cult destroys everything.

Sue-Z Homemaker #transphobia pittparents.com

My daughter was drawn into the trans cult by a young man, who was the catalyst of our estrangement, and I’ll admit, it’s been difficult not to direct much of my anger toward him in my heart. We feel betrayed and lied to. I believe he was toying with the idea long before he came clean with our daughter, and by then, she was deeply devoted. But if I’m being honest, I feel far more resentment toward his mother. Because while many kids get caught in the net of this ideology, I’ve believe there are really only two kinds of mothers in this equation.

There is the mother who deeply loves her child and may not know what’s right or how to protect them, but she wants to, and she tries. And then there is the kind who neglected her child, carries guilt for it, and sees their child’s “coming out” as a chance to absolve themselves—by becoming the most vocal, unquestioning cheerleader of all. That is the kind of mother he has. And that woman has replaced me in my daughter’s heart, acting as a fuel to keep the fires of division burning because we would not affirm her son. Admittedly, my heart is very hard towards her now.

But it’s accounts such as this that remind me not to let the hardness I feel toward her spill over onto others. I know that most mothers truly love their children and were blindsided by this movement, just as we were. And truly, my heart aches for all of us. Even those that affirm and cheerlead their own child’s demise. Sometimes I truly believe “they know not what they do.” And that helps me to extend grace.

Friends have tried to comfort me by saying, “At least it’s him and not your daughter.” But she loved him. She planned to marry him. For years, I thought of him as my son-to-be. And now, I grieve deeply for what seven years on estrogen—and their descent into pornography—has done to them both. He pressured her to disown us a couple of years ago, and then broke up with her six months later. But she still lives with him and helps facilitate his lifestyle as a “friend.” All of her hopes and dreams of being married and becoming a mother are gone now. And perhaps I should praise God that they didn’t produce a child to indoctrinate into the trans cult, because that would surely destroy me.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

It's been two years since our 41-year-old, married son called to tell us that he had decided the cause of the mental distress he had been experiencing is that he is in the wrong body. He informed us that, to remedy this, he had already started hormone therapy. He told me he had not seen a psychiatrist. He self-diagnosed and his primary care doctor went along with it.

I have worked in the mental health area for more than two decades. I have been trying to persuade him to visit a respected, well-known brain and neurological clinic near him, but he had refused. At that point, he cut me off but continued to talk or text with his father until last September when he cut him off as well.

Since then, our son has had two surgeries and is attempting to present as a woman. He is no longer Daddy to our granddaughter. Now she has two mommies. We have sent cards, gifts, and letters trying to let him know we will accept and love him but both he and his wife are non-responsive.

I know my son is struggling with a mood disorder and possibly schizophrenia but, in the present culture, there is no real help for him and others like him. While he was raised without any risk factors in our home, genetically we have some mental illness on each side of the family.

It is not the same as being able to bury and mourn a child. In that case, there is a cemetery plot to visit and community support. No, this is just M.I.A. We have sent our son into a hostile world and now he is missing!

Gilgamech #crackpot #dunning-kruger #kinkshaming #transphobia pittparents.com

I agree with the main thesis here but differ on most of the details. I would say that first person, realistic video games where you can choose the protagonist's gender, are AGP training systems for males specifically, and generally trans identity trainers. Very similarly to porn, they train the brain to eroticise a certain persona. In fact they eroticise an identity - in the sense it was used before trans, as well as its current sense. If you go back to Lara Croft, Tomb Raider, this is the deliberate eroticisation of male players projecting into an attractive female body, operating it while also voyeuristically observing it. This has been a staple of first person video games ever since. Within a decade or so this type of identification was leaking into porn, first of all edgy and specialised, later becoming mainstream and endemic. From there the fetish broke out into the real world as part of the general mainstreaming of fetish behaviour and porn behaviour. The current gaming world is still filled with male players who erotically connect with sexualised protagonists. This is a huge proportion of male gamers, maybe a majority. Millions of males, maybe tens or hundreds of millions, have been trained to have AGP sexual responses.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #wingnut pittparents.com

"Gender transition procedures are the lobotomy of our generation. This isn't healthcare - it's fringe science with no proven benefit and massive risks." - Dan Crenshaw

Congressman Dan Crenshaw’s website states that he serves Texas’s Second District. But, like any good Senator, he serves all Americans. He is putting science above ideology and calling for an end to taxpayer funded “gender affirming care” for ALL ages.

We live in a free society so adults are at liberty to alter their body as they wish, assuming they can find someone to do it. People can get plastic surgery, take body altering medications, or tattoo any body part they wish. But they cannot require the taxpayers to fund their non-medically necessary body alterations. Have at it but leave the rest of us alone. And “gender affirming care” is not only not medically necessary, it is harmful and regressive. No one is “born in the wrong body”. No one can change sex. Telling children and young adults otherwise has been the medical scandal our our lifetimes.

The Crenshaw Amendment would ban the use of Medicaid, CHIP, and Affordable Care Act funds for ALL so-called "gender-transition procedures." That includes puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, and irreversible surgeries like double mastectomies and genital reconstruction.

The amendment has officially passed the House as part of the “One, Big, Beautiful Bill.” There is a lot in this bill. It lives up to its name but this post concerns only one aspect - the end to taxpayer funded gender experiments.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

My daughter does not have a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC) but has now managed to get stronger supporting documentary evidence in the form of a licence. A driving licence is a core form of identification which is instantly accepted without question. It can therefore be used to easily change other aspects of her life to male, bypassing obtaining a GRC and at age 16. She has already changed her bank card to Mr and will, no doubt, be changing her passport soon.

She went to a Justice of Peace who signed a document she printed from a trans website stating she now has a new name, but thankfully the surname is the same. What is the point of a GRC if she can do this at 16? I noticed she had put Mr on this document and I said I don't think you can do that. I hope and pray the JoP said the same thing.

Instead of going through the process of a GRC, the DVLA (Driver and Vehicle Licensing Agency) has bypassed the important built-in safeguards and avoids any medical diagnosis, opinion or report and any time delay or 'lived in' time. I am devastated that this is the law.

Also, it is dangerous that this process circumvents the UK Equality Act and recent UK Supreme Court decision by changing a Miss to a Mr with no oversight whatsoever. This is harmful for my daughter and, in bypassing every societal protection and the Supreme Court's ruling, can be harmful for society.

She thinks that changing all these titles and her name will make her a 16-year-old man. This is a potentially harmful, scary, life-altering path enabled by lax policies within Government departments. It is also worrying and surprising that it has been so easy for her to do.

How is this sex deception allowed at age 16, especially given the new Supreme Court ruling? Also given the recent CASS Report about the dangers of social transition and the new guidelines being put in place to over 18-year-olds only?

Adri Mans #transphobia #conspiracy #fundie pittparents.com

Many doctors that treat these patients are transgender themselves and their motivation is convert more children to their situation, like generals that enlist more soldiers for a battle, more transgenders for the movement, more worshippers for the Trans cult, more patients for Big Pharma. At the end nobody cares about the damage souls and bodies, they are spoils of an old war.

Glad you share the video gaming topic because that is another way they get into your house, another tentacle, more demonic forces, but these spirits need human consent, so I am pretty sure at some point the video games ask for a consent to do something. I do not know much about gaming but I know about spiritual battles and I know at least one satanist and they use video games to normalize their activity, spells, hexes, etc. This is beyond if you believe or not in the spiritual world, they believe and they manipulate people and of course the ultimate goal is destruction.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

At the end of 2023, our son came home for the holidays and we immediately noticed something was off. He was extremely withdrawn, anxious, and heavily addicted to gaming.

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As we started to investigate, we discovered he had been using marijuana and secretly taking female hormones. When we confronted him, he first told my wife he was trans. The next day, he came to speak with me, and I told him we needed to talk honestly. I asked him to walk me through when and how he came to that conclusion because nothing in his upbringing or past behavior had ever indicated it.

Instead of opening up, he gave a scripted answer—something we had already seen echoed in online spaces: “Since I was 14.” It didn’t feel genuine. A parent knows. My son couldn’t even look me in the eyes when telling me this.

We later found out he was deeply involved in a niche, online gaming community that was almost entirely made up of LGBTQ and transgender-identifying individuals. He was also addicted to porn and anime, which seemed to fuel a lot of his fantasies and emotional confusion.

I tried to have an open and honest conversation with him about it, but he refused. He said, maybe he shouldn’t live under our roof anymore because he didn’t want to have to explain himself. In that moment, I realized he knew—deep down—that his story wouldn’t hold up to real, honest discussion. He chose to leave.

Jennifer D #homophobia #transphobia pittparents.com

[Responding to a transphobic article that mentions "internalized homophobia"]

But there are things which one should not be comfortable with, and one is homosexuality. Human beings were not made or intended to go down that route. The health risks are as real, and as much of a serious warning, as the health risks of trans.

Homosexuality in fact was the innocuous-seeming thin end of the wedge which has reached its monstrous full size in trans.

If indeed we can hope that there isn't something more monstrous yet still to come.

Broken Forever #transphobia pittparents.com

Thank you for the platform you provide. It makes me feel like I am not alone. Although I cry a majority of the time when reading the essays, they keep me from thinking that I am the crazy one. It’s heartbreaking, confusing, frustrating and deeply sickening to lose a child to this cult when I have worked so hard to raise a brilliant, gorgeous and passionate child. I know he is further gone with each passing day. I know it would be easier for me to cut the cord now rather than to pretend and watch his demise. I feel it’s utterly disrespectful for him to tell me that that son I once knew is now dead, when I am speaking directly to him. The daughter who I am now forced to accept is not who I signed up to parent and, frankly, I don’t want to pretend she is. I’m in a perpetual state of sadness and self-blame for not even knowing this was happening. I thought my son was in the good care of Brown University, an institution of higher learning. Who would have thought he was being brainwashed regarding his own sex?

I have recently decided to choose myself over his madness. I have been told to “f***off” for the last time by this person whom I used to love with every ounce of my being. I have zero support from anyone in my family and most of the people in my life never bring it up; maybe because they don’t want to upset me or they also hope it will just go away. I keep hoping for a reset to occur, but in my son’s (now “daughter's”) case, he just keeps falling further into the rabbit hole. The person I once knew since the inception of life I am told is dead, all while I’m still looking straight at him dressed like a freak with red lipstick in a tutu.

Matt Osborne, Mama Ain’t Playin’, asterisk, T. Lister #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

(Matt Osborne)
It's a gnostic cult. What sort of "social movement" threatens suicide? A cult. What sort of "social movement" recruits young people in secret, with false "doctrine"? A cult. Time for parents across America to recognize the cult as a cult, call it out as a cult, and refuse to let their children be enticed into the cult anymore.

(Mama Ain’t Playin’)
This is exactly what a butch lesbian acquaintance of mine said to me 5 years ago: "Mama, it's a cult." She saw it all happening for years within the lesbian bar & dating scene, with men pressuring these women to accept penises. Disgusting, homophobic, rapey nonsense has destroyed so many women's spaces, bodies, and their sense of reality.

(asterisk)
Lesbians are still speaking out against this. A lot of the opposition to this regressive, homophobic and sexist gender ideology is coming from gender non-conforming left-leaning lesbians.

A big part of the problem is that the mainstream media for whatever reason insists on painting all opposition as a "right wing religious" thing […] Breaking this forced teaming of the LGB and the T has got to be part of the way forward.

Thank you to the OP, I'm in Chicago myself and it's just nuts seeing how far this is going in the schools.

(T. Lister)
Some LGBs have been trying to get the T off the LGB but the T attacks and insists there 'will be no LGB w/o the T.' […] T so-called rights are really about legitimizing fetishes and fantasies. Those men and women already have rights as men and women but they want to appropriate the rights of a sex-class that is not theirs and it is primarily the women who lose when that happens not men.

(T. Lister)
Decades ago it was the lesbians who ran a bunch of pedos out of a gay pride parade. Todays lesbians are excluded for saying men can't be lesbian (the hetero cross-dressers AGP/tranvestic fetishists) and that lesbians don't have penises.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger #conspiracy pittparents.com

I have a pretty comfortable teaching career. I’m leaving it at the end of this year.

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After attempts to move the needle in my school district regarding gender ideology, I’ve concluded that I no longer have a clear conscience about working in a setting in which this issue affects me on an hourly (not daily – hourly) basis. And based on the publication that you’re reading this in, you can probably guess why.

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I remember a teacher meeting in 2015 in which a young arts instructor sitting next to me said to everyone that we should have all students introduce themselves with their pronouns and found that to be an odd way of advocating for the inclusion of the handful of students we had who might identify as a different gender.

Things kept evolving and, for awhile I thought it was mostly a new development among our young people. But then I saw information coming down the pipeline from the school district and eventually started to learn that my school district wasn’t going to just foster acceptance and tolerance—it was actually going to become a disseminator of the new ideology.

In late 2018, I opened my inbox to find an “integrity memo” stating that parental consent is not required to refer to students by a different name, pronoun, or gender. […] That seemed egregious. I passed this onto Abigail Shrier who then posted it on Twitter. I figured that this would bring some much-needed bad publicity to my school district and possibly pressure them to change their policies.

[skipping many, MANY fake stories]

My choice is to leave. And on my way out the door and beyond, I intend to make as many parents as possible aware of what is happening so that they can make a well-informed educational decision for their children. What will your decision be?

Times have clearly changed—but now, from the outside, I am going to do my best to blow the whistle and restore sanity to my once honorable profession.

Jane Doe #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

This sounds like my son. I never had him officially labeled. He's in his mid-twenties so ASD didn't seem like a label to pursue because it wouldn't benefit him in any way as a child. He developed obsessive interests and would drill down on topics to the point he could become a walking encyclopedia. He was kind, thoughtful, and very masculine in his preferences for how he dressed, hairstyle, etc. Rarely would you find him NOT wearing a plaid shirt, relaxed jeans and boots. He liked video games, DnD, computers, physics, chemistry. Then he went to college and COVID hit. It stressed him out totally. He saw a counselor through the school. Suddenly he was gay (never had any indication or a boyfriend or any interests in his peers in general) and then trans. He moved from blue plaid shirts to pink ones and relaxed jeans to skinny ones and girls boots. I'd like to wring the counselors neck and would love it if the next wildfire in the vicinity of the university allowed the whole place to burn down.

Scherer #transphobia #ableist pittparents.com

It makes a lot of sense that the nerds have all but disappeared. Neglected and avoided by their peers in the past, they are now "hanging out" with the new glitter unicorns where they are seen as Uber Cool. They are affirmed. They are embraced. They are celebrated. They are seen as being courageous for having the strength to become their "true & authentic selves". They are easy pickings for the Trans-ghouls.

I am not surprised that autistic children are entranced by the promises made by their new glitter family. So much adulation is wonderful. I also am not surprised that they are not able to foresee what the actual consequences of "transition" will be/might be. They are children. Non-autistic children cannot look into the future. Autistic children are even less able to do this due to their autism.

"Struggling South African mom" #transphobia pittparents.com

It's been four years since it all began. My daughter has a beard, a deep voice, a sunken, scarred chest and a body covered in hair. And that is just the part I can see. I have nightmares imagining the state of her internal organs.

We have an on-off relationship. If I slip up and say something unacceptable to her, she stops talking to me for months. I have to compromise all the time to keep our connection.

I am tired. So, so tired. I wish I could have a break from all of it, but this is my life. There is no way out.

My YouTube home page is filled with videos of detransitioners, whistle blowers, medical doctors, therapists etc. I feel overloaded and yet I can't stop listening to them.

My email is full of articles and sub stacks from Genspect, Bernard Lane, Sex matters, LGB Alliance and hundreds of others that I can't stop reading.

I have written many articles and letters to newspapers and magazines, most of which go unpublished, and yet I can't stop writing.

I argue on Facebook and post articles in response to all the pro-trans ideology propaganda even though it feels pointless.

Very few of my family and friends support me. They are either aggressively pro-trans or they are deathly silent.

Some friends try to convince me to accept my new 'son' and to use the pronouns she wants. I see red but I am too tired to argue any more. If another person asks, 'Why can't you just accept it and move on?' I will scream.

My family has been torn apart. My marriage is suffering from the fallout. My husband won't talk about it. He gets angry when I cry. My younger daughter rolls her eyes in frustration when I tell her about the effects of testosterone or about the misogyny and homophobia of trans activism.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

We all know a nerd. We all know when we need them, and when we want to avoid them. They’re handy with fixing the Ethernet connection; not so much with jazzing up the conversation at a work party. Married to a nerd? You’ll know.

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I dropped my dear child off at the elementary school, and watched the other kids run away to avoid being trapped in an intensely detailed conversation about the latest thing he’d picked up on. But nobody calls kids “nerds” these days. It’s a word you hear less and less. […] Are we witnessing… nerdocide? I don’t think it’s only the nerds. The same thing has happened to tomboys, too. Maybe I’m showing my age, but where are all the girls who dirt-bike? All the teenage girls I see these days look the same. Where are the girls in oil-stained overalls, talking about engine parts? And then there’s lesbians. A recent Gallup poll gives us some (nerdy) stats on this. The number of lesbians went up, all the way through the 1980s, the 1990s, the 2000s… but then it hit the down slope.

When I first saw this, it really didn’t make sense. We’re all getting more tolerant nowadays, right? So why the shift? I know that lesbians aren’t all tomboys (or vice versa), but it looks like they’re both heading in the same direction: south. I couldn’t help thinking it’s the same thing that’s happening to the nerds. But LGBT identification overall is going up. Way up. It’s not that there are more gay guys: it’s that there are more trans people, as well as categories we didn’t have until recently, like non-binary. There are even people who say they’re queer and straight, which really does make me feel old.

So, are these new LGBT people (even the straight queers!) actually just the nerds and the tomboys from back in the day? It feels like the two things at least might be linked.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I got a glimpse of my son. The one I knew from birth, into adulthood. The one I knew before you got onto a path that strikes fear in my heart upon awakening every day.

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You’re a good person. You were always a good kid. But you began to withdraw, and then suddenly burst forth with the announcement that you were now “transgender” - and fear consumed me. Penetrating, overwhelming, paralyzing terror.

It’s been hard to see you on this path because I know the risks. I know the dangers. And I know the science: gender cannot be changed with body alteration any more than it can be changed by declaration alone.

So, I’ve had an aversion to listening to your delusions. I’ve, shamefully, found myself dismissive of you because when you romanticize your newfound “identity,” it hurts me over and over again. When you inform me that someone else you know now knows about your “real self,” I cringe inside and try to change the subject or find a way to leave the room.

I’m not proud of it, but I can’t listen to your exuberance and feel the same faux joy you do.

But then there are times, like last night, when we find a connection that leads to prolonged conversation.

And I get a glimpse of the boy you were, and the man I had hoped you’d become.

The glimpse is joyous.

But when I am alone, left in its wake, reality shatters me all over again. And I wish it were more than just a glimpse.

churchmusiclady #transphobia pittparents.com

This is so true. Sometimes I feel like I'm living in "Invasion of the Body Snatchers," when everyone around you has been completely brainwashed and you just cannot believe what you're hearing. To make another movie analogy, it's like the part in "Soylent Green" when Charleton Heston screams, "Soylent Green is people! It's made from people!" and nobody wants to hear it, even though he is trying to open their eyes to an atrocity happening right in front of him.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Today is another of those bad days. It's been four years since it all began. My daughter has a beard, a deep voice, a sunken, scarred chest and a body covered in hair. And that is just the part I can see. I have nightmares imagining the state of her internal organs.

We have an on-off relationship. If I slip up and say something unacceptable to her, she stops talking to me for months. I have to compromise all the time to keep our connection. I am tired. So, so tired. I wish I could have a break from all of it, but this is my life. There is no way out.

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I have written many articles and letters to newspapers and magazines, most of which go unpublished, and yet I can't stop writing. I argue on Facebook and post articles in response to all the pro-trans ideology propaganda even though it feels pointless.

Very few of my family and friends support me. They are either aggressively pro-trans or they are deathly silent. Some friends try to convince me to accept my new 'son' and to use the pronouns she wants. I see red but I am too tired to argue any more. If another person asks, 'Why can't you just accept it and move on?' I will scream.

Two of my three sisters get angry, tearful and defensive when I show them any articles that challenge the 'gender affirmative care’ model. They loudly and proudly refer to my daughter as 'him'. My mother is old and frail. She wants a relationship with her granddaughter so she acquiesces and will accept her as a 'him.' She is mainly concerned about her own health and about the children of Gaza.

Hippiesq #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

It is reprehensible to tell children their bodies are wrong and should be rejected, and to convince them, not only to hate their bodies, but to actually consent to let doctors cut off healthy body parts and disrupt endocrine systems in a vain effort to achieve greater happiness and peace of mind.

What makes these horrific actions even more disturbing is the pretense that this is being done out of love and care. When the perpetrators are allowed to convince others that anyone who tries to protect these children is the enemy, we know the world has turned upside down. In the upside-down world, friends and neighbors fight to allow the perpetrators of these atrocities to continue their crimes unimpeded, while silencing anyone who objects. Those who caution medical providers against immediately halting puberty, introducing cross-sex hormones or cutting off healthy body parts are seen as “transphobes.” Suggesting that teens who feel uncomfortable in their bodies might benefit from therapy to align their minds with their bodies is endorsing “conversion therapy.” Concern about sterility, sexual dysfunction, incontinence, infection, bone density problems, increased risk of stroke or heart attack, cancer, liver or kidney failure is somehow hateful. In upside down world, wrong is right, bad is good, and harm is care.

The best way to stop this psychological and bodily harm to our children is to let the world know what is really happening. We have to make it clear that the medical interventions involved in “gender affirming care” are not “lifesaving” and will, in varying degrees, make everyone who receives such interventions less healthy. We have to make it clear that the path to finding one’s authentic self is not forged through drastic cosmetic alterations in the form of toxic chemicals and invasive surgeries. any more than it is forged through rejection of one’s body and denial of biological reality.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Well, my world changed forever about two years ago when my smart, beautiful, self-confident, extraordinary girl crashed and burned in the next room and was “saved” by a transgender identity. Yes, my girl, with no history of issues with being a girl, suddenly decided that her whole life had been a lie, a secret, and that she “had always known but was too afraid to say anything”.

[...]

When she threatened to harm herself to get out of a girl’s soccer game, I told her I would have to take her to the psych ward if she made good on that threat. We went to gender therapists, met with specialists, consulted with cult experts. My husband called twenty psychologists, most of whom told us that she was unlikely to change her mind. I attributed this to the recent passage of a bill in my state that forbade discussion of gender identity with minors.

My husband really wanted to go Full Hungarian (a phrase that came out of a support group for parents like us where one mother, a Hungarian woman, didn’t give into anything and actively badgered her kid until she desisted). Based on all the people we had met with, that was unlikely to work and would very likely strain our relationship
with her. Things kept ramping up and I became overwhelmed with managing my spouse, my younger child and pretending everything was normal to our friends, despite the obvious and sudden change in our daughter's appearance.

[...]

I am not trying to be dramatic or play the victim card. I am just expressing what this experience feels like firsthand, for all of those people who have no idea. It feels like she is edging closer to death every day that her 18th birthday draws nearer. Death by Testosterone. Death by double mastectomy. Death by self-annihilation. It is unbearable to think about the future. It turns out that my prayers were ignored.

Unnamed PITT narcissist #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

The county of Los Angeles has just agreed to pay $4 billion to settle 6,800 claims of childhood sexual abuse that allegedly occurred inside its juvenile facilities and foster homes. It’s the largest sex abuse settlement in US history1

What could this mean for us, the truth-telling parents of trans-identified kids?

LA didn’t set out to hurt these kids; their crime was one of omission, of failing to check carefully enough.

Compare and contrast: today it is the deliberate, explicit, gleeful policy of The State of California (and other states, including NY and CO) to hide and enable and assist in harming trans-identified kids. They passed laws to make it a crime not to aid in trans-ing a kid. These states threaten to remove kids from their loving families and put them… into foster care.

Foster kids were among the first to receive “gender-affirming care.” How could this happen? Germany has asked this question regarding the Kentler Project, which from the 1970s through 1990s intentionally placed foster kids with known pedophiles who’d love and understand them. (Does this sound to you like the glitter families of today?)

A century ago, fueled by the exciting and idealistic new fake science of eugenics, progressives in CA carried out state-sponsored, legal, compulsory sterilizations. There were no significant consequences. Let’s not repeat that mistake under today’s exciting and idealistic new fake science of gender theory.

Like many of you, I dream of the day we see the Nuremberg-style trials of gender criminals. In the original Nuremberg Trials, American judges hanged doctors for crimes that included performing experimental medical procedures without informed consent.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

What could this mean for us, the truth-telling parents of trans-identified kids?

LA didn’t set out to hurt these kids; their crime was one of omission, of failing to check carefully enough. Compare and contrast: today it is the deliberate, explicit, gleeful policy of The State of California (and other states, including NY and CO) to hide and enable and assist in harming trans-identified kids. They passed laws to make it a crime not to aid in trans-ing a kid. These states threaten to remove kids from their loving families and put them… into foster care.

[...]

Hmm...

EyesOpen #conxpiracy #transphobia pittparents.com

I have been troubled for several years now as I have heard story after story of parent-child estrangements. In particular, I’m concerned about the surge in estrangements that stem from kids who are taught that going “no contact” is an appropriate “punishment” for parents who hold a different perspective or can’t be controlled under the new rules the kids are dictating in the family dynamics.

[…]

She [Rachel Haack, an online therapist] goes on to say that she sees it in the way people talk about parents now, “not as human beings with flaws and histories, but as emotional liabilities. ‘My mom is so toxic.’ ‘My dad’s a narcissist.’ Every difficult relationship gets pathologized. Every mistake gets turned into a trauma label.”

[Haack]

How is it that so many kids have seemingly ingested this concept and have such negative attitudes toward their parents? Were they given a playbook promoting that perspective? What are the deeper causations or motives in devaluing parents and potentially discarding family relationships?

[more Haack]

Sometimes, estrangement is the best option to break a cycle of abuse. But now, it is also used as a method to cut off discomfort and conversations that are hard and take courage. Now, loving parents are lumped in with truly abusive parents. “They all just need to go!” might be the motto. “And also discard grandparents, aunts, uncles, and the whole family. Choose a better one!”

[…]

And now, I will dip my toe in the water of what gender ideology has done to families worldwide. Many still do not understand this ideology’s far-reaching impact on the parent-child bond and family structure. […] It seems to be a badge of honor to disown one’s parents for their lack of affirmation for cross-sex identification. Why are some groups within the fields of law, education, and medicine—who believe in gender ideology—taking away the rights and undermining the abilities of parents to protect their children? […] Who gains from isolating and manipulating the child?

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

In the near future…..

A local office of the American Academy of Pediatrics is in crisis. The building is surrounded by an angry crowd. The director of the office yells for his assistant. “Terry, get in here! Who are all those demonstrators? The building is surrounded!”

“Doctor - It’s the FBI. They are demanding entrance to our office. Our security guard has stopped them for the moment, but they will be here any minute. They want to see you. There are also members of the press and parents of some of our patients. The parents are carrying signs that say, ‘Stop Transing Our Kids’.”

The doctor froze and immediately went pale. “Oh my god…Help me shred the records of all our trans patients. We can’t have any incriminating evidence in our offices. Get online and start deleting the electronic records of all trans kids.”

“I’m sorry doctor; our internet connection has been severed and cell phone service is blocked. We can’t access our electronic records.”

“Oh, that’s terrible! Well at least we can shred these paper records.”

“Doctor, why are you destroying the records of all our trans patients?”

“The gender treatments and experiments on children overseen by the American Academy of Pediatrics have never been shown to help children. We keep sponsoring studies, but the studies never show positive results. In fact, children are always much worse after our treatments.

[...]

A few minutes later, FBI agents carry boxes of documents out of the building. The rest of the crowd starts to get agitated. People start yelling, “Lock up the AAP doctors!”. The crowd cheers. Children everywhere are safer now that the doctors are being taken away.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

When reading “Oh Where, Oh Where Has My Little Dog Gone?” by Iza Trapani to our grandson, I was struck by the similarities to our son’s estrangement. Below is a revision with the same happy ending we long for and the cycle we so often see.

Oh, where, oh where has my lovely son gone?
Oh where, oh where can he be?
With his hair grown long and his life cut short,
Oh where, oh where can he be?

Perhaps I shouldn’t have questioned him when
He said he was not my son.
But I had to stand for what’s right and wrong.
And abide true to the One.

His feelings must have been terribly hurt.
His heart was filled with dismay.
So he grabbed his phone and his laptop too,
And then my son ran away.

Suzie Homemaker, Beeswax, Hippiesq, conversations4growth #fundie #wingnut #transphobia pittparents.com

(Suzie Homemaker)
The mental manipulation and gaslighting is so abusive and demented. I don’t know what happened to parents who do this, but it’s a mental health crisis for more than the children caught up in this net. These parents are deranged and ideologically captured by a lie.

(Suzie Homemaker)
I understand that it can be challenging to question expert advice, especially when it comes from professionals we’re expected to trust. [...] The responsibility rests solely with us as parents to advocate for our children’s well-being. And those parents who have failed to do so, those who offer “I was just following the experts” as an excuse for their abdication of this great moral responsibility will find that history has proven such to be inexcusable, unforgivable.

(Beeswax)
…especially when the experts tell you your child will definitely kill himself if you don’t accommodate his need to change his “gender.” Proof, anyone? I thought not.

There’s nothing more evil and effective than the suicide myth.

(Suzie Homemaker)
I couldn’t agree more. The suicide line is pure propaganda and gaslighting, nothing more than blatant fear-mongering, as the actual SCIENCE says the exact opposite. Kids are MORE likely to commit suicide when medically affirmed than not.

(Beeswax)
[long winded ad for another detranser]

(Suzie Homemaker)
In deed, she has a powerful voice and message. And many more like her are beginning to rise and find their voices.

(Hippiesq)
"Just following the experts" is way too close to "just following orders," and doesn't sit well with me.

(Suzie Homemaker)
Absolutely agree!

(conversations4growth)
I think doctors and psychologists happened, along with documentaries like the one mentioned. We are taught to trust science, doctors, and psychologists. [...] Some know better and lied for personal gain. Others may think they are doing the right thing. I do also think this is tied to other cultural things that seem related to a certain extent, although less extreme. [...]

Unnamed PITT narcissist #fundie #transphobia pittparents.com

Attention: […] “professionals” who employ junk science and false claims to justify the barbaric practice of chemically castrating and surgically maiming children; […] – Get ready! […] Pam Bondi and the Department of Justice are coming for you!

On April 22, 2025, AG Bondi released a memorandum

[…]

She reveals that every day she hears “harrowing stories” of the suffering caused by the “unconscionable ideology behind ‘gender-affirming care’” and promises that under her leadership “the Department of Justice will bring these practices to an end”.

AG Bondi promises to:

I. Direct all U.S. Attorneys to investigate all suspected cases of female genital mutilation performed under the banner of so-called “gender affirming care” or otherwise, and to prosecute all offenses to the fullest extent possible.

II. Investigate and hold accountable medical providers and pharmaceutical companies that mislead the public about the long-term side effects of chemical and surgical mutilation.

III. Identify and purge all Department policies, memoranda, and publications and court filings based on WPATH guidelines.

IV. Launch the Attorney General’s Coalition Against Child Mutilation and partner with state attorney’s general to identify leads, share intelligence, and build cases against hospitals and practitioners violating federal or state laws banning female genitalia mutilation and other, related practices.

V. Instruct the Office of Legislative Affairs to draft legislation creating a private right of action for children and the parents of children whose healthy body have been damaged and establish a long statute of limitations and retroactive liability, so that no one providing “treatment” will escape liability.

PITT Parents, could it be that this is the moment when the tide finally turns once and for all? […] Will our children finally understand that our actions are based in unconditional love for them? Do we dare hope that, at long last, this barbaric medical scandal will come to an end?

LostMum, Anon, PhDBiologistMom #transphobia #wingnut #fundie pittparents.com

[Emojis and emoji-only comments removed]

(LostMum)
Please, send some common sense to Australia, we're always the last to the party!! And yes, it's a wonderful change of tack but too late for all the children who what been harmed and for the families that have been broken

(Anon)
Feel for you, I am so saddened when I read about Australia’s journey in this mess. You have a fight on your hands.

(PhDBiologistMom)
Canada too.

(Anon)
So that has been interesting. Perhaps I’ve done some good today. In researching the Carney kids on Grok their AI was using they/them pronouns. My comments about implied bias about which there is no universal consensus have been flagged. They tailored their responses for me specifically to avoid using pronouns altogether. My feedback is that Grok adopts this as a default approach for any user. In using they/them they are taking sides. I wish to advocate for truth, not preference

(Anon)
Yup..for years now. So sorry.

(PhDBiologistMom)
Oh I’m not there. But I read about it. And of course the new PM has a child who’s been sucked into the whole thing.

PITT narcissist #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

Honestly, we don't know what happened. […] I found he had a bag of girl’s clothes belonging to his sister and me. This was our first real red flag. His Dad and I sat him down to talk and eventually he said he wanted to be a girl. This was completely out of left field as he had never acted feminine or shown interest in feminine things.

[…]

Our degrees in Nursing and Psychology didn't prepare us for this blatant disregard of basic science. […] attempting to find counseling that wasn't affirming or even trying to congratulate us on our "newly awoken daughter". We finally discovered a ROGD support group and found a local psychologist for our son to speak with weekly.

[…]

Should we had been harsher? Taken away all his communication?

[…]

He would see the world is big and wonderful and life was just beginning! Two days later, around one in the morning, I got up to use the bathroom. His bedroom light was on, and I opened the door to turn it off. He was gone. […] His window was open, and he had somehow evaded the front porch camera.

[…]

Both of their children were "different", their daughter even wanted to be a cat. I remember feeling so violated, so sick to my stomach, that two self-proclaimed "Christian" people would find their actions not only acceptable but laudable. I know what hate really is now.

[…]

I tried to fight the school system […] After all, Meghan worked for the system...how is it okay for her to groom an underage child to fool his parents and set up a totally new future? […] I tried the court system. Maybe I could have him declared incompetent? The appointed lawyer for Jake painted a picture of suppression of his feelings and wants, basically saying we were poor parents.

[…]

I haven't been well in a long time. […] I lost 20 pounds. I will admit that I think about just being done with life. [...] Nothing changes and the little boy in the pictures on my walls and on my phone keeps smiling. And a piece of me dies each day.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

The point is, we're deluded if we think that we're any better or more inherently moral than anyone living in the Aztec Empire or Norse Scandinavia a thousand years ago. But we are better than them, right? We must be! In a way, maybe. We understand that throwing infants off of cliffs or cutting the hearts out of hundreds of people isn't going to ensure that the sun won't disappear forever below the horizon and the rains will return. But being virtually the same as them, what are we doing now that's equally as irrational and destructive as our ancestors? Aren't we essentially sacrificing some not insignificant proportion of our children to equally amorphous and unknowable gods? The God/Goddess/They-ness of Gender is something that, if you ask ten different gender ideologues what it is, you will get ten different answers, none of them making any sense.

[...]

What difference is there between some child bravely declaring their willingness to have their heart cut out or their throat slit to appease Huitzilopochtli and some teen “bravely” going under the knife to appease some ill-defined, ineffable Gender God and then dancing around in a Tic-Tok video showing off their mastectomy scars? I don't see much of a difference at all. And the people doing the sacrificing this time around are spouting the same nonsense and thinking the same irrational thoughts the priests in the temples were thinking in the past, that they are sacrificing the child's body to save their soul. Sure, the one in the past would be good and dead after the deed was done, but the modern one, maybe after having their puberty disrupted, and looking forward to a lifetime of subservience to Big Pharma and probably more surgeries, loss of fertility and sexual pleasure. Haven't they entered a kind of living-death netherworld?

Society is slowly waking up to this reality, but very slowly in the U.S., and I worry that the recent gains in stopping this sort of sacrificing of children are going to drive the “affirming therapists” and their criminal surgical compatriots underground. It's not as preposterous as it might sound. Look at the “timeline of ritual human sacrifice” and how it extends into our present time, it's like they just can't help it. Some people just feel the urge to kill some other people for nebulous reasons.

Another PITT-y partier #transphobia #crackpot pittparents.com

While I may be a TERF, I did not make this up. A quarter of the girls in my kid’s class identify as boys. One of them has had four names this year, all from anime series.

I keep seeing people say, both on the hell-site Twitter and in the popular media, that the trans population is a tiny minority, less than 0.1% of the population. If that is true, what is going on at my child’s school?

[…]

The first issue is with what the school is teaching children. My daughter’s trans identity started when the school taught a module on ‘identity’ during which they told a group of 11-year-olds that, if you feel uncomfortable in your body, it means you are transgender. My daughter had just had her first period two months prior to this class. Of course she was feeling uncomfortable in her body. She went home, looked up ‘transgender’ on Tiktok, and that was it. She was now trans.

The second issue is a related one, and that is to do with the school’s non-stop celebration of LGBTQI+ identities. […] But in the last two to three years, this has meant a relentless stream of identity flags and rainbows. […] I’m no prude, but I also don’t think a constant parade of sexual politics is appropriate for such young children.

[…]

([…] My child’s name and pronouns were changed by the school without my knowledge. We didn’t get so much as a phone call […])

[...]

When I spoke to the school about the harm they are doing, they would not hear it. They told me that they celebrate all identities, that they pride themselves on being inclusive. They cannot see the transgender issue as anything other than fun flags and inclusivity and respect. They do not see the dark side that we parents do: [made-up gore].

[…]

“I guess in the 90s, a lot of us were in anorexic friend groups,” said one mother. […] No school celebrated anorexia. But this time, the doctors and schools are helping the anorexics to diet.

A grief-stricken mother #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

[From a publicly released letter to a Father James Martin]

When I read Building a Bridge in 2017, I had only a vague understanding of trans ideology, much less for “queer”. Since then, I have learned more than I ever wanted to know about this topic because my young adult son with mental health issues now identifies as trans.

I belong to a support group for parents of trans-identified young adult males. All the parents love their children, some use their son’s new name, a few even use preferred pronouns, others provide financial support. No one has disowned their child, although their children may have gone no contact. Our sons are almost universally brilliant, many are on the autism spectrum, and some suffer from ADHD, social anxiety, body dysmorphia, and/or depression; all of which have gone untreated as doctors push “gender affirming care”.

[…]

The parents know that our sons are victims of the biggest medical scandal of our lifetime.

[…]

For queer theory, what is considered “normal” in society is actually oppressive, and true freedom requires breaking out of these oppressive norms”. Q is thus anti-family because we live in a society where families are normative.

[…] Psychologists who work in this space explain that when they treat homosexuals, they often focus on self-acceptance. However, patients who identify as transgender are encouraged to change everything about themselves, but they will fail because no one can truly change their sex. Worse, this medicalization does not even provide relief from gender dysphoria and diagnostic overshadowing means the underlying mental health conditions go untreated.

I do believe that we should respect the civil rights of transgender people without encouraging them down this pathway. [...] They should be welcomed in the Catholic Church, which teaches that the soul and body are inseparable.

[Advertising the PITT substack]

Some PITT-y partier #dunning-kruger #transphobia pittparents.com

Yes, Mothers Do Know Best
A Quick Guide to Helping Your Child Desist

<…>

You know your child best. If you feel that the recent months or years have weakened your good relationship with your child, drop everything and work on rebuilding it—it requires a focused effort, but it is not as difficult as you think. Remember that despite appearances, your child still needs his or her mom more than you think. Having an upset teen doesn’t mean that the core of your relationship is broken.

Your child is going through a normal unhappy adolescence and is attempting to individuate. The good thing is that this is all normal and healthy and thus will pass when this developmental phase evolves into the next. The bad thing is that the individuation via transgender identity is a maladaptive coping strategy and the entire world seems to affirm the delusion. This complicates things. Don’t get discouraged when your child doesn’t listen to facts and calls you transphobic. Teens all think that they know better, and while incredibly annoying, this is developmentally normal.

For goodness sake, do talk to your child about the facts. Yes, they will cry, yell, storm out, shut down, call your names—at first. This doesn’t mean that you should be tiptoeing around those big feelings and waiting until your child will magically realize they have been misled by a cult. They need the facts about biological reality like they need air. Their initial emotional reaction is entirely normal and this doesn’t mean that sharing facts is ineffective, unproductive, and should be avoided. Remember that your child still implicitly trusts you. They are still subconsciously immersed in the feeling that you are their Entire Universe. Your child will not change his or her mind based on a single video that you might share, but without this video or that article there will be no growth and no foundation on which to build their path to desistance.

A transphobic mom #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I have a son who’s been struggling with his gender identity. He claims that “he’s always known” that he is a girl. The rest of us are more than skeptical. My son is an awkward kid — albeit bright, compassionate, and sensitive. He’s also always been a boy – he was unambiguously born that way. As far as stereotypical behaviors go, he fits the profile of a boy as well <…> there were no signs of gender dysphoria at all.

He’s also never seemed confused about his sexuality. He’s been chasing girls since puberty, sending them texts, surprising them at their lockers with flowers and a Homecoming invite. He’s always been open about wanting a girlfriend and he always shared his crushes with me and his dad. Sadly, his crushes have been unrequited, and he’s been consistently relegated to friendzone status, even though all of his girl friends just “adore” him.

So, what’s a passionate, sweet, awkward boy to do? Try whatever it takes to get out of the friendzone and to get those girl friends’ attention! It started with one text to one of his closest girl friends; “I think I might have gender dysphoria”. At first, she ignored him - no reaction. So, he upped the ante, following up with a request to take him shopping for some dresses. Bingo! He had her attention. Teen girls just love a project! She applauded his choice and convinced him that he really was a girl.

<…>

Now we, his family, are left to help sort out this discarded young man’s distress. <…> And, now, having tasted the poison, my son wants more. Furthering the abusive pattern, he jumped back in, this time with a new cheerleader. Still in search of what started all of this…the attention of a girl.

Meanwhile, my son clings to this new approach, believing that being a girl is the only way to relate to the girls he’d love to attract. <…> Leading him to believe he’s something he can never become, and making him believe that a dress and a bra transitions him to become a female.

“Reality check” #fundie #transphobia pittparents.com

For the last four years it has felt like my children and I are living in completely different worlds. What started with the difference of opinion during COVID quickly escalated into the realization that we had developed totally opposing world views.

<…>

Time passed and things seems to be on the road to healing in my family, right up until spring of 2023 when a whole new nightmare appeared in my life with the sudden announced from my only son that he is “trans”! He told me that he discovered his new gender identity two years before, during lockdown in 2021, and he was quickly affirmed by his two proud, politically queer, social justice warrior sisters.

I was shocked! My first thought was maybe he is confused about his sexuality. To my knowledge he has never been kissed. Between his awkward autistic personality and COVID isolation at a time when he should have been experiencing his sexual awaking while away at university, he has faced unfair challenges. But to decide he is a girl trapped in his healthy male body, that is IMPOSSIBLE.

<…>

Being told the bizarre impossibility that someone may have been “born in the wrong body”, and that it is just some kind of explainable, natural progression in human evolution is ridiculous! As is being told that you're a hateful bigot unless you affirm, accept, celebrate and go with the flow.

I really hadn't given this nonsense a whole lot of thought until it was standing in front of me in my kitchen, informing me that this is just how the world is now. My first reaction was “Don't be ridiculous, God doesn't put people in the wrong body!”

Suffering Mother #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I too thought my son was going thru an adolescent phase trying on his sisters clothes when we were not home. I didn’t seek psychological help because I thought it would blow over. He was such a manly guy. Tall, big chin, size 12 shoe, hairy body and sported a beard a few times. It never entered my mind he could go down this route I didn’t even know anything about “trans” ! Like your son he was handsome and very smart. Or at least I thought he was smart and raised a Catholic. Everyday I ask myself where did I go wrong? I do blame myself, maybe it was the divorce or something else I did. Going thru this all these years with no one to depend on has truly broken me. I haven’t remarried and spend my days wondering why? Why my family? My daughter got Type 1 diabetes at age 3, was that not enough pain for our family?

My son has rejected me again after a brief stint at Thanksgiving when I thought he was coming back. But he’s gone now and I don’t even know where he lives. Frankly I’m just so tired emotionally, physically and mentally. I can’t live the rest of my days overcome with sadness. I’m glad you have a husband and other children to lean on . My daughter has enabled my son’s delusion because she doesn’t want to lose him. But I could never speak an untruth just to make someone stick around even my biological son. I won’t contribute to his delusions even if it means not seeing him ever again. He made these choices, not me. He chose to go against God and run with demons. I can only pray for him and pray to St Monica to ask for intercession to send someone else to talk him back to sanity. He won’t listen to me.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

[From an article about the author's trans daughter, who moved in with an affirming family at 18]

Over the next couple of months, we learned that this family had relocated to another city. Our son was now sharing a room with their son and had plans to go to a budget college in state that they had helped him to apply for, including filling out the FAFSA. He didn't have his car or cell phone, and he was only communicating with his brother and friends. We also learned that these friends were more aware of the situation than we knew and that the family we saw as friends (we had helped them financially, with rides from school, with yard work just weeks before they sold their home), had been grooming Jake for almost a year. Both of their children were "different", their daughter even wanted to be a cat. I remember feeling so violated, so sick to my stomach, that two self-proclaimed "Christian" people would find their actions not only acceptable but laudable. I know what hate really is now. I don't know why God allowed this.

[...]

I haven't been well in a long time. I saw my doctor and got medicine. It doesn’t seem to help but, hey, I lost 20 pounds. I will admit that I think about just being done with life. I'm honestly tired. My husband and daughter want me to let him go. My son says he tells Jake that I love him, but he won’t let me speak directly to Jake or meet up with them if Jake happens to be in town. Nothing changes and the little boy in the pictures on my walls and on my phone keeps smiling. And a piece of me dies each day.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

I have endured four birthdays since my son was seduced by the heinous trans cult at 19. On his twenty-third birthday, my husband was unaware of this special day we shared. I did not remind him about his son's birthday, as I knew it would heighten his daily pain and anger. So for the day that would have been celebratory in a sane world, I shouldered alone my tender grief. The birthday of my son is also my birth - day. Along with my son, my memory has been stolen of the joyous welcoming of my healthy infant son. As this essay elequently expresses, for PITT parents there are jolts of even more pain throughout the years that are visceral markers of our cruel alienation from a precious child with whom we once shared a loving relationship. Our primal ambiguous loss is beyond sad.

Lisa Guadagna #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I have a trans son who claims to be a girl. We see him for dinner every month and I always get in trouble for using the wrong pronouns. Although I voted for Trump for this and for MAHA. Trans ideas of injecting and swallowing all kinds of substances and not even questioning if that is healthy is sinister. I also voted for trump because of the dictatorial powers in forcing injections to keep a job and hen my eyes were opened to media propaganda. Yes I am beginning to read about cults because the trans ideology has so many of those characteristics. By understanding their techniques I am better equipped to fight.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

It's been nearly six years since my daughter's announcement. For four years before that, there had been a drastic change in her attitude, her appearance, her interests. She has spent half of her life being one person, and half being another. It destabilized me for a long time.

[...]

In April 2023, a month before she turned 20, she took her first shot of testosterone. My anxiety, bordering on panic, became a deep depression. Now, every time she speaks, her once-beautiful voice cracks like a teenage boy. I wince every time I hear it. People have noticed. She's probably noticed. I'm OK with that. I get to be in pain, too, and my pain matters. I have no idea what parts of her future she's taken away by this decision, but I wonder, and it makes me so desperately sad.

The election of Donald Trump gave me a small boost that sense would finally arrive. I had, however, been demoralized by a decade of having my reality turned upside down, my language policed, my parental agency robbed, and watching an entire culture, particularly the college-indoctrinated waters that I somewhat swim in, cheer the whole thing on as if my destruction and that of my beloved daughter constituted cause for celebration. I didn't really believe change would happen. One month has changed me.

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Now, when family members, friends and acquaintances rail against Trump, I point out that it's he, not the Democratic Party, who is trying to protect young people from medical experimentation and long-term harm. I point out that this sinister medical regime only exists because of the patronage and protection of the Democrats. I understand that Trump is polarizing, has not lived a virtuous private life, and has said and done things, and stands for things that I and many others don’t care for. Yet I voted for one reason: to protect my daughter and thousands of other young people from this dark period in the history of medicine.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I recently tried to have The Talk. As a lifelong liberal Democrat, most people in my social circle are also liberal Democrats. Most of them don’t know my son is trans identifying. That is, I haven’t made any mention of it. I. Do. Not. Talk. About. It.

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The first time was a few years ago, when my friend L. was reminiscing about our shared love for Harry Potter. She brought it up, and she had previously in the evening mentioned that she thought perhaps COVID did come from a lab leak after all. “Aha!” I thought. “A crack! Maybe she’s open to hearing about my perspective as the parent of an ROGD autistic boy. Maybe she even already agrees with me!” I became cautiously excited. My adrenalin started to race. She asked me; what did I think about J. K. Rowling now, given her recent comments? I took a breath. I contemplated lying. I decided I was sick and tired of not speaking up. I said: “I agree with her.”

It was like all the air was sucked out of the room. I instantly knew she did not agree with J. K., or with me. I felt the portcullis crash down. It was like I could hear her thoughts - “Oh, she’s just not informed on the subject. I must educate her. Poor lost soul.” I wanted to say - oh honey. I know you think you are ahead of me. But you are not.

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I did not vote for Trump, but I was relieved when he won. I am so happy about the Executive Orders to stop the dangerous gender non-sense. But my Trump-euphoria is beginning to wane, because people like my friends, smart, compassionate people, think anything he says must be wrong because he said it. They cannot evaluate anything he does on its own merits. We’re in for a long four years.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

In addition, gender confusion is ubiquitous on the internet, children’s TV programs and story time at the local library. Will this new generation get indoctrinated at an even younger age than my kids were? How do we undo these ideas once implanted in my grandkid’s minds? It is so concerning. The trans agenda is already infecting the next generation.

How can I handle this psychologically? I now have even more eggshells to walk on. Listening to my other kids refer to their younger brother with his new legal, female name is quite distressing. Having his older sister and brother-in-law (both of whom he admires) affirm his delusion is already heartbreaking for me. But their son doing the same is even worse. Moving this mass hysteria into the next generation of my family feels almost unbearable. This is another big step in erasing my son. Certainly, it is a big step toward rewriting my family history.

I have struggled through these awful years to hang onto my son’s existence in my own mind. Despite his appearance, name change, and affirmation from those around him I have been able to hold onto a sliver of the boy I raised. I am so scared that the sliver will slip away and the hole in my life, in the shape of my son will widen. I should be able to enjoy my precious grandchildren without sadness and resentment. If they are forced by their parents to refer to my son with his trans identity then I’m in a situation where being with them becomes painful. How sad is that?

An anonymous detransitioner #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I'm 74 years old, have four children, four stepchildren and eight grandchildren, soon to be nine. Yet I was transgender for 15 years, between the ages of 12 and 26. It was a painful and unforgettable experience during which I was obsessed with not letting my trans-identity show through effeminate behaviour or a spontaneous reaction that would betray my homosexual tendencies. I mention it here because, at my age, you have to ask yourself what you want to do before you die. Well, I want to pass on my story to tell young people suffering from gender dysphoria that there are at least three ways of dealing with the pain of gender dysphoria:

1) Resigning oneself to living with dysphoria.

2) Changing one's body to match their mind via hormone therapy and surgery.

3) Reconciling your psychological identity with the biological identity of your sex with help from a qualified therapist. Today, this third path has become a new taboo called ‘conversion therapy’. It's a mistake to make it a new taboo, even if a famous documentary on the subject has mixed conversion therapy with exorcism, guilt-tripping speeches, group prayers and behaviourist therapies from another age, as well as some legitimate and honest speeches, with a certain amount of bad faith.

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My experience seems to prove that there is a third way, which I call ‘reconciliation therapy’ between gender identity and sexual identity (not to be confused with ‘conversion therapy’). Yes, psychological identity is a flexible thing and there are therapies that allow you to change not only your behaviour, but also your self-image in the eyes of yourself and others.

F is for Feminist, Annie J., Alan rose #transphobia pittparents.com

(F is for Feminist)
Why should your daughter, in order to be a girl, have to present herself in the restrictive, out-dated, stereotyped trappings of a girl? That is part of the problem. [...] The trans-mob is one of the most repressive, hetero-normative, stereotyping, misogynist, anti-feminist, anti-lesbian/gay movements to ever exist and be so far reaching. Yes, fight back for your children but not by being trapped by gender stereotyping.

(Annie J.)
I agree with you, and this is what I tell my daughter. She first came out to me as bisexual, and I accepted her as so. I love her no matter what. Then she told me she was "pansexual", then it changed eventually to trans. I supported her in those earlier years by telling her to be herself - dress how she wants, cut her hair how she wants - that's no big deal. She always had a style all her own, and that's part of what makes her special. However, this whole trans thing is insanity. You are so right about the trans-mob's anti-female (anti anything but 100% trans affirming) stance. It's awful, hateful, and unrealistic. I am sickened by what it is doing to our children and cannot understand how it started, nor how to stop it. I grew up a tomboy, had boy friends, did boy things (bb guns, tree climbing, baseball, football) - it drove my mom nuts but she let me be me. I grew up a well adjusted woman. It sickens me to know if I were a kid today, that I'd be groomed and put in the trans category.

(F is for Feminist)
Yes Annie J. I too was called a tomboy. I gravitated toward “boy” things. I feel so lucky that I was able to grow into the woman I am. Today, I would have been told I was “really a boy” and could have spent my youth with a mutilated body and a lifetime on hormones.

(Alan rose)
Genesis 1:27 And God created humankind in the divine image,

creating it in the image of God—

creating them male and female.

Allison #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

Here in rural Canada recognizing Trans ideology started with a parade and now its an entire month. Many stores put authorized/ official Trans posters up in the store. Some churches remove the Canadian flag replacing it for the Trans flag. ( They even include the colours for MAP - pedophiles aka minor attracted persons!) Next June I plan on contacting the stores displaying this support and insist they refrain or I will make a point of boycotting their store.