The majority of happily married men that I know basically take what amounts to a traditional head of household approach to how things are run - the man made the move in the relationship, made the decision to step to marriage, made the decision on buying a house, and makes many small decisions such as where to go to dinner. Of course, they want input from their wives and treat the decision-making process as being substantially predicated on making their wives happy, but they also certainly behave as though they know that their wives don’t want to make these decisions.
Well…it’s just an anecdote, of course, but for what it’s worth, I’m a guy whose parents have been married for close to 49 years now, I can say they’ve been happily married for the most part…and just from, ya know, knowing these people literally all my life, it seems like they’ve definitely mkade the big decisions “as a team” if you know what I mean. My mom wasn’t a “stay at home tradwife” ALL the time, also, she did work at times when I was growing up.
I’m not even gonna tell any couple if they wanna live with the man as “the head of the household” not to do that…hey, if that floats your boat, go for it, more power to you. Just don’t try to tell me that’s the way it should be for everyone or something.